The 5 Love Languages for Animals and Singles

Many of my clients in the past have come to me wondering if they’ll ever receive love in their life without a partner. Many people have heard of the 5 love languages, and this book is usually put in the context of already established couples. However many of us do not have a romantic partner but still need our love tank filled so that we feel happier and more content in our daily lives.

What if I told you that you can receive love outside a romantic relationship? Everyone has heard of the Five Love Languages. I always knew my primary love language in the past was spending time with someone, but what does one do when they’re single and are not receiving love from another actual physical person?

The 5 love languages are:

+ Acts of service

+ Physical touch

+ Giving gifts

+ Words of Affirmation

+ Quality Time

Suggestions:

Acts of Service (receiving)

+ Receive an energy healing or massage (also counts as physical touch)

+ Meditation with crystals asking healers (angels or higher) to help heal you. The higher on the scale like thrones, cherubim or seraphim are great if you are really feeling out of sorts. Work towards 15 minutes to an hour depending on where you are. Place a lot of black onyx and tourmaline along your legs and feet for reducing anxiety.

+ Go out to a restaurant or movie theater where you receive service without having to cleanup

+ Have someone else clean your home once a quarter or twice a year if you don’t currently have a service

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

Physical touch

+ You may already being using methods to achieve contentment or calm through touch. Some people cuddle with a blankie, pillow, or take a nap on a soft bed. Some rub their arms or put on scented lotion.

+ Receive a massage from a therapist

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

Giving / receiving gifts

+ Budget permitting, go online or in person shopping. Get yourself something nice, whether than is luxury soap, lotion, electronics, whatever you would like.

+ Give yourself a bubble bath and extra long shower with scents, duckies, whatever brings you happiness

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

Quality time

+ Spend quality time with friends you are comfortable with

+ Tell yourself you’re giving yourself “quality time” and do something on your own that won’t make you feel bad. Again make sure you won’t feel lonely with whatever you choose. Arts and crafts, going to the beach, go to a cafe, take a walk m, watch a movie and playing games are a few examples.

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

Words of affirmation

+ Use affirmations such as those in Louise Hay’s books based on areas in your body that hurt or choose your own. “I love myself”, “I am beautiful”, as well as other things you commonly beat yourself up on.

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

I was sitting and thinking about how when we don’t receive enough hugs or we haven’t taken some time off to relax, rest or receive physical touch that a lot of us can be in pain physically. One of my workarounds to this is to ask God for enough love so I don’t feel pain for 24 hours. I perform a visualization (with feeling) in the morning and I say “I have enough love in my life so don’t feel pain but I can still ground”. I found without that last piece about grounding that I would be ungrounded but feeling euphoric. This is not good if you have to focus and do some logical thinking. Staying grounded helps you think clearly, gets rid of that brain fog and be less anxious.

PETS TOO!!

Recently I had an intuitive revelation that it’s not just humans that are affected by the five love languages, but also animals.

Pets have similar Love Languages in that some cats and dogs like to be petted and some do not (physical touch). Some like to sit on your lap and feel comfortable with having that physical touch and some don’t want to be touched at all. In the latter case that love language may not be their primary language. Some appreciate your acts of service of providing food and cleaning their area. My cat would occasionally present her stuffed mice for me at my garage door where I usually left in the morning as a gift to me. Some of your pets may have caught live birds and mice and present them to you. A lot of animals and plants do like to be spoken to in a calm or happy manner. Although they may not understand you, your tone of voice will generally lift up their mood and energy.

Animals have similar love languages, and will probably prefer one or a few over others. They give you love using the same love languages with the exception of words of affirmation (does tail wagging or purring count?)

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The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken

I was wandering the library looking for something new to read and I found this book with the little chocolate truffle in the front and I thought it looked delicious so I brought it home. I finished this book in about 2 days. The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken,The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken
It describes several personality types and psychological problems that may commonly occur with women that prevents them from having a long-lasting relationship. The author describes these personality types as the following:

+ The Old Faithful – if you stay attached to an ex for an unusually long time comparative to others around you, if you’re feeling like you missed out on your “one true” chance for love, or have beliefs in “The One”

+ The Whirlwind Dater – this is someone who dates a lot but has not settled on one man for a long period of time, this is also someone who has a hard time relaxing

+ The Standstill – this person rarely if ever dates, this can be common with those that are still a virgin or have only had sex a handful of times or less. This person is afraid of anyone finding out how little they have dated or have been intimate and often get embarrassed when someone asks them when was their last date and how often they’ve dated.

+ The Forbidden Fruit Hunter – this person is continually attracted to those that are unavailable or married, they may reject nice guys who show interest that are available, they may come from a single-parent home or has strong emotional connections with their family

+ The Compassionate Rescuer – this person has a hard time saying no to people, they feel like they have to rescue someone or is habitually with someone that they feel needs them, they continually try to stay flexible in order to please others, they give more then they receive in relationships, they are often condescended to or controlled by family or partners

+ The Wanderer – this woman is the life of the party, can make friends very easily but has a hard time staying faithful and hops from one relationship to another, they can get anxious if they’re not in a relationship and like to indulge in things that are pleasurable or celebratory

+ The Uptown Girl – she enjoys compliments and dresses or looks the part so she can get a lot of compliments. They look for men that either have money, status or power.

+ The Runaway Bride – very similar to the movie, this person is somebody that really doesn’t know themselves and doesn’t stay in a relationship very long, they commonly bolt when the relationship gets too serious

The book mainly outlines some common psychological issues that prevent you from seeing the situation as it truly is. One of which that she talks about is subconscious beliefs that are sabotaging you. If you find yourself in a situation after a date or when someone finds you attractive that you start having a lot of negative thoughts then you may need to work on your subconscious beliefs. I recommend using Theta healing which I do provide on my website which has turned much of my life around towards the positive as well as my thinking. Theta can affect Law of Attraction and the type of people that you draw to you as well as how they treat you when they are in your life. It can affect those that are already in your life as well and how they treat you but in a different more positive way. You can find my Theta healing offerings here. Theta healing works on current life, past life, and other soul level beliefs, removing the negative beliefs and replacing it with positive which in turn affects how people see you, how you think and what you attract to you.

Two other of the more common issues that she discusses is the signs that you may have intimacy issues because you are trying to fit in a man’s world so you act professionally when you should act more sexual or feminine to a love interest. Essentially you have not learned how to be feminine, open or sexy and are uncomfortable in that role.

The other common issue she describes is feeling overly responsible for your parents’ happiness, usually one parent over the other. You’ve taken on a role that subconsciously and consciously you will have a hard time separating yourself from. You may enter into a relationship and start wondering, “but who’s going to take care of Mom?”

This is just a quick summary of the book, there are other issues and solutions provided. I highly recommend you get the book from your local library or Amazon to see which of these personality types best describes you. You may be a combination of all the above. Once you’ve figured out your patterns that will give you a launching point to then find the healing modality that best works for you to turn your life and thinking around.

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Why We Want Those Who We Are Not With and What To Do About It

There are a few psychological and metaphysical reasons why you may be interested in somebody who is either not interested in you or that treats you poorly.

1. You are connecting to their soul energy, you’ve pierced through their outer layers and have gotten to a spiritual side of them that contains unconditional love. As you try to concentrate on other things, thoughts of them pop up in your mind because your energies are communicating. The problem is if on a physical level they are not as aware of this as you are, and are not interested in you in that way, they may not treat you very well or really contact you much at all. This leads me to the psychological problems that can lead to feeling “stuck” on a person.

2. When someone is busy or doesn’t take much interest in us we think that they’re more special or have more value. When someone is busy sometimes we interpret that as they’re more important, that they have more friends, and are more popular than us. We put them on a pedestal thinking they are more rare and harder to get, increasing their “scarcity“, and therefore boosting their value in our mind. This is also why someone who “breadcrumbs” you, in other words only contacts you every once in awhile, can get you addicted to them as well.

3. If you have a pattern of wanting people that are either taken or hard to actually be with in a relationship you may have a fear of your relationships failing. In other words you put yourself in a position where you never actually get together with the person so it can never really fail, thereby avoiding heartbreak, humiliation, social judgement from friends and family. You may have to face the beliefs as to why you don’t actually want to be in a real relationship due to fears of it failing. For this I recommend theta healing, which works on fears and beliefs on a subconscious level, which I can provide over distance on my website here.

4. You get more of a rush mentally with dopamine when you have a roller coaster ride relationship than with a steady one. If you fantasize or are around that person for a shorter period of time you get that jolt of dopamine and then you leave them it allows you to reset so when you come back to them you get that jolt of dopamine again. To stay with them for a longer period of time where it is consistently good doesn’t give you that rush of dopamine after a period of absence.

5. Something feels unresolved or incomplete after you’ve been chasing them for a while? Maybe it feels unbalanced and you want it to feel equal. If you look up the reciprocity principal as I learned in Marketing, people feel obligated to return a favor. In this case you may have given this person a lot of attention, a lot of energetic love, and a lot of your mental time. Your brain wants something back in other words you want reciprocity. The unfortunate instance here is that you just may not get it back. What I recommend is a grief healing to get you to acceptance which I can also provide through my energy healing services on my website.

Recommendations:

1. Compartmentalize – this is a coping mechanism that helps you to focus on things like work and other areas of your life while shelving your romantic life for a while. It helps you not lose your life while you are thinking about or feeling stuck on another person.
2. Watch something that puts you in a better mood – for me this is YouTube videos on comedy, interviews with mentors or animals. Get out of depression and feeling spent or empty from giving them so much love and attention and receiving little back.
3. Date other people – know you’re worth it and receive some of those compliments you are giving to someone else.
4. Work on yourself – psychologically and metaphysically, change how you see the situation. Someone treating you like crud should not be attractive and shouldn’t pull you towards them, instead know intellectually why this is happening to you by reading articles like this or books so when you encounter it you can change the situation and bring someone to you that treats you better. Go to my website, I provide theta healing which work on the fears and beliefs that sabotage you.

Other reads:

+ Attached by Levine, Amir find at amazon.com

+ Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus by Gray, John PhD

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Temptations and Cravings

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Something was revealed to me today. Ever since my energy healing training, the seemingly random cravings to buy or consume seemed to increase. There would be a carrot or a reward at the end of doing what I wanted, such as an angel or God sign (repeating numbers, feathers, coins, signs). However, sometimes this would lead me into problems such as gaining weight, or going over budget. As I wandered the store today I pondered why I would still feel a craving to buy after meditating, when “they” know I have a budget. As I say to myself I have a budget, I usually have this thought inside me that says “that’s not the metaphysical way of thinking”, “that is scarcity or that is limited thinking”. The universe is abundant. However through experience I know that to continue to ignore a budget or your diet leads to putting yourself in a place where you have to do something more extreme other than maintenance to get back to your goal.

I received the wisdom while walking around that there are so many things in the world that you could buy. Zoom out and think about the entire world, all the bazaars and marketplaces in Moracco, Israel, India, China and so forth. You will not be able to buy from them all and store it, so there may always be a wanting or craving at some point, no matter how rich you become. Knowledge of this, the concept of “knowing” that there are so many things out there you could buy, that could bring joy in the short moment, but you could not possibly buy them all for lack of space, budgetary reasons, or in order to keep a slim body, this concept will help you understand that you can’t possibly please all of these forces that want you to buy, whatever their motivations may be.

There are a lot of people that ask for financial abundance and money, or people have jobs connected with these retail items, so there’s a energetic pool out there tugging you to buy, creating these cravings. These forces aren’t always necessarily evil it’s just there’s a lot of energetic pulls and you can’t satisfy them all. Even Bill Gates can’t buy everything and store it, he has a limit too.

Understanding that people are asking for abundance and you can’t possibly satisfy them all, will hopefully give you a release by separating you from the emotion and give you peace.

My recommendation? Don’t look at it as an evil craving and attach good or bad to it, look at it from the knowing that there’s a lot of beings and energetic forces out there. Know that you can’t satisfy them all so don’t feel guilt or loss. Keeping a budget, or keeping a caloric diary, will help create the boundaries and limits that help you succeed in your goals. They help you to know when to stop listening to that craving to buy or consume the next thing. Those forces pulling you to go outside of those limits aren’t necessarily evil, they just exist. Buddha talked about the wanting, so did Jesus, and both recommended balance.

Set your boundaries, write them down, when the wanting comes tell them you are at your limit. After this, if its supposed to be, then watch the magic happen to being it to you if necessary. If nothing happens, you didn’t need it, it was for a different reason such as someone needing to keep their job or someone asking for abundance.

When your budget or calories are up, have a list handy of free or zero calorie activities that make you happy such as walk in the park, listening to music, watch tv, watch a movie you already own, play a game or one of my favorites, take a nap.

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Health & Fitness: Changing to Healthier Food Choices

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Many times clients will ask me how they can change their habits so they could eat healthier.  I was able to change my eating habits over the years from fast food & sugar to eating mostly whole vegetables and protein during the day. To get to this point it took a lot of research, trial and error, and reading books from those that succeeded before me. healthier food choices, healthier food choices, healthier food choices

We use habits to avoid timely and stressful decision making as well as to conserve willpower. Habits involve 3 things; a cue, the habit itself and reinforcement. An example of a cue would be when I used to get to the office in the morning I’d go to the kitchen to make a cup of coffee.  I found that milk products can make me tired, coffee adds acid to the stomach which makes me feel hungrier and caffeine can make me anxious so I wanted to change the habit of having caffeinated coffee in the morning.  In order to change a habit, change one part of the cycle of cue, habit and reinforcement. To change all 3 might be too much of a shock to the system and you may resist the change because the mind may perceive it to be too much change at once. In this case, the cue was I got to work and wanted to get my cup of coffee. While I kept the cue and reinforcement, I changed the habit from getting coffee to getting mint tea, which was caffeine free and milk free. The other change to habit I could do is getting decaf with soy milk. Then the reinforcement was the enjoyment of my cup of hot beverage. You can use this strategy to slowly change your unwanted habits to more desired ones. Make sure that what you do exchange your habit to is acceptable to you, such as I like mint tea but not everyone does. Make sure that your reinforcement is still acceptable to you otherwise the change may not last long.

If you want to eat when you get home every night, change one thing about that process, such as peanuts instead of chips. If you eat cookies at midnight, change it to popcorn instead of cookies. Whatever the change is make sure that it is acceptable to you so that the change is not too drastic and try to do them one at a time instead of changing all your unwanted habits at once. Sometimes you may transition from one food to another.  For instance, I wanted to change from having so many burgers and fries to more salad.  To change right to salad with no “bridge” from burgers would be difficult, so what I did was I would put everything but the bun on salad, preferably spinach as spinach is a diuretic (lose water weight) and an appetite suppressant.  Then over time you will get used to the idea that burger salads, cheesesteak salad or even pizza salads (remove the topping and put on spinach) can be as satisfying for lunch or dinner.  Then you can transition from there to salads with less cheese or more healthy protein (chicken, fish, vegan alternatives) once you are comfortable with the new routine.
It may take some time to change every habit you want to change but it is possible.  The key is to be kind to yourself, understand the psychology such as change one thing at a time to avoid resistance, know what is an acceptable alternative for you and give it the time you need. You may have been reinforcing some of these habits for decades, like eating once you came home from school turned into eating when you came home from work.  You may need more than a day or two to change a habit that has been reinforced over the years.

Some fast notes:

  • Eat spinach, apples or applesauce with no added sugar, pineapple and green beans as they are diuretics (lose water weight) and are appetite suppressants. They have more fiber to slow the digestive process.  They make you feel more full.
  • Increasing hot water or tea intake during the day will help you to feel satiated and get more water in your body.
  • If you just downed a whole bag of chips and want more, really what you are is thirsty.  Take two pints of water “like a pill”, in other words drink them quickly rather than sip.  This will help you to feel full and restore your “sanity”.  Same thing after alcohol.
  • Salt, fat and sugar can create a reaction where your brain and stomach stop telling you that you are full (where did that bag of chips go?).  If you ever detox fully from these items you will know what I mean, your satiety can be restored and you feel full eating less whole food.  Over time try to reduce these and be aware that chips and sweets have an affect on your brain that cause you to crave them more and remove your satiety.  Same goes for artificial sugars.  It helps to be aware so you can make better choices in the future.

Best of luck!

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Good reads:

“The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg

“Willpower” by Roy Baumeister, John Tierney

“The end of overeating. Taking control of the insatiable American appetite.” by Kessler, M.D. David

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Health & Fitness: Running

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When I first started running back in 1995 I didn’t really know that there were a few things to watch out for so you didn’t hurt yourself. I hurt my knee when I was 16 and never really knew why until I picked it up again in recent years. For those trying to lose weight or become more fit, here are the few things I’ve learned over the years:

  • Stretch: Stretch before and after you run. Sit on the ground, tuck one leg under so your foot touches your other thigh and touch your toes on the leg that is outstretched (or try your best). Do this for the other side. Second, make a butterfly shape with your legs by touching your feet together and stretch your hands past your feet. Third, lift your leg behind you holding on to your ankle. Forth, stretch both legs out and touch your ankles or feet. Do each of these for at least 15 seconds.
  • Find the right shoe for you. Look at the bottom of your current shoes. Where is the wear, on the inside or outside of the shoe? I found out I was supinated, which is when you wear out the outside of your tennis shoes and I ended up having pain on the outside of my legs around the ankles and shins after I exercised. Once you figure out if you are pronated, neutral or supinated, get the right shoe for you so you’ll have less pain. This has helped me significantly whether I’m walking, using the elliptical or running.
  • Posture: Swing your arms front and back, not cross them in front of you. Keep your arms bent at a comfortable, loose L shape. Also, have loose shoulders so you don’t have shoulder pain. Keep your head up and level, not strained, looking out to the horizon so your don’t have neck pain. Great free video to illustrate this whole process: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRkeBVMQSgg
  • Balance your weight: This might be difficult for those of you that dominate on one side of the body. I found my right side would hurt after running (hips, knee, shoulder and back). My right side would do much of the pulling and get most of the impact and this was happening automatically. My left side would feel perfectly fine and light as a cloud. Actively think about balancing the two sides, emphasizing the non-dominant side. Actively think that your non-dominant side has to pull its own weight.

Practice makes perfect, you might have to pay attention to your posture and balancing for a while before it becomes automatic. When you stretch and balance everything out you’ll experience less pain and actually have more endurance because your dominant side isn’t doing all the work anymore. My knee, back, shoulders, neck and hips don’t hurt anymore after running, so it is possible to correct for these common issues. Happy running!

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Wanderlust, not feeling satisfied after just going out

When I go out on some days I’ll come back home sometimes and feel like I need to go out again and have more experiences, what I have been told during readings is “wanderlust”. This constant feeling, wanting, yearning to either go back to where I just came from or to do something adventurous again that day or soon is sometimes not feasible, financially responsible, and can be exhausting. I don’t always like this feeling of wanting all the time. What usually helps me in those times is first imagining God as a big hand scooping up all the energy and entities absorbed or picked up from the area’s I had just been that are around me and sprinkling it back where they came from. I see that hand sprinkling the energy and entities along the route I had just gone through, this returns the energy back to where it came from. Second I use affirmations and I’ll say three times out loud the following: “I am satisfied with the food I’ve had today”, “I am satisfied with the entertainment I’ve had today”, “I feel satisfied and content now”, “I feel satisfied with the drink I have had today”. You can also include other affirmations such as “I am at peace”, “my body is safe”, “my soul is safe”, and “my mind is safe” to regain some peace back into your life. I have a Blog that you can search for using the magnifying glass on the top toolbar called “Finding Peace“, go through that blog to help restore some of the peace in your life as well. A lot of it is you just absorb a bunch of energy that either wants to go back to where it came from or links you to certain areas that cause you to long to go back. Also you get a rush mentally from all the excitement you’ve just been through, so there is a psychological component as well. I find returning the energy to where it came from and saying “I am satisfied…” helps with the wanting feeling or dissatisfaction with what I’ve already received. I even do this when going out to the grocery store or other every day places, it helps me to feel better and more grounded.

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What if The One you thought would work out, didn’t?

I receive many calls from those who received signs that their romantic interest or boyfriend is someone special (222, soul mates, twin flames) often times having deep feelings for them, premonitions and other signs that they are spiritually connected or “meant to be”. In many of these readings their feelings that this is a special connection is true. soul mate breakup, soul mate breakup

The hard message to deliver to clients is that many times one or both of them are not ready for the relationship or do not have the social skills to deal with the relationship (dealing with conflict, intensity of feelings). In a recent reading I relayed to my client from those crossed over that relationships are not just about soul connections, you have to make the relationship work in this life and often times that is psychology, empathy or behavior. We can have past lives with them that didn’t work as well, to have a soul mate connection does not guarantee success in any life.

Sometimes that is not your fault but the other party’s. You were receiving signs that this person is special and to proceed but do be aware that that can lead to a spiritual awakening for one or both of you, a learning experience or a calling to heal, rather than a successful long lasting relationship. If it does end or if you are going through problems I recommend healing what you can in yourself and giving your worries to the divine. I do provide healing under the energy healing section. That can improve the relationship or help you move on to someone better depending on the situation. Many of these soul mate connections failed in their past lives, know that it can also crumble in this life. The best thing you can do is improve upon yourself in areas you want to improve, be honest with yourself and try to see from other peoples’ perspective here. Then give the relationship to the divine as they have the wisdom to take you or the relationship to a better place.

From the perspective of someone that has met with multiple soul mates in this lifetime including a twin flame, I can tell you you have more than one soul mate, so release the worry and fear of scarcity, move forward with the positive belief that another will find you.

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Working with Archangels versus Wicca

When I formally trained to do readings for others I worked mostly with archangels and ascended masters like Jesus because that’s how I was taught. Different beings on the second or first planes (fairies, gnomes, elves, elementals and nature spirits) have popped in and out of my life on occasion for different reasons, either I would be studying or researching different beings and I’d see them clairvoyantly or through my own meditations. Since I majored in zoology in college and being interested in nature, I have a strong connection with animals or nature in general. The second and first planes of existance, as they call it in Theta healing, pops up strongly for me from time to time, and many times it is a positive experience. The vibration and feelings associated with being on a more grounded level and seeing on that level versus going to a higher vibrational level to doing mediumship reading can feel and clairvoyantly look different.

Ultimately, I wanted to pass along some information I obtained during a reading I had with a client recently. Essentially the client was asking if she should look into Wiccan spells for protection after she’s been using Angels, Archangels and Saints previously. What I saw as advice in this reading was when you go to the second plane to ask for something (protection or love, etc) the reason why it doesn’t always work well or something negative may happen is the second plane can reflect to us (mirror) the things we need to work on, in other words our belief systems and fears. They showed this to me by having a small being representing a nature spirit or elemental presumably holding a mirror up.

I received the concept of if you’re not ready and you haven’t worked on your belief systems they may reflect something back to you that you don’t want. It has been explained to me in the past that elementals and nature spirits help us manifest some of the things we want and can react automatically to our energies, although I have seen that in some cases they can control what happens. The next concept I received was when you work with the Angelic plane or higher they can adjust for your belief systems (I see an angel sidestepping obstacles) and they can bypass them so that you get more of what you really are looking for not necessarily what you may be asking for (if its not quite what is right for you) or even what you fear. I thought that was very interesting and worthy to pass along for those of you looking into the different areas of metaphysics, energy and magic.

The general message was that it’s not necessarily “wrong” or “evil” to ask for help on the second plane but to be careful and to try not to do it when you don’t feel prepared with your belief systems and haven’t worked on some of your fears. Go in with the right intentions, with peaceful or kind intentions and then that may be a safer manifesting route for you. If you are looking for a quick way to heal your beliefs and fears blocking or affecting your abilities, I recommend theta which I provide over the phone and skype here.

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Addictions, some Metaphysical Explanations

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I’ve done some research over the years on addictions, in my case food, and in my family’s case alcohol.  Much of what I have read is science and psychology based, which has value by itself.  While the biological process certainly does play a role in how we feel and what we do, as does the mind, I wanted to know the spiritual side because I do know that is a piece of the puzzle as well.

During a reading I received that addictions and cravings for what you are addicted to sometimes arise when you are trying to shut something or someone up, like a feeling or a voice.  What you are trying to shut up may be anxiety, voices in your mind you don’t want to hear such as your ego or someone else’s, mixed in with your angels, guides or God.  You may be trying to numb a feeling such as grief or a heart break you haven’t quite healed from yet. Go here on my blog on how to heal grief.  If the divine is trying to warn you of something, this may cause some anxiety, from the higher vibration as well as other factors, and that is usually an indication to stop what you are doing and do a self check.  It was explained to me the higher the vibration, the more anxiety you may feel, particularly if you are not in the light.  More to come of this in my book to be published hopefully in 2019.

The recommendation is to stop. Stop. Do nothing. Let the anxiety ground.  Then just chill. Do Nothing for a while. 5-15 minutes of do nothing time. Don’t look at your phone, sit or lay down and do nothing.  If you are sensitive enough you will feel the energy go down from your head all the way down to you feet.  After the 15 minutes, thank your angels, guides and God for being there to bring them forth, imagine a while light around you and ask for guidance or whatever the problem seems to be. The problem may be you’re working too hard or doing too much. You may be using the addiction to get away from worries or work.  Its time to do nothing and receive guidance.

The other metaphysical reason for an addiction seems to be a combo of other people asking for more money and abundance as well as your actions in the past.  As others ask for more money, you may “answer the call” as I put it to buy what they are selling.  What you’ve enjoyed buying in the past is typically what you get pulled in buying again, essentially your actions and law of attraction.  So if you’ve felt happy buying chocolate cake, tortilla chips, going out to eat, alcohol etc. that may be what you are pulled into buying again.  This is with the combination with the physical and mental highs you receive from these actions.

Other non-metaphysical reasons for addictions usually involve serotonin, opioids and dopamine’s affect on your brain.  An excellent book that describes this is “The End of Overeating…” by David Kessler, MD.  Intellectually understanding why you feel a certain way can help you to stop yourself in your tracks, rise above the problem and find another solution.

Addiction provides an escape.  An escape from work, worries, distraction of the mind, what we don’t want to look at, as well as a mental high.  You are ignoring something, many times something deep inside.  My recommendation is to stop and do nothing, grief healing, or look into changing habits (actions).

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Absolution of Sins

Absolution

I heard very clearly when in a reading state one day the word “Absolution”.  Kind of hilarious, I went to 10+ years of Catholic school, and while I had heard of the word before I had to look it up after the vision to make sure I knew what it meant.  I thought it had something to do with sinning, maybe forgiveness.  I received several times in my energy healing and readings that we can beat ourselves up sometimes over what we have done in this current life and in past lives.  A very clear vision popped up after I received this word “Absolution” after asking how to do this.   This is what I received and hurriedly wrote down.

“pain of existence
hopelessness
we think we are sinners – should change, sometimes we know energetically or soul level we have been bad in the past
complicated forces cause us to “misbehave” (not all our fault that we do)
we are punishing ourselves physically
instead of going through each cause and “I forgive myself, others…” there is a faster way
absolve sins
saw a vision of Jesus under a rain cloud, rain falling on him, on knees praying, also saw myself on knees praying by bed, then rising up and saying thank you. Say a prayer asking God to absolve my sins both in current and past lives on your knees (picture Jesus next to you with the intention that Jesus not get hurt). say amen. the rain represented the healing water to wash away sins”

The vision outlined a method with which to absolve your sins in past lives and current lives without the need for a priest.  I’ve struggled with the word “sin” since taking the metaphysical journey, knowing that sometimes there are other forces within and outside of us that cause us to act negatively.  I won’t go into that now, but if you feel that you continually pull yourself down mentally, physically, energetically for the past, this is a wonderful healing to lift you up.  I really felt energetically refreshed afterwards with more positive energy.

Method

Like the vision said, kneel (or lay down), and imagine Jesus with you in the rain which is cleansing both of you.  Imagine yourself in the white light.  Then see yourself floating above the clouds, up into the universe as high as you can go until you reach an area of the universe that is all white.  Imagine you and Jesus in this area either kneeling or lying down with God watching over you.  Tell yourself that Jesus won’t get hurt in the process (I had a problem with this that I didn’t want him dying or getting hurt for my sins, you might too).  Thank God, your angels, archangels and Jesus for being there. Ask God out loud to absolve your sins in past lives and current life.  End with please and thank you, Amen.  Watch or feel what happens.  Wait until the vision or feelings stop and your feet feel heavy or grounded.  Say “Thank you God, Jesus and angels”.  Imagine yourself going back down into the universe, through earth’s atmosphere, back into your body.  Imagine your feet turning into roots and going down to the core of the earth, bringing green light to fill your body and energy field around you.  Say out loud, “I am grounded, I am grounded, I am grounded” and wait until your feet feel like heavy rocks.  Then continue about your day.

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Elemental Series IV: Air Elementals and Nature Spirits

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Air is an important element that many people forget about as it is mostly invisible. You notice it on a hot day and the breeze comes in to cool you down, and when you hear it pass through the trees, rustling the leaves. However many times it is forgotten or passed over due to it being less visible. sylph, sylph, sylph

Intelligence and mental clarity

Air in most metaphysical literature is mentioned as being excellent to call upon when the user needs help with intelligence and mental clarity. There are references to the name “sylph” as one type of air elemental. In my grounding article I speak of mental clarity and how grounding can help with mental clarity and focus. In that process you use all 4 elements to achieve a grounded state. I’ve found a combination of fire and air can really aid in achieving mental clarity fast, but for sustained grounding and clarity I would recommend using all 4 elements in your visualization along with empathic clearing (article here). Feathers, birds, and other winged insects can also be signs or symbols for air.

Air elementals may also be part of the raising vibrations process.

Static Electricity

I did once see an image where an Air Elemental was pushing what looked like static electricity away and transforming it into some other energy that was less intense. Sometimes EMF, static electricity and radiation can create energetic blocks to be cleared during energy healing. Once a nurse who worked with large electronics for work felt significantly better once blocks due to EMF, static and radiation were removed during a theta session. If you are interested in theta healing I perform it over distance. You can sign up for a theta healing here.

Mood

Air elementals can also affect how a person feels as in the temperature of the room as well as mood. If you are comfortable with working on this plane, I’ve found sprites are some of the best for transforming the energy in a room or place into positive energy.

Other benefits

During a reading I asked those crossed over to show me how air elementals can help people depending on the level in their hierarchy. I received a vision of someone who looked like a sultan or king. When I asked how they can best help us if we were looking for aid I was shown many of the things you might guess, such as to cool a person’s temperature down, and to move negative energy particles in the air via wind.

Other benefits shown to me were removing negative energy from an area or person by carrying it elsewhere by dispersing it, healing, as well as carry clairaudient messages over distances. They showed me they have a role in lightning as well as receiving a few images of winged spiritual beings being a part of this group. Their group does like to party or have social occasions. Their energy can be used sometimes to lead people in another direction, remind them of something forgotten and to avoid danger. It has also been brought to my attention that they are one of the spiritual being types responsible for aid in sexual arousal, including some earth, and water beings.

When asking Jesus and my archangels about Air Elementals I received that they work with water a lot, which actually makes sense if you think about the cycle of water (water evaporating to the clouds, creating rain where it returns to earth, etc). I saw an image of wind currents and how they can influence what direction they can go around the world. They also showed me that they are in the cells of living beings and can fill in between the spaces of the organelles. They are also helpful in areas of love/romance healing and clairvoyance.

Higher level Air Elementals have shown themselves to me as Sultans, or can appear as other royal figures like Kings or Queens, and can be very good at helping with this plane.

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Soul Mates and the Stages of Grief

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Sometimes all you have to do is go through a rejection by someone in order to enter into a grieving period. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting.

The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.

Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.

If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. Wait and feel much of the healing at the bottom of your lungs to clear before returning to your day.  When the soreness or feeling in your lungs dissipate the healing is done.  This can help push you past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.

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Prophets and Psychic Mediums, is there a difference?

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I had a client last night asking me if it was sinful as a Christian to believe in and talk to psychics. I reminded her that many people in the Bible, including many of the saints in Catholicism, were prophets, which is an old time-y way to say psychic. Noah knew there would be a flood before anyone else, Jesus knew that Judas would betray him beforehand, and Jesus even knew he would be crucified and asked God to remove this from him under an olive tree. Don’t forget about the miracle of Fatima in 1917, which had thousands of witnesses, and Catholics established a special festival and day around.

Psychics have been around for millennia, predicting everything from the weather, deaths, wars and births. In fact many of the saints and ascended masters are psychic! They were predicting things all the time and receiving messages from the other side in the form of booming voices and visions of angels. The vatican keeps The Prophecy of the Popes in their archives among many other references to prophecies. Think of how many times an angel or other being appeared to those in the bible; Archangel Gabriel to Mary (kinda a big announcement), the burning bush to Moses, a voice to Saul who later turned into Pope Paul and started the church.

Kind of ridiculous if you really think about it for people to think that psychics are evil or wrong.

I think what happened is we revere or put the word “prophet” on a pedestal. Then down the line we created a new word, “psychic”, which conjures images of homeless rogues in red carriages and hoop earrings. The image is slightly ridiculous. Also don’t forget Saul who was a bit on the naughty side turned into Paul after hearing God. He turned his life around. You don’t have to be a saint from birth to hear God or your angels.

So next time you feel a bit bad about going to a psychic, remind yourself of all the visions and booming voices in the bible. The caution is just society or the culture you were raised in, not because you shouldn’t listen to what your angels and guides are telling you.

I’ve had dreams that came true within 24 hours of having them. Two of the most notable is having a dream of being in a plane crash 24 hours before a plane disappeared in the news over the mediterranean sea and having a dream of my mother dying 24 hours before her first heart attack. During a reading my maternal grandmother came to me clearly, telling me to teach my mother about energy healing 24 hours before she fell and broke numerous bones on a cruise. I have closeted friends who also hear God or have visions, afraid to come out of their shell because of a cultural taboo around psychics. I think there are many closeted metaphysical people because of the fear to be labeled “crazy”. I hope with the popularity of Long Island Medium and others that the judgement against speaking with those crossed over will be rectified. prophets and psychic

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Buttered Spinach and Creamy Avocado Bowl Recipe



Not a difficult recipe, I intuitively came up with this snack and it is a very healthy 80 calories to boost your energy and end hunger. Keto, low carb, no carb and paleo friendly (sans butter and parm).

1 cup spinach

1/4 avocado diced

1/2 cup broccoli florets

1/2 tbsp butter (optional)

1 tbsp shaved parmesan

Salt and pepper to taste

The quickest way to put this together is to microwave the spinach and broccoli topped with the butter and parmesan for 1 minute on high. If you are going without dairy, you can boil both greens in some water until the broccoli is bright green. If using dairy, stir the spinach after removing from microwave. Dice avocado and put on top of the spinach and broccoli mix.

So satisfying, all 3 greens are healthy and hunger suppressing vegetables. Spinach and avocados act like diuretics so help you to lose water weight. Great for after workout or as a mini meal.

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Caesar Salad Dressing Recipe

Caesar salad recipe
Ingredients

1 small garlic clove, minced
1/2 teaspoon anchovy paste (found near the canned tuna in the store)
1 tablespoons freshly squeezed lemon juice
1/2 teaspoon Dijon mustard
1/2 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
1/2 cup mayonnaise
1/4 cup freshly grated Parmigiano-Reggiano
1/8 teaspoon salt
1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper

Place all ingredients in a bowl and blend until mixed and smooth.

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Salmon, Shrimp and Portabella Mushroom Ponchatrain Recipe, Gluten Free

This is a lovely, rich filling recipe for those of you on carb reduction meal plans such as keto, South Beach, etc. Gluten free, low carb. I had this in a New Orleans restaurant and decide to make it home for myself.

Salmon, Shrimp and Portabella Mushroom Ponchatrain Recipe

1/4 cup butter

1/4 cup half & half or heavy cream

Tsp of garlic, minced

1/2 cup spinach leaves

1 tsp parsley

Ground pepper to taste

1/2 cup portabella mushrooms

Diced tomato

Fish or chicken

Melt the butter in a saucepan and saute your garlic and mushrooms. Add your quarter cup of cream or half-and-half. I find half and half to be rich enough for me but you can add heavy cream if you would like it to be creamier. Add other spices and wilt the spinach in the sauce. A squeeze of lemon could be added here if you wish but I find it’s not necessary and not part of the original recipe.

Pour over chicken and shrimp, fish and crab meat, or fish and shrimp. This goes great on vegetables as well.

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