I do many readings for others and many of my readings are with a woman that are attracted to a guy who she keeps in good contact with but he’s not revealing his feelings enough to her verbally. Clients often ask me why they have this pattern where the man is not revealing his feelings enough in the relationship. Many times I will receive that he reveals feelings in others ways as verbal expression can be difficult depending on how he was raised. Other ways can be acts of service, affirmations, quality time, physical gifts and longer than usual eye contact. Check out my 5 love languages article for more on this.
Some of this can be explained by Attachment Theory as someone is attracted to another person who is what they call an “avoidant” and it makes the client very anxious waiting for some sort of validation of his feelings in a verbal sense. These personality times have some psychological challenges to work through and can be a difficult partner for someone who gets anxious with separation.
The third reason that comes up is metaphysical. If you see the same pattern come up in your life where your partners have trouble expressing emotion, law of attraction may be sending you the same person with similar patterns. Look into your past. How many people in your life act similarly in ways that bother you? How much time, attention, action and feeling have you put into these people? Many times these people were just in you life from the get go, like parents, but over the years you have put energy, thought, feeling and action into people with similar personality traits. To manifest according to the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Bryne it helps to put thought, feeling, and action behind what you want. According to this book the law doesn’t really discriminate “bad” versus “good” desires, if you put the energy into it it is possible to get the same thing out over and over again. Now I do believe that spiritual forces protect us from ourselves but they do show us the same patterns as well so we can correct for it.
Some clients ask me how do I stop this pattern of being with these guys that don’t openly express their feelings. My recommendation is two fold. First reverse you’re thinking and reactions when you encounter someone who openly shows emotion. If you find yourself taking a step back in fear the problem may not be the person that is expressing themselves; it may be time to look at why you’re uncomfortable with someone showing you affection. The second recommendation is to look for either a behavioral psychiatrist who can do some sort of hypnotherapy on your subconscious or a Theta healer who essentially does the same thing but on multiple metaphysical levels including past lives, soul level, current life and genetic levels. My own Theta Healing also concentrates on the mind or mental level as well as the Akashic records. Theta healing removes the negative beliefs and fears that cause you to react this way and replaces them with something more positive and in line with what you really want. If you’d like to look at some of my energy healing options feel free to look on my website here. I also do psychic mediumship readings here.
“The Secret” by Rhonda Bryne
“Attached” by Amir Levine
“Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray
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