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What if I have failed every weight loss plan I’ve been on?

By Andrea Knight, mediumandreaknight.com

Listening to my weight loss clients and listening to their questions, I thought I might address this one first. Other blogs to come on my weight loss plan so stay tuned to this blog and click the “follow” button.

First, I watch the same commercials that talk about weight loss that you do. Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, Slim Fast and the like. I’ve even spoken to my own physician on their advice concerning weight loss. When I went to my doctor I’d have to say I was very disappointed after the session. She offered very little detailed advice when it came to how someone should go about weight loss other than to create a caloric deficit and maybe watch the quality of the calories you put in. I think it takes a lot more than that. As you well know, and if you’re reading this blog, you’ve probably been through a few plans yourself, there’s a psychological component that is very important. There’s also a spiritual component that I haven’t seen any of these plans with commercials on TV address. Honestly many of the plans that say that they are “holistic” truly aren’t as they are not including the spiritual. That’s what makes my weight loss plan different, I give you solutions to the spiritual as well as give you summaries on the psychological articles and books that I’ve read. Being successful myself with 130 pounds lost, I can walk you through some of the pitfalls and some of the problems you may encounter so that you can be successful. You can find my weight loss plan here.

Second I’m going to refer to some psychological advice that I overheard once. I think it’s a great illustration of what a lot of people go through. They said that if you keep repeating a pattern then you must be benefiting from it in some way. In other words if you continue to choose chocolate cake, you’re probably benefiting from it in some way. Mood, escape, a break from work. In this case let’s say it could be the short-term pleasure and the boost to your mood caused by dopamine and/or serotonin from the sugar. My plan does give you some psychological advice as well as some supplements to help you through things like that. They said in order to break the habit you no longer want, you have to realize what you’ve been benefiting from it in some way and realize that you have to give up whatever that benefit is. Are you ready to get rid of the short-term pleasure in order to achieve the long-term results you would desire?

Next I’m going to tell you something that no one else will. I feel like it’s something that you should consider instead of suffering for the rest of your life over this. Maybe you’re not willing to compromise the short-term pleasure for the long-term benefits. You keep making that choice, maybe that is just it.

Maybe it’s not a thin body alone you are really trying to achieve, maybe it’s a relationship you desire. Relationships are full of hard work, intimacy issues, sickness, not to mention rejection, death, separation and loss. There’s a lot of negatives to relationships that I deal with when doing readings on a day-to-day basis, but there’s a lot of pleasurable effects as well, which I’m sure you are aware of. Subconsciously, you may remember the negative aspects of being in a relationship. That its not all dandy all the time. My parents have been married 55 years and I can’t say that they were 100% happy all the time, relationships are filled with ups and downs. So if you’re trying to lose weight for the reason of having the relationship you desire, there may be some other subconscious beliefs that are holding you back, some fears of being in a relationship or even intimacy fears. So a relationship would be even more work after you’ve lost all that weight. After you’ve lost all that weight, you will have to find other coping mechanisms other than alcohol and food to deal with those additional emotional relationship problems that are now in your life. Sometimes being single can be easier, and we’re fortunate enough these days that we don’t need a partner in order to live, own property, or to put food on the table. You may be choosing to be single. Doesn’t mean that you don’t want the “ideal relationship” in Hallmark movies but subonsciously you may not want all the negatives. So that snickers bar looks far more tasty to you mentally, physically, and spiritually right now than all the work that a relationship would be in the future. You’re making a choice. You’re making the choice of short-term pleasure now versus long-term work and some occasional up and down happiness. That happiness in the relationship may not be continuous and on some level you know that. If you’ve come to this conclusion, and you’ve admitted to yourself that this is truly what you want, good for you. You’re way ahead of so many people struggling and purchasing so many weight loss plans. If you’re willing to give it another try, and think you just need some more spiritual advice along with the psychological and the physical plan, take a look at my weight loss page and we can start the journey together.

Lastly I really want to emphasize the grief cycle here. When we perceive a loss whether that is loss of being able to eat chocolate cake whenever we want, cheese and crackers, or mashed potatoes with gravy, we can go through the grief cycle. A lot of people experience depression when they first start a weight-loss plan along with the detoxification effects that their body is going through. I should also note that if you went through the previous paragraph and you’ve decided, “you know what, I think I’m going to give myself a break and accept that maybe I don’t want to go through what I have to go through the rest of my life to be and stay so thin”, good for you, note that there may be a loss of Hope in some way, which can lead to you going through the grief cycle. If you start to feel depressed after realizing any of this, I asked God in a prayer or meditation to help you get to the end of the grief cycle which they call that stage “acceptance.” This will help you get over the hump a lot quicker and prevent you from falling back into the habits and patterns of depression, sadness, anger, or bargaining.

Now despite the decadence of chocolate cake, I was still able to lose 130 pounds, so it is possible, with some help. Check out my weight-loss packet, along with consultations.

Need help working with some of your fears and beliefs? I recommend the Snow Leopard package on my energy healing page here. If you want to get a psychic reading on this or another subject goes my psychic readings page. Talk to you soon!

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Soul Mates and the Stages of Grief

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Sometimes a rejection from those we are interested in can lead to us entering the grief cycle. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting to them.

The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.

Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.

If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. Wait and feel much of the healing at the bottom of your lungs to clear before returning to your day. When the soreness or feeling in your lungs dissipate the healing is done. This can help push you past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.

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