Soul Mates and the Stages of Grief

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Sometimes all you have to do is go through a rejection by someone in order to enter into a grieving period. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting.

The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.

Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.

If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. Wait and feel much of the healing at the bottom of your lungs to clear before returning to your day.  When the soreness or feeling in your lungs dissipate the healing is done.  This can help push you past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.

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When He’s Not Telling You How He Feels

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I do many readings for others and a lot of my readings are situations where a woman is attracted to a guy and keeps good contact with them but he’s not revealing his feelings enough to her. Clients often ask me why they have this pattern where the man is not revealing his feelings enough in the relationship. Some of this can be explained by Attachment Theory as someone is attracted to another person who is what they call an “avoidant” and it makes the client very anxious waiting for some sort of validation of his feelings in a verbal sense. Also look into your past. Were you ever in a situation where someone expressed emotion from the get-go and you were turned off and even ran away? Did you find yourself saying things like “oh he’s needy”, “oh he’s insecure”, “he’s desperate” or “he’s a stalker”. Be careful what you’re telling the universe when you are approached by someone who is open with emotion who does let you know how they feel. If you feel negatively about someone who expresses themselves openly then that in a way can explain why you’re in the situation you are in. If you’re attracted to those who do not openly express emotion in the beginning and turned off by those who do openly express emotion you may continue to be in relationships with those that have trouble expressing affection and love.

Some clients ask me how do I stop this pattern of being with these guys that don’t openly express their feelings. My recommendation is two fold. First reverse you’re thinking and reactions when you encounter someone who openly shows emotion. If you find yourself taking a step back in fear the problem may not be the person that is expressing themselves; it may be time to look at why you’re uncomfortable with someone showing you affection. The second recommendation is to look for either a behavioral psychiatrist who can do some sort of hypnotherapy on your subconscious or a Theta healer who essentially does the same thing but on multiple metaphysical levels including past lives, soul level, current life and genetic levels. My own Theta Healing also concentrates on the mind or mental level as well as the Akashic records. Theta healing removes the negative beliefs and fears that cause you to react this way and replaces them with something more positive and in line with what you really want.  I was led to add mental and akashic records healing to my Theta while doing readings for others and seeing the need. If you’d like to look at some of my energy healing options feel free to look on my website here www.feathersinfinity.com/energy-healing.html.  They can be done over the phone or in person just as effectively.  I also do Mediumship readings here: www.feathersinfinity.com/readings.html.

Why is he not calling and what you can do about it. Attachment Theory

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Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:

– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run

I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.

It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.

The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.

In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of these):

  • The anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.
  • Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
  • Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.

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When you love someone so strongly and they don’t love you back

I was going through a reading and I was reminded of situations where someone will see through to someone’s soul and love them so completely but the other person does not feel the same. It was shown to me clairvoyantly and intuitively what happens. Essentially the one that falls hard and feels the unconditional love for the other person sees straight through all the outer facades, layers, thoughts about self, egos and into their soul. It was explained to me that the soul is more pure and without much of the other cultural facades we put up to fit in. It is essentially a soul loving another soul, piercing through all that other stuff. Unfortunately for me this has happened multiple times where I see through people, see their potential when they do not. Thank goodness, the most recent time it happened, I was able to recover very quickly, let go and move on better. Note that I’ve been doing energy healing for years and working on myself, I know this isn’t easy without those tools. However, what I did was express my feelings quickly rather than tucking them away for years. Once I got the feelings out, I felt infinitely better (this doesnt mean they’ll be mutually interested btw, they are probably not seeing as deeply as you). The reasoning I saw during a reading for someone else was that they were not doing the same, essentially not seeing through to the soul and experiencing the same level of feelings. This happens a lot, it’s not just you and me. I know this because I do readings most days. If you can’t express your feelings to the other person because of fear of rejection (it really helps to work on this – contact me for theta healing. It affects more than just relationships) then write your feelings down and burn them if you don’t feel it will work out for one reason or another. Then pray and ask God to help you move on in the best and highest way for you. Ask God for the suffering to stop. Know that the lesson in these cases, that I have received in my readings, is to know that we are all connected, to become closer to the Divine and spirituality.

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Random Anxious Feelings

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Do you feel anxious, scared or upset and don’t know why?  Do you have this lump or energy in your throat and don’t know why you feel this way and want it to go away?  Chances are you are not feeling your own emotions but someone else’s.  There are spiritual linkages called cords that connect us to those that we care about as well as those that we haven’t met yet but share a soul connection with.  You can ask your angels to release these cords from you or you can seek out an energy healer to help you with them.  You may need to do some healing on the past associated with those individuals, which energy healers can help with as well.  I usually recommend Theta healing for mind, body and spiritual healing, as it can address core, genetic, past life and soul level pain.  If you are feeling these symptoms of distress or anxiety and you don’t know why you are having them chances are you are feeling someone else’s energy and need cords cut.  I can always help you out or you can ask your angels to help out, such as Archangel Michael, Kam or Gabriel.  Visit my site at http://www.feathersinfinity.com.

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How do I keep my vibration high?

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There are many ways to keep your vibration high.  Something every one can do regardless of where you are on your spiritual journey is eat less processed foods or foods with a barcode, and eat more organic.  The less sugar, caffeine and carbs which turn into sugar is best.  Eat more fruits and vegetables and animal products with less hormones and where the animal was treated better when it was alive.  If you are adept at energy healing such as Reiki it helps to clear your main chakras once a day if not every other day.  There is also any excellent Youtube video out there that gives you 20 ways to raise your vibration which is quite excellent (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQ5Oy4Ja9fI).  Some of the examples is to look at something beautiful, smell one of your favorite smells, practice mudras, write down what you are grateful for, listen to music you love, give something to someone else, listen to music in 528hz, listen to ancient chants, do yoga, and breathe more deeply.  Another thing I have learned that heals and helps with your vibration is imagining a blue light around you and breathe that in imagining the blue light filling your entire inner body.  Try some of these out and you’ll feel the difference.

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Manifest Your Desires!


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Do you want to change your life?  Did you just get your reading of the future and not like the outcome?  Manifest!  Manifestation can bring more of the things you want to you, whether it is love, career, or a home.  To manifest, think of what you want as if you already have it right now.  Leave your fears and worries out of your manifestation unless you want those things to come to you.  Using the New Moon or Full Moon energies help enhance your manifestation energy.  Once you have your desires in mind release it to the universe.  It helps to write 5-8 things down if you prefer as well.  Writing or speaking has more energy behind it than thoughts.  Imagine you are drawing it to you naturally.  Want to know more?  Go to www.feathersinfinity.com to setup a reading with me.  I’ll be happy to discuss this with you.  Good Luck!

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Use your Intuition!

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Are you intuitive?  Do you just know things for no logical reason but know you are right?  Do you seem to know things about others without hearing about them from somewhere else.  You are probably an intuitive and have a great gift from God.  How do you use it?  Continue to listen to your hunches and urgings.  If it is positive and feels good it came from your higher self or from the light.  If it’s negative then it probably came from fear, so don’t listen to the negative advice, thoughts and feelings for now.  If your idea seems to come from nowhere and feels good to you, go for it.  Over time you will receive enough validation that you’re intuition is leading you in the right direction!  Want to know more?  Go to www.feathersinfinity.com to setup a reading with me.  I’ll be happy to discuss this with you.  Good Luck!

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How to Cleanse your Crystals

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It is very important to cleanse and energize your crystals regularly.  How often you need to cleanse your crystal depends on how often it is used.  If you meditate with your crystal you’ll notice that the vibration may not be as strong as it has been over time.  If you hold your crystal in your left hand, ask it if it is cleansed and energized, and it doesn’t vibrate, it’s probably time to cleanse that crystal.  One way to cleanse and energize is to put your crystals in the sun and moonlight for 24 hours (except amethyst, only use moonlight for amethyst).  This removes any lower energy and energizes the crystal.  Another method is to put your crystals in sea salt water from 4-24 hours depending on how much you’ve used your crystal.  You have to be careful with this method because there are certain crystals that you can’t put in water or they’ll disintegrate like selenite.  If you are unsure of your new crystals preferred cleansing method, you can always google “metaphysical” and the crystal’s common name.  You can also use any number of vibrational instruments such as tuning forks, singing bowls, bells and cymbals to cleanse your crystals.  Burning sage & sweetgrass and waving the smoke over your crystals is also recommended for removing negative energy and replacing it with positive.  Enjoy your new crystals!

What can I do to Save the Earth? I’m only One person.

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First, you are not alone. We are all interconnected by the group consciousness and that includes with nature. We can all do something and collectively when we make the effort we are setting an example for others and it will catch on over time. Other people will look up to you and watch the decisions you make and will want to emulate this in their lives. However, if you want to take a more holistic, metaphysical approach to this subject, I recommend a good meditation that I have tried and have been asked to pass on to each of you.

Get into your meditative state and imagine you are surrounded by the Creator’s white light of love and protection. Expand that bubble to surround your home. Then expand it to surround your city, until it grows to surround your state. Eventually expand your white bubble to surround mother earth with positive white light. Imagine that the Creator is sending this light from above and see it completely surrounding the earth from space. Then imagine a green light coming down from Creator, surrounding the earth. Imagine the green light healing the land and the trees, transmuting or removing any pollution. Then imagine a blue light around earth. Imagine the blue light is cleaning up all the water, healing the sea creatures and removing pollution from the water and air. Lastly, imagine a pink light coming down and surrounding the earth. Imagine the pink light surrounding each of it’s inhabitants with love energy around the world. Imagine the pink light sending love to the elementals, the spirits, rocks, trees and surrounding nature. Imagine every person on every continent happy, wars ending, and everyone embracing and smiling. Continue to imagine earth surrounded in each of these lights and leave space, reentering the atmosphere, your home and eventually come back to yourself.

Why can’t God just heal the earth herself?

We have free will. If we want to use up the resources and pollute and not clean it up, we are free to do so. Angels, elementals, and the creator is not allowed to interfere with our free will.

What does this meditation do?

It does a number of things. It sets your intention that you want the earth, its inhabitants and nature saved. It tells the universe, which has infinite abundance, what you want by visualizing the healing occurring. Also, it asks the Creator, angels, elementals and other spirits to please help us and the visualization gives the request energy.

If you have been blessed with abundance, you can also help the planet and its inhabitants by buying more organic food, choosing environmentally kind electricity (wind, solar) and using environmentally safe chemicals. This will create a demand for these items, making them more available to other people and cheaper over time. If you want to feel better in your home and neighborhood, buy house plants and plant a tree. All of these actions create love energy in and around your home and helps the environment. Another thing I do is unplug anything I’m not using, like the stereo, can opener, toaster, and other kitchen appliances. You can’t unplug everything but you’d be surprised at how much energy you’d save with very little effort. Even though you may not be using that can opener, it still may be using something called “phantom energy” just by being plugged in. Appliances still drain energy when they are plugged in even though they are not being actively used.

When each of us does what we can, we can really make a difference in our world.

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