Many of my clients in the past have come to me wondering if they’ll ever receive love in their life without a partner. Many people have heard of the 5 love languages, and this book is usually put in the context of already established couples. However many of us do not have a romantic partner but still need our love tank filled so that we feel happier and more content in our daily lives.
What if I told you that you can receive love outside a romantic relationship? Everyone has heard of the Five Love Languages. I always knew my primary love language in the past was spending time with someone, but what does one do when they’re single and are not receiving love from another actual physical person?
The 5 love languages are:
+ Acts of service
+ Physical touch
+ Giving gifts
+ Words of Affirmation
+ Quality Time
Suggestions:
Acts of Service (receiving) –
+ Receive an energy healing or massage (also counts as physical touch)
+ Meditation with crystals asking healers (angels or higher) to help heal you. The higher on the scale like thrones, cherubim or seraphim are great if you are really feeling out of sorts. Work towards 15 minutes to an hour depending on where you are. Place a lot of black onyx and tourmaline along your legs and feet for reducing anxiety.
+ Go out to a restaurant or movie theater where you receive service without having to cleanup
+ Have someone else clean your home once a quarter or twice a year if you don’t currently have a service
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
Physical touch
+ You may already being using methods to achieve contentment or calm through touch. Some people cuddle with a blankie, pillow, or take a nap on a soft bed. Some rub their arms or put on scented lotion.
+ Receive a massage from a therapist
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
Giving / receiving gifts
+ Budget permitting, go online or in person shopping. Get yourself something nice, whether than is luxury soap, lotion, electronics, whatever you would like.
+ Give yourself a bubble bath and extra long shower with scents, duckies, whatever brings you happiness
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
Quality time
+ Spend quality time with friends you are comfortable with
+ Tell yourself you’re giving yourself “quality time” and do something on your own that won’t make you feel bad. Again make sure you won’t feel lonely with whatever you choose. Arts and crafts, going to the beach, go to a cafe, take a walk m, watch a movie and playing games are a few examples.
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
Words of affirmation
+ Use affirmations such as those in Louise Hay’s books based on areas in your body that hurt or choose your own. “I love myself”, “I am beautiful”, as well as other things you commonly beat yourself up on.
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
I was sitting and thinking about how when we don’t receive enough hugs or we haven’t taken some time off to relax, rest or receive physical touch that a lot of us can be in pain physically. One of my workarounds to this is to ask God for enough love so I don’t feel pain for 24 hours. I perform a visualization (with feeling) in the morning and I say “I have enough love in my life so don’t feel pain but I can still ground”. I found without that last piece about grounding that I would be ungrounded but feeling euphoric. This is not good if you have to focus and do some logical thinking. Staying grounded helps you think clearly, gets rid of that brain fog and be less anxious.
PETS TOO!!
Recently I had an intuitive revelation that it’s not just humans that are affected by the five love languages, but also animals.
Pets have similar Love Languages in that some cats and dogs like to be petted and some do not (physical touch). Some like to sit on your lap and feel comfortable with having that physical touch and some don’t want to be touched at all. In the latter case that love language may not be their primary language. Some appreciate your acts of service of providing food and cleaning their area. My cat would occasionally present her stuffed mice for me at my garage door where I usually left in the morning as a gift to me. Some of your pets may have caught live birds and mice and present them to you. A lot of animals and plants do like to be spoken to in a calm or happy manner. Although they may not understand you, your tone of voice will generally lift up their mood and energy.
Animals have similar love languages, and will probably prefer one or a few over others. They give you love using the same love languages with the exception of words of affirmation (does tail wagging or purring count?)
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