What if the One you thought would work out, didn’t?

I receive many calls from those who received signs that their romantic interest or boyfriend is someone special (222, soul mates, twin flames) often times having deep feelings for them, premonitions and other signs that they are spiritually connected or “meant to be”. In many of these readings their feelings that this is a special connection is true.

The hard message to deliver to clients is that many times one or both of them are not ready for the relationship or do not have the social skills to deal with the relationship (dealing with conflict, intensity of feelings). In a recent reading I relayed to my client from those crossed over that relationships are not just about soul connections, you have to make the relationship work in this life and often times that is psychology, empathy or behavior. We can have past lives with them that didn’t work as well, to have a soul mate connection does not guarantee success in any life. Sometimes that is not your fault but the other party’s. You were receiving signs that this person is special and to proceed but do be aware that that can lead to a spiritual awakening for one or both of you, a learning experience or a calling to heal, rather than a successful long lasting relationship. If it does end or if you are going through problems I recommend healing what you can in yourself and giving your worries to the divine. I do provide healing under the energy healing section. That can improve the relationship or help you move on to someone better depending on the situation. Many of these soul mate connections failed in their past lives, know that it can also crumble in this life. The BEST you can do is improve upon yourself in areas you want to improve, be honest with yourself and try to see from other peoples’ perspective here. Then give the relationship to the divine as they have the wisdom to take you or the relationship to a better place.

From the perspective of someone that has met with multiple soul mates in this lifetime including a twin flame, I can tell you you have more than one soul mate, so release the worry and fear of scarcity, move forward with the positive belief that another will find you.

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Addictions, some Metaphysical Explanations

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I’ve done some research over the years on addictions, in my case food, and in my family’s case alcohol.  Much of what I have read is science and psychology based, which has value by itself.  While the biological process certainly does play a role in how we feel and what we do, as does the mind, I wanted to know the spiritual side because I do know that is a piece of the puzzle as well.

During a reading I received that addictions and cravings for what you are addicted to sometimes arise when you are trying to shut something or someone up, like a feeling or a voice.  What you are trying to shut up may be anxiety, voices in your mind you don’t want to hear such as your ego or someone else’s, mixed in with your angels, guides or God.  You may be trying to numb a feeling such as grief or a heart break you haven’t quite healed from yet. Go here on my blog on how to heal grief.  If the divine is trying to warn you of something, this may cause some anxiety, from the higher vibration as well as other factors, and that is usually an indication to stop what you are doing and do a self check.  It was explained to me the higher the vibration, the more anxiety you may feel, particularly if you are not in the light.  More to come of this in my book to be published hopefully in 2019.

The recommendation is to stop. Stop. Do nothing. Let the anxiety ground.  Then just chill. Do Nothing for a while. 5-15 minutes of do nothing time. Don’t look at your phone, sit or lay down and do nothing.  If you are sensitive enough you will feel the energy go down from your head all the way down to you feet.  After the 15 minutes, thank your angels, guides and God for being there to bring them forth, imagine a while light around you and ask for guidance or whatever the problem seems to be. The problem may be you’re working too hard or doing too much. You may be using the addiction to get away from worries or work.  Its time to do nothing and receive guidance.

The other metaphysical reason for an addiction seems to be a combo of other people asking for more money and abundance as well as your actions in the past.  As others ask for more money, you may “answer the call” as I put it to buy what they are selling.  What you’ve enjoyed buying in the past is typically what you get pulled in buying again, essentially your actions and law of attraction.  So if you’ve felt happy buying chocolate cake, tortilla chips, going out to eat, alcohol etc. that may be what you are pulled into buying again.  This is with the combination with the physical and mental highs you receive from these actions.

Other non-metaphysical reasons for addictions usually involve serotonin, opioids and dopamine’s affect on your brain.  An excellent book that describes this is “The End of Overeating…” by David Kessler, MD.  Intellectually understanding why you feel a certain way can help you to stop yourself in your tracks, rise above the problem and find another solution.

Addiction provides an escape.  An escape from work, worries, distraction of the mind, what we don’t want to look at, as well as a mental high.  You are ignoring something, many times something deep inside.  My recommendation is to stop and do nothing, grief healing, or look into changing habits (actions).

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Soul Mates and the Stages of Grief

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Sometimes all you have to do is go through a rejection by someone in order to enter into a grieving period. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting.

The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.

Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.

If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. Wait and feel much of the healing at the bottom of your lungs to clear before returning to your day.  When the soreness or feeling in your lungs dissipate the healing is done.  This can help push you past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.

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Energy Healer Paradox: How to Stop Attracting more of What or Who you don’t want

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Have you noticed since your spiritual awakening and healing path you continue to have relationships with those who drag you down or need healing? Do you just want a relationship with someone that has their “stuff” together and not in need?

I’ve been energy healing for years, and much of my readings/healing are about relationships. I found the same pattern occurring in my life where those I would date or court me would be people that would either show me things I needed to heal or need healing themselves. I knew there were people out there in better places in their lives and after so much healing over many years I knew I should be attracting someone great that didn’t drag me down.

During a reading for a client the answer was revealed to me by the angels. We put so much action, thought, and energy into healing, we were attracting more healing, either of ourselves or others. Remember, Law of Attraction. So essentially I and this other healer were attracting more people who could show us what we needed to heal or people who we could heal.

Healers: time to take back your life. You want the life you were healing for, not to be constantly healing. It is good to heal. Realize that if you get into the position of continually healing your life you are putting energy into “my relationships aren’t good enough”, “my life needs healing”, “I need to heal my life to feel better”, “my life isn’t good enough yet so I need to heal it”, “I’m not good enough” or “my life isn’t good enough yet”.

Solutions / Alternative actions:

  • Take a break from healing for a while. Let the dust settle and enjoy the benefits. Notice the positive changes and concentrate on them. Do lists or meditations on what is going right in your life, not into what needs to improve.
  • Get into a meditative state, and visualize you’re sitting across from God and ask God to pull the energy you’ve put into things/people not going right in your life and replace with better energy, such as “my life is great”. I visualized this as a cloud of black/brown energy, God removing it, transforming it into a little green cloud in a large vat of green transmuting energy, and then replacing it where it was taken from with a new set of green energy.
  • Then take time to visualize your life going great right now. This can be a combination of you visualizing what is actually going right as well as things that you wish were going well as if they were. Visualize your goals becoming true now. You’ve put so much thought into what is not right, time to put on the brakes and go in a better direction. When I type this I see a car going down a dusty, rough, long road into grey energy, and turning 90 degrees onto a road with a bright horizon and beautiful colors.
  • If you continue to heal do the above steps again every once and awhile to correct your course. I try to visualize my day going well and smoothly every morning.

New healer’s tip: I’ve noticed lately with big projects where you are healing something with a large surface area it is helpful to “zoom out”, perceive this “problem” as small, then it is easier for the energy to transform because you’ve gotten around the belief that this issue is too big, but rather it is small. Then zoom back in on the energy and see the energy transformed but at a faster pace because you perceived it as small. Think of how big the universe is, and then mentally realize that this issue, or opportunity area, is actually quite small for God to heal.

Elementals and Nature Spirits Series III: Earth Elementals, Trees, Gnomes and Elves

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In the morning I was visited by a gnome who very pleasantly led me outside the door on my way to errand running. He wanted to make himself known, I think he was hinting at what was to come. I knew gnomes were associated with the ground and earth but did not often see them so clearly. In the evening I was visited by a being that looked like a combination of red and charred black lava. In a very pleasant voice he said that he was of Earth. I asked him what does he do and he said that he makes homes for little people. I said is that like caves for physical people, and then I remembered he said “little” people, so I asked him if it was for elementals instead, and he confirmed it was. He showed me an image of soil as if you cut the Earth in half, like seeing an ant farm in a glass case, and I saw little beings in soil. I think this was representative of what this Earth Elemental helps do, which was help out other elementals and nature spirits with where they reside. I asked him how he did this and he said he “shifts”. Then I saw lightning which is usually representative of energy, sometimes associated with the fire elementals. I asked him if he did anything else and I received no. I found that interesting. He seemed to have a very specific, focused responsibility. I suspect there’s probably other Earth elementals and nature spirits who do clean up the energy in the soil, who will make themselves known to me down the line.

When talking to Jesus and my archangels later on I asked specifically if I understood what this Earth Elemental was telling me about making places for Elementals to live in. Jesus showed me a bubble around a spirit and then I saw energy in which for them to live. I asked if there’s a difference between the elemental I spoke to and the ones that actually clean up the energy in the soil and I received a yes. I also received that elementals and other natural spirits help with maintaining the energy in the rocks and the crystals that are used for meditation. Earlier when I was doing a blog on fire elementals I did note that they were responsible for transferring energy. I asked if fire elementals help with the energies in crystals and stones as well. The answer was yes.

Gnomes and Elves for grounding

Five months later, I was having trouble grounding, the reason being I was around a lot of stressed people and electronics. When you are really grounded your legs and feet should feel heavy, particularly your feet, and your head should feel more clear. I tried to imagine the different elemental/nature spirits that I knew of to see which was more helpful in this endeavor. In my experience, the two that consistantly help me ground are gnomes and elves. I picture them around my feet working away. An elf was one of the first natural spirits to make themselves known to me when I started my energy healing courses. If you ever have fear when thinking about elementals or nature spirits think of them as cute best you can (I often visualize them as smurfs). That will help you feel more affection and kindness towards them.

Trees

Trees are quiet, but powerful beings.  When I was feeling particularly grateful to trees one week I decided to send a blessing to the trees within San Diego.  It was in thanks for making the energy in San Diego so positive and inviting.  Unexpected, and not asked for, I received something back.  It rained for a good two weeks, after a long drought.  The amount of rain was unprecedented and much needed for the county.  Shortly thereafter, within a week, I also was introduced to a new love opportunity, someone that was employed as an arborist.

The lesson here is if you want something in your life, sometimes it helps to give out blessings to others ( I ask God to send out the blessing in a way that doesn’t harm others best as possible rather than I sending my energy).  You can send out blessings with what I want in return in mind (give to someone else what you want such as a money blessing, or good health) or sometimes because you appreciate what they have done for you.  Often times I am visited afterwards by a spiritual being thanking me, without asking for it.  Trees are good for grounding; I have been shown a vision of downward pointing green arrows and lines to visualize when you want to be more grounded.  You can touch a tree and ask it out loud to help you ground, releasing the energy that is not yours and no longer serving you.  Different species of trees (Pine vs Eucalyptus) are good at different tasks as well, which is a blog unto itself.  I have often received images of trees carrying messages over distances between themselves, so they have a method of communicating with each other.

Saying Thanks

Want to give something back? You can say out loud that you appreciate them and all they do. You can do a candle ritual with an offering such as organic berries, nuts, chocolate and crystals. If you do leave an offering, clean it up the next morning. I was told they get offended if you leave it there to rot or collect dust.  Lastly you can imagine God blessing the earth with blue, green, and pink energy, then visualize God cleaning up the pollution in the sky, water, and earth.

Earth can help with:* 

  1. Grounding
  2. Mental Clarity – Think of clearing any unnecessary energy in your legs, feet and pelvis, imagine those areas a nice clean red color.  If you want to concentrate on your mind or head for mental clarity think of the element of air or indigo/purple, only after you’ve cleared your bottom chakras for free flowing energy.
  3. Binding or protection from negative energy
  4. Cleansing of energies – crystals or people
  5. Abundance and Money – feng shui says to put a plant in your south east corner as “wood” and crystals such as quartz help with financial abundance.
  6. Getting over addictions – this makes sense as it grounds you and cleans energies, grounding helps one to be less anxious and less afraid

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Earth, Air, Fire and Water by Scott Cunningham

What is Ego?

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A lot of people in the metaphysical and psychological community talk about the ego. They describe it as a person or being that is working against us, something to be attacked and conquered. At some point in the middle of my energy healing journey I was questioning that and for whatever reason that didn’t quite jive with me.

I became interested in egos when I found that I couldn’t stay humble or say that I was sorry for something when I knew I should.  It was like a block that prevented me from saying or acting in a certain way, and it was affecting my relationships, keeping me separate from others.

So I asked my angels and God to send me to the right literature that would accurately tell me what is “ego”.  When I scanned through different metaphysical and psychological literature none of it felt right at that time. Usually I am very good at selecting the right books for me so I knew this meant something significant.  Eventually I received clairvoyantly what it was while at work.

What they showed me was that it was a layer in the energy field around people. They showed it as just a black sheet in one of the layers on my back side. It wasn’t a person or spirit, which really made it less scary.  Knowing this I asked God to heal my ego’s in the best highest way for me, ending in please and thank you. Instantly, this helped me by removing the blocks I was experiencing that were preventing me from being humble and from saying I’m sorry. Some people feel like egos actually protect us, and in some ways I can see that because it prevents you from doing things you don’t want to that make you feel low, such as saying you’re sorry. However, it also hinders us as it keeps us disconnected, because people won’t always tolerate arrogance or someone treating them badly without apologizing.  There are times in social situations where you have to act humble, even if you are good at something, to better get along with others.  I would highly recommend most, if not everyone, do this healing.  You can say it verbatim as I’ve listed below:

” God, please heal my ego’s in the best highest play for me, please and thank you.”

Then, if you’d like, visualize a black layer of your energy field being removed and replaced with green healing light.  If you are more of a Clairsentient, or someone who likes to feel their healing, wait until you feel a tingling or warming sensation dissipate.

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Love Spells or Magic?

I used to get this question a lot when I first started doing readings and I haven’t encountered it much lately. However  recently it’s come to mind that maybe some people still need this question answered.

My clients used to ask me if a love spell that they paid for from another psychic/wiccan worked on their person of interest. In other words would that person love them or react to them more lovingly. Whenever I asked the Archangels, Jesus, or God this question I always received a no. Think about it from this perspective. At some point in your life you’re going to encounter someone who has a romantic interest in you but you don’t have feelings for them. Many times this can be a lesson for them or some sort of motivation to change something in their lives. Whatever their journey is, it is unfortunate and it happens to most of us. Now consider that this person might go and pay someone to cast a spell on you so that you love them back. How would that make you feel? Many times I hear psychics talk about free will and it has been a constant question in my mind how much free will really exists and how much we’re being led through our feelings that are created by God or our angels. In any case, to get to the point, I think that there are number of reasons why whatever these people have paid for doesn’t work. It may have to do with free will, that we are protected at all times or that this person has a lesson to learn. In summary, it doesn’t look like these “spells” work, however they are delivered (no I don’t know how to do a love spell so don’t ask), so save your money.

Instead I would highly recommend you do healing on yourself. Throughout the years as I did healing on myself I found that more people found me attractive.  I think this is because I’ve risen my vibration, I’m happier on the inside and outside, and I make others feel better around me. That’s the best advice I can give you, is to rather heal yourself internally rather than send energy outward towards someone else. Your conscience will thank you and you’ll have one less thing to forgive yourself for later, not to mention way more options for Romance. 😉

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Destiny, Soul Mates and “Meant to Be”

Original article by Psychic Medium Andrea.  

I get this question a lot when doing psychic mediumship readings for others. “Are we meant to be?”, “Are we destined to be together?” or “Is it written in stone that we are to be together?”  I asked my Archangels and Jesus, who I usually connect to during a reading, what the answer was. It seems like there are several scenarios. One scenario is that two people are meant to meet, meant to be together to produce children who’s souls they are meant to journey with and learn from. In this scenario, they can still stay together or split at the end after the children are produced depending on free will and whether they work out their issues.  Our parents didn’t split as much as later generations because of cultural and familial pressure, not to mention it was much harder to be a single mother before the 1990’s.   The second scenario seems to be that the two are meant to meet in a lifetime, and learn relationship lessons with each other.  It doesn’t always mean they will be together in a romantic relationship but they were still meant to meet, which gets confusing to many of my clients.  The connection feels so strong they think the connection itself will do the work for them.  The length of the relationship in this latter scenario seems to rely more on whether they work on their issues.  Put into the mix people’s own pride, beliefs and fears and the relationship becomes more complex.

Many times I do receive that two people were meant to meet, but they may not always work out usually due to communication issues. Communication issues, commonly the lack of expressing emotion, feelings and their interest for the other person, is one of the most common scenarios I run into in relationship readings to date. Many of these issues arise from societal and cultural beliefs that we pick up from many different sources such as family, friends, media, movies and co-workers.  Many parents still tell boys to not show emotion, although hopefully that is taking a turn for the better from what I’ve seen of the millennial generation. This leaves many women wondering what their men think and want.  It leaves them frustrated, especially in the world of texting where women expect an immediate answer to their text as we know our cell phones are near us most of the time. We also tell ourselves to be independent and not rely on others, creating the anxious/avoidant (push/pull, chase/run) dynamic seen in attachment theory.  Other common scenarios I encounter is one person wants the other to reach out as they are too afraid to reach out themselves and not receive an answer (fear of rejection). If one person feels this way it is very possible the other person is feeling the same, leaving them in a stalemate.

To sum up, watch out for areas that you can learn and grow, be honest with compassion, and communicate out your problems with your partner in a wise, empathic way. Look past pride to see both sides of the issue and don’t rely on “meant to be” to carry your relationship until death do you part.

Original article by Psychic Medium Andrea.  Do not copy or distribute without author’s permission.

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God & your Archangels can Guide you through your Interests

Many people I do readings for wonder or worry that they aren’t in the right career or that they won’t be in the right place at the right time to meet someone special. In my experience, God and your Archangels can guide you through your positive feelings. In other words, they can make you feel interested in something you’ve cared about for a while or create a new interest in the moment. Then all one has to do is follow their positive feelings to meet that special someone or go in the right direction. So my recommendation has always been to follow your positive feelings when trying to figure out what to do with your day or life. That could be coffee, books, music, clubs, or amusement parks. Then you will receive more angelic signs, you will be happier and meet other people with similar interests. It sounds simple but many people struggle with doing what “is expected” by parents or what will make others like them even though it doesn’t bring them joy. So be independent, ask yourself what you want to do in the moment, notice the things that interest you and pursue them.  Note that interests can change and that is alright.  Follow your positive feelings and not only find yourself happier but also bringing more of what you want into your life.

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Self Healing

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There are a few methods that I learned in self healing my past that I wanted to share.

  1. “Healing through the decades”

Get into a meditative state (close your eyes and breathe in and out 3 times).  Imagine God and your angels sitting next to you.  Say:

  “Creator of all that is, please pull any negative emotions and negative energy from me when I was ages 0-10 years old.  Replace anything removed with healing energy that is best and highest for me.  Please and thank you, it is done, it is done, it is done, and so it is.”

Wait and feel the energy being removed and replaced or until you intuitively know it is complete.  Then repeat the above prayer, replacing 0-10 with 11-20, then 21-30, until you reach your current age.  This will help with much of the anxiety and negative energy you have been feeling over the years.

2. “Stop the arguing”

Do you get into arguments with someone in your head over and over again concerning what happened in the past or some other reason?  I know some of you won’t want to do what I am about to tell you, but know that is your ego or some other negative side of you.  This prayer Heals significantly and I highly recommend it.  Just say the words, you don’t even have to feel it, or get to the wisdom of the situation before using it.  Mainly it is to release the energy that is no longer serving you and is bothering you (and probably only bothering you at this point).  It will still work even if you don’t feel humble enough to mean it fully at the time.  The healing will take care of that.

Think of situations that to this day still bother you.  Even if you don’t want to give this person anything, even if you hate them, or think you hate them, say this:

 “Creator of all that is, I’m sorry, I forgive myself and I forgive others concerning this situation.  Please and thank you, it is done, it is done, it is done, and so it is.”

Wait and feel the energy being removed and replaced or until you intuitively know it is complete. There may be multiple reasons why you are going through this with someone else.  It could be due to someone’s insecurities, past lives,  a learning experience to make you more empathic or wise in the future. Whatever the reason, this helps to relieve a lot of that energy stuck in the past.

The other thing you can do daily to stay out of arguing with other people’s egos, shadow selves, or energies is to ask for this every morning:

 “Creator of all that is, please block me from connecting to others, unless I consciously ask for it or you feel it is important.  Please and thank you, it is done, it is done, it is done, and so it is.”

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