By Andrea Knight
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You can build a wall and feel safe, but eventually you may discover you’re alone behind it. Tear the wall down completely and feel exposed to everyone who might hurt you. There is another way: boundaries.

There is an important difference between having boundaries and putting up walls. They may sound similar from the outside, but they come from very different places.

Walls are designed to keep people out. When we have our walls up, we may approach others defensively, from fear, insecurity, or the assumption that someone is going to hurt us. Walls can provide a sense of peace and protection, but they can also keep out the very people who might bring something positive into our lives. When everyone is kept “too far out,” there is little opportunity for trust, connection, or a healthy relationship to develop. Walls can sometimes be a sign that we don’t feel confident in our ability to handle what happens if someone crosses the line.

Boundaries are different. A boundary says, “You can come this far, but no farther.” It doesn’t require shutting someone out or assuming the worst about them. Instead, it allows you to respond when someone crosses the line.

Imagine a line drawn in the sand. Someone steps over it. Rather than becoming defensive, fearful, or building a wall, you calmly speak up and let them know they have crossed your boundary. They step back. The line remains, and the relationship can continue but with respectable boundaries.

If someone crosses the line, you have the confidence to address it. You don’t have to attack them, run from them, or assume they are there to hurt you. You no longer seem defensive or unapproachable but people know where the line is and don’t feel like crossing it.

Walls say, “Stay out.”
Boundaries say, “You may approach, but respect the line.”

The goal isn’t to live without protection. It’s to develop enough confidence to protect yourself without shutting out the possibility of healthy, positive relationships.

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