Soul Mates and the Stages of Grief

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Sometimes all you have to do is go through a rejection by someone in order to enter into a grieving period. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting.

The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.

Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.

If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. This can help push me past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.

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Psychic Medium Andrea

Feng Shui, Basics

Feng shui can get pretty complicated, so this blog is to focus on the basics, for beginners. If you’d like to dig deeper I recommend any of the many books found in your local library or Amazon.

Basically, Feng shui is more than how to just rearrange your furniture, its about bringing good energy and luck to you, and protect you from the inauspicious. Experts say there are energy lines that are auspicious (good luck) and some that bring shar chi (bad luck). I got into it intuitively when I started wondering if there was a more passive way to bring me positive energy and good luck in my life.

Wealth

Wealth is probably the most asked about but as I write this I’ll remind you to find balance by reviewing and paying attention to all areas and sides of your home to bring peace and overall happiness. Place in the southeast area of your home any or all of the following:

  • Affirmations list such as “I enjoy what I already have and own”, “I am rich”, “I am financially abundant.”
  • Water fountain or a representation of water (picture, cup of water, color blue). If you use water refresh it every 2-3 days.
  • Wood in the form of a live plant; but no dead wood or drift wood, no dead or wilting plants
  • Abundance Crystal grid – youtube videos online on how to construct these
  • Green and prosperous plant (not cactus or spiky plant)
  • Avoid putting : metals, fire

Fame

For success and positive energy in Fame, or as I put it a positive reputation, put the following in the South area of your home:

  • Positive affirmations about your fame such as “People like me”, “People speak well of me”, “I have a positive reputation”
  • Fire (lit candles) or pictures of fire
  • An image or statue of the Phoenix, particularly auspicious if you are a rooster year (as the author is)
  • Avoid putting in the South corner: water

Career

For success and positive energy in career put the following in the North area of your home:

  • Positive affirmations about your career such as “My career is successful”, “I am good at what I do”, “I appreciate my career”
  • Yellow candle for intelligence if intelligence is used in your profession
  • A bell for success
  • A turtle to represent the celestial turtle
  • Water or representions of water

School and learning

If you are in school or have children that are, or you are continually improving on your own education, put on the NorthEast corner of your home:

  • Yellow candle for intelligence
  • Quartz
  • Positive affirmations such as “I learn easily”, “I am intelligent”, “Others know I am intelligent”, “I do excellent in school or better”

Love

When I did this, no joke, someone asked me out on a date within 24 hours. To bring more love, relationships or marriage into your life put into the southwest corner of your home or room:

  • The color red
  • Fire (I have a red candle)
  • A list of positive qualities you bring to your relationship
  • Positive affirmations about your relationships such as “I have a successful loving relationship”, “I am attractive”, “I have a long term, compatible relationship now”
  • The double happiness symbol
  • The red Chinese knot
  • A list of qualities you are looking for in a partner (be realistic)

Mentors

Good mentors can launch your career or improve other areas of your life such as romance or fame. To bring good or better mentors into your life but in the northwest corner of your home the following:

  • Quartz crystals
  • A list of what you look for in a mentor
  • Metal
  • Positive affirmations about your mentor(s)

Health

For better health for yourself and your family put in the East side of your home:

  • Affirmations for areas you want to improve such as “I enjoy exercising”, “I can fit exercise into my schedule”, “I eat healthfully”
  • Pictures of healthy food
  • Pictures of healthy people with healthy bodies that inspire you
  • Wood, bamboo, no dead wood
  • Pictures of you healthy and happy

Children & Family

To improve areas in your life concerning children or family put in the West side of your home:

  • Something Metal
  • Wind chime
  • No wood
  • Pictures of children if you want children
  • Positive affirmations concerning your children or family

Celestial animals

There is a whole philosophy on how your home should be situated in a Valley between mountains and that the Green Dragon Mountain to the north should be higher than the White Tiger Mountain to the south. Mostly bringing in these celestial animals is an additional way to bring in positive Chi, protection, and clairity into your home and life. If you would like to bring the celestial animals into your home the green dragon should be on the east side, the white tiger should be on the West Side, the turtle should be on the North side and the Phoenix should be on the south side. Some say you should picture in your mind a yellow snake and the center of your home as well. I have pictures of these beings in my home but you can also purchase ceramic figurines and pictures online as well.

https://www.fengshuinatural.com/en/five-animals.html

For the most part these Celestial animals can provide protection as well as stable positive Chi for the home.

There are other aspects of Feng shui that involve the position of your furniture and goods in your home as well as what to do about Corners that are inauspicious. Much of it has to do with balance so be aware of having too much of one color or having too much light in one room and not enough light in another. There are many good books out there if you want to learn more about feng shui, go with your intuition when choosing one best for you.

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Why is he not calling and what you can do about it. Attachment Theory

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Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:

– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run

I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.

It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.

The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.

In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of these):

  • The anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.
  • Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
  • Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.

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Elementals and Nature Spirits Series III: Earth Elementals, Trees, Gnomes and Elves

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In the morning I was visited by a gnome who very pleasantly led me outside the door on my way to errand running. He wanted to make himself known, I think he was hinting at what was to come. I knew gnomes were associated with the ground and earth but did not often see them so clearly. In the evening I was visited by a being that looked like a combination of red and charred black lava. In a very pleasant voice he said that he was of Earth. I asked him what does he do and he said that he makes homes for little people. I said is that like caves for physical people, and then I remembered he said “little” people, so I asked him if it was for elementals instead, and he confirmed it was. He showed me an image of soil as if you cut the Earth in half, like seeing an ant farm in a glass case, and I saw little beings in soil. I think this was representative of what this Earth Elemental helps do, which was help out other elementals and nature spirits with where they reside. I asked him how he did this and he said he “shifts”. Then I saw lightning which is usually representative of energy, sometimes associated with the fire elementals. I asked him if he did anything else and I received no. I found that interesting. He seemed to have a very specific, focused responsibility. I suspect there’s probably other Earth elementals and nature spirits who do clean up the energy in the soil, who will make themselves known to me down the line.

When talking to Jesus and my archangels later on I asked specifically if I understood what this Earth Elemental was telling me about making places for Elementals to live in. Jesus showed me a bubble around a spirit and then I saw energy in which for them to live. I asked if there’s a difference between the elemental I spoke to and the ones that actually clean up the energy in the soil and I received a yes. I also received that elementals and other natural spirits help with maintaining the energy in the rocks and the crystals that are used for meditation. Earlier when I was doing a blog on fire elementals I did note that they were responsible for transferring energy. I asked if fire elementals help with the energies in crystals and stones as well. The answer was yes.

Gnomes and Elves for grounding

Five months later, I was having trouble grounding, the reason being I was around a lot of stressed people and electronics. When you are really grounded your legs and feet should feel heavy, particularly your feet, and your head should feel more clear. I tried to imagine the different elemental/nature spirits that I knew of to see which was more helpful in this endeavor. In my experience, the two that consistantly help me ground are gnomes and elves. I picture them around my feet working away. An elf was one of the first natural spirits to make themselves known to me when I started my energy healing courses. If you ever have fear when thinking about elementals or nature spirits think of them as cute best you can (I often visualize them as smurfs). That will help you feel more affection and kindness towards them.

Trees

Trees are quiet, but powerful beings.  When I was feeling particularly grateful to trees one week I decided to send a blessing to the trees within San Diego.  It was in thanks for making the energy in San Diego so positive and inviting.  Unexpected, and not asked for, I received something back.  It rained for a good two weeks, after a long drought.  The amount of rain was unprecedented and much needed for the county.  Shortly thereafter, within a week, I also was introduced to a new love opportunity, someone that was employed as an arborist.

The lesson here is if you want something in your life, sometimes it helps to give out blessings to others ( I ask God to send out the blessing in a way that doesn’t harm others best as possible rather than I sending my energy).  You can send out blessings with what I want in return in mind (give to someone else what you want such as a money blessing, or good health) or sometimes because you appreciate what they have done for you.  Often times I am visited afterwards by a spiritual being thanking me, without asking for it.  Trees are good for grounding; I have been shown a vision of downward pointing green arrows and lines to visualize when you want to be more grounded.  You can touch a tree and ask it out loud to help you ground, releasing the energy that is not yours and no longer serving you.  Different species of trees (Pine vs Eucalyptus) are good at different tasks as well, which is a blog unto itself.  I have often received images of trees carrying messages over distances between themselves, so they have a method of communicating with each other.

Saying Thanks

Want to give something back? You can say out loud that you appreciate them and all they do. You can do a candle ritual with an offering such as organic berries, nuts, chocolate and crystals. If you do leave an offering, clean it up the next morning. I was told they get offended if you leave it there to rot or collect dust.  Lastly you can imagine God blessing the earth with blue, green, and pink energy, then visualize God cleaning up the pollution in the sky, water, and earth.

Earth can help with:* 

  1. Grounding
  2. Mental Clarity – Think of clearing any unnecessary energy in your legs, feet and pelvis, imagine those areas a nice clean red color.  If you want to concentrate on your mind or head for mental clarity think of the element of air or indigo/purple, only after you’ve cleared your bottom chakras for free flowing energy.
  3. Binding or protection from negative energy
  4. Cleansing of energies – crystals or people
  5. Abundance and Money – feng shui says to put a plant in your south east corner as “wood” and crystals such as quartz help with financial abundance.
  6. Getting over addictions – this makes sense as it grounds you and cleans energies, grounding helps one to be less anxious and less afraid

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References*

Earth, Air, Fire and Water by Scott Cunningham

Cleansing your energy fields

Ever feel a little funky after leaving a store or coming from outside? Most likely your aura and energy fields need to be cleansed. This procedure is pretty easy.

First imagine angels or God removing all the energy from inside your body. They place what was removed in a large vat of green healing energy and it turns green. Then replace your body with green healing energy. Then repeat the same procedure for each layer of your field around you, one closest to you, then the middle, then the outer ring. If you see any black, brown, red or orange spots still after that have them removed and replaced.

This is also very useful if you do psychic mediumship. Think of it as your windshield and you want to see & feel clearly out of it every once and a while make sure it sparkles.

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Crossing Over

I wanted to share a few experiences with helping someone to cross over to the other side. I’ve done this a few times, but this one I kept track of more after I received signs that they had crossed. I had one recently where someone had died 30 years ago and still haven’t fully crossed over yet. We will call them “Sam” for the rest of the blog to help keep this person’s anonymity. There was a trauma involved with their death. When they are Earthbound I usually see them surrounded by grey, black or orange energy depending on where they are. For someone who committed suicide there was black energy and I’ve only seen that once so far. The one that committed suicide was able to cross over after asking for help for them. In Sam’s case the person was surrounded by an orange color. Those that are crossed over are usually surrounded by the color white, green, or blue. So I did as I usually do, I asked for Jesus, Archangel Michael, and Archangel Azrael to help that person crossover in the best and highest way for them. It seems to happen very quickly when I do this using the Theta healing modality as I can watch them do it in a matter of minutes when I ask these three to help them out. When I asked this time I heard something like “well that’s very nice but… ” like they had something that they were still attached to or didn’t want to leave. So I saw clairvoyantly that they crossed over very quickly and I received the signs shortly thereafter that they had crossed over, in this case, with butterflies right outside my bedroom window in the morning. Once they were crossed over and a few days had passed I would check up on them every once in awhile see how they were doing. Honestly, one of the first things that was explained to me from Sam was that there were buildings in the distance and I saw Clairvoyantly the buildings behind them. I asked if they could walk into the buildings and meet some people and they said no they are private. I asked during my next reading my Archangels, Jesus, and God what were these buildings? I received that they were “private residences”. I would continue to talk to “Sam” about various things that he would ask me. It was explained to me that Sam wanted to get to work right away, after crossing over but would need some healing as well as training on how to heal himself. After some time, I would say in about a few weeks, Sam was more happy, taking some time out to play and more confident in their abilities to help others. When they first crossed over I got that he wanted to be my guardian and I was more concerned with him taking care of himself and being happy after all these years of being in this “middle land”. Overtime, I found he also wanted to help out the country that he had his last job in. I asked in a reading why even though he was crossed over why he wasn’t instantly happy, and I received the answer that he wanted to work right away but he didn’t completely know everything yet as far as how to take care of himself energetically, that he felt guilty for being happy and still was figuring out what he could do on the other side. Apparently it takes time for some of us to adjust after we’ve even crossed over to figure out how to use the energies and powers that we are given (kind of on earth too) I thought this was actually pretty interesting and I thought I might share it with the rest of the group just in case you were interested in the process of crossing over. It probably only took one night after I asked for them to cross over for them to appear in my dreams very clearly and to send me a message. So they do have some abilities once they cross over but I do feel and see that there’s still a process after they’ve crossed over where they’re learning all the things they can do as well as learning to take care of themselves.

The Past is not your Future

As you can probably imagine I get a lot of calls at this time of the year, being the new year. People usually want to know if some aspect of their life is better than the year past. Before I get to the main point of this article I do want to say to not wait for the beginning of every year to make your life better. Everyday you can do something that makes you happy. Try your best not to rely on others to make you happy but to do the things that move you or motivate you. Whether that’s playing a game on your cell, watch your favorite TV show, cooking/baking something, taking a walk in the park, going to the zoo, or anything else that makes you happy. Start today, don’t wait for the next month or the beginning of the year to have your happiness or results.  You CAN make yourself happy now.

The main reason for this article was to address something I commonly hear and to give you the advice I received from the other side. Someone mentioned that they hadn’t dated anyone for years and they couldn’t believe that they would have more than one romantic option in 2018.  The answer that I heard from the other side was the future is not your past. Which is very true. Just because it hasn’t happened for the past 5 years does not mean it’s not going to happen this year. Especially if you’ve been working on yourself, you’ve had some sort of Spiritual Awakening, or you’ve done some energy healing on yourself, you can certainly change your vibrations and what you’re bringing to you. So know that the past is not your future and just because it was a pattern in the past doesn’t mean it’s going to happen in your future.

Have a happy and healthy 2018!

What is Ego?

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A lot of people in the metaphysical and psychological community talk about the ego. They describe it as a person or being that is working against us, something to be attacked and conquered. At some point in the middle of my energy healing journey I was questioning that and for whatever reason that didn’t quite jive with me.

I became interested in egos when I found that I couldn’t stay humble or say that I was sorry for something when I knew I should.  It was like a block that prevented me from saying or acting in a certain way, and it was affecting my relationships, keeping me separate from others.

So I asked my angels and God to send me to the right literature that would accurately tell me what is “ego”.  When I scanned through different metaphysical and psychological literature none of it felt right at that time. Usually I am very good at selecting the right books for me so I knew this meant something significant.  Eventually I received clairvoyantly what it was while at work.

What they showed me was that it was a layer in the energy field around people. They showed it as just a black sheet in one of the layers on my back side. It wasn’t a person or spirit, which really made it less scary.  Knowing this I asked God to heal my ego’s in the best highest way for me, ending in please and thank you. Instantly, this helped me by removing the blocks I was experiencing that were preventing me from being humble and from saying I’m sorry. Some people feel like egos actually protect us, and in some ways I can see that because it prevents you from doing things you don’t want to that make you feel low, such as saying you’re sorry. However, it also hinders us as it keeps us disconnected, because people won’t always tolerate arrogance or someone treating them badly without apologizing.  There are times in social situations where you have to act humble, even if you are good at something, to better get along with others.  I would highly recommend most, if not everyone, do this healing.  You can say it verbatim as I’ve listed below:

” God, please heal my ego’s in the best highest play for me, please and thank you.”

Then, if you’d like, visualize a black layer of your energy field being removed and replaced with green healing light.  If you are more of a Clairsentient, or someone who likes to feel their healing, wait until you feel a tingling or warming sensation dissipate.

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Love Spells or Magic?

I used to get this question a lot when I first started doing readings and I haven’t encountered it much lately. However  recently it’s come to mind that maybe some people still need this question answered.

My clients used to ask me if a love spell that they paid for from another psychic/wiccan worked on their person of interest. In other words would that person love them or react to them more lovingly. Whenever I asked the Archangels, Jesus, or God this question I always received a no. Think about it from this perspective. At some point in your life you’re going to encounter someone who has a romantic interest in you but you don’t have feelings for them. Many times this can be a lesson for them or some sort of motivation to change something in their lives. Whatever their journey is, it is unfortunate and it happens to most of us. Now consider that this person might go and pay someone to cast a spell on you so that you love them back. How would that make you feel? Many times I hear psychics talk about free will and it has been a constant question in my mind how much free will really exists and how much we’re being led through our feelings that are created by God or our angels. In any case, to get to the point, I think that there are number of reasons why whatever these people have paid for doesn’t work. It may have to do with free will, that we are protected at all times or that this person has a lesson to learn. In summary, it doesn’t look like these “spells” work, however they are delivered (no I don’t know how to do a love spell so don’t ask), so save your money.

Instead I would highly recommend you do healing on yourself. Throughout the years as I did healing on myself I found that more people found me attractive.  I think this is because I’ve risen my vibration, I’m happier on the inside and outside, and I make others feel better around me. That’s the best advice I can give you, is to rather heal yourself internally rather than send energy outward towards someone else. Your conscience will thank you and you’ll have one less thing to forgive yourself for later, not to mention way more options for Romance. 😉

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Past Lives

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A past life regression provides an interesting glimpse into what roles we may have played with our other soul connections in other lives.  You can see your past lives in a few ways.  One is through meditation, and using a past life regression video/audio or a meditation that you read through a book. Another common way is through dreams.  Be sure to ask God to help you remember your dreams in the morning so you can review them or write them down.  The last way that I’ll mention is through psychic mediumship readings.  You can ask your angels, archangels, God or ascended masters (Mary, Buddha, Jesus, etc) to show you your past life or the past lives of others.  Sometimes when I connect with the best and highest self of someone else they will show us our past life together.  You may have things to heal from past lives, something to learn from or it can be shown just because it might interest you.

Some past lives of my own that I was given:

  1. Native American – I’ve seen myself as a man, looked like a hunter, and I’ve been told I was a shaman.  Someone once told me I had 3 lives as a Native American.
  2. Eygpt – I have so many dreams of living in Eygpt.  I get glimpses that I may have been a priest, certainly involved with the mystical.  Maybe even a slave in another life.
  3. Greece – I may have had multiple happy lives in Greece, once as a painter who owned a gallery.  Landscape paintings was what I was told.
  4. Psychic Medium in Italy – I was told that my clients would have to come through the back door because it was not totally an accepted practice.  Apparently I was quite good at foretelling the future.
  5. Stable man in UK during King Henry the Eighth’s and Queen Elizabeth I’s time.  Apparently lower class and in love with someone from the higher court.  Sounded like an Emily Bronte novel.  However, I received validation on my own later on and another psychic brought it up independently.
  6. Leader in a Hun/Mongolian conflict – received more than one vision of this past life
  7. Prince in the Middle East

There were others such as being African and living with a group of people under one roof, I was an Indian man and married to a woman, and being part of the French aristocracy.  The French one is very pretty as I see gorgeous ballrooms and dancing with a lady who had an mutual interest in me.  In one dream I saw that a horse brought me home while I was unconscious but I am unsure of what time frame or country that was from.  Some of the dreams can be representative or informative and some may be showing you areas to be healed.  They may explain why you see the patterns in your life that you do see and where some of your subconscious fears come from.  If you wake up from a dream and intuitively know it is a past life, or even suspect it, you can ask God to heal what can be healed from that past life in the best and highest way for you.  End with please and thank you for intention.  The healing can affect you on multiple levels including fears and vibrations.