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By Andrea Knight
Much of what we have learned from empaths or clairsentient people comes from other gurus and teachers. Here are a few misunderstood beliefs around what it means to be an empath that I have found independently in my experiences with some solutions to help you feel better now.
1. We absorb other people’s energy. I learned that this was not always true when doing my Dominion article, instead it may be more rare than you think. Instead, like an actor taking on a role, you may be a mimicking the energies of others, and all you have to say is “reverse”, visualizing all your energies, protectors and guides turning around in a circle to reverse out of this feeling. Ask them instead to “mimic” peace and feeling safe. I will also visualize an arrow going back in time to a point I was feeling at peace, like after a good meditation. In a few seconds I will be restored to that feeling. Much faster than meditations, energy healing sessions, saging and sweetgrass…you get the point. Can be done in seconds while you are anywhere. This solves the problem for me in most instances where I feel icky, off, not safe or brain fogged.
2. That it is actually only our spirit absorbing or mimicking others. Not always true and less often than you think. Instead what I have found is I am feeling my guides, angels and other spiritual helpers mimicking or absorbing the energies and entities. They are doing their part in protecting me and I am feeling what they are protecting me from. What I recommend here is in my “heal the healers” article, imagine your spiritual guides, healers, and other spiritual helpers getting cleansed when you heal yourself. You can just visualize this with all their chakras being cleared, aligned and their energies restored to brilliant colors. You may feel better faster than only working on yourself. Also this is another awesome way to elevate your psychic abilities to the next level as they help facilitate the psychic, mediumship and energy healing process. This method is helpful especially when you’ve done everything you possibly can on yourself but not feeling enough of a change to the positive. “Heal your healers.”
3. That everything we feel, mimic or absorb is from people. Nope. Sometimes you are feeling the environment, the rocks, trees, plants, air, as well as what people, animals and spirits have left behind energetically. You are potentially reading what is, what was and what may be in the future if you have that ability. Mentally note it, and then ask your spiritual entourage to “reverse” like in #1.
This concept of “reversing” out of feeling like others, the environment or spirits is a result of independent research and experience. Please do not copy without proper reference to author and links to this site.
It is possible to go to the grocery store, even Walmart with great psychic or energy healing abilities and feel at peace with no brain fog. Watch out for that article in the future but some of that advice is contained in the recommendations above.
I was wandering the library looking for something new to read and I found this book with the little chocolate truffle in the front and I thought it looked delicious so I brought it home. I finished this book in about 2 days. The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken,The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken It describes several personality types and psychological problems that may commonly occur with women that prevents them from having a long-lasting relationship. The author describes these personality types as the following:
+ The Old Faithful – if you stay attached to an ex for an unusually long time comparative to others around you, if you’re feeling like you missed out on your “one true” chance for love, or have beliefs in “The One”
+ The Whirlwind Dater – this is someone who dates a lot but has not settled on one man for a long period of time, this is also someone who has a hard time relaxing
+ The Standstill – this person rarely if ever dates, this can be common with those that are still a virgin or have only had sex a handful of times or less. This person is afraid of anyone finding out how little they have dated or have been intimate and often get embarrassed when someone asks them when was their last date and how often they’ve dated.
+ The Forbidden Fruit Hunter – this person is continually attracted to those that are unavailable or married, they may reject nice guys who show interest that are available, they may come from a single-parent home or has strong emotional connections with their family
+ The Compassionate Rescuer – this person has a hard time saying no to people, they feel like they have to rescue someone or is habitually with someone that they feel needs them, they continually try to stay flexible in order to please others, they give more then they receive in relationships, they are often condescended to or controlled by family or partners
+ The Wanderer – this woman is the life of the party, can make friends very easily but has a hard time staying faithful and hops from one relationship to another, they can get anxious if they’re not in a relationship and like to indulge in things that are pleasurable or celebratory
+ The Uptown Girl – she enjoys compliments and dresses or looks the part so she can get a lot of compliments. They look for men that either have money, statusor power.
+ The Runaway Bride – very similar to the movie, this person is somebody that really doesn’t know themselves and doesn’t stay in a relationship very long, they commonly bolt when the relationship gets too serious
The book mainly outlines some common psychological issues that prevent you from seeing the situation as it truly is. One of which that she talks about is subconscious beliefs that are sabotaging you. If you find yourself in a situation after a date or when someone finds you attractive that you start having a lot of negative thoughts then you may need to work on your subconscious beliefs. I recommend using Theta healing which I do provide on my website which has turned much of my life around towards the positive as well as my thinking. Theta can affect Law of Attraction and the type of people that you draw to you as well as how they treat you when they are in your life. It can affect those that are already in your life as well and how they treat you but in a different more positive way. You can find my Theta healing offerings here. Theta healing works on current life, past life, and other soul level beliefs, removing the negative beliefs and replacing it with positive which in turn affects how people see you, how you think and what you attract to you.
Two other of the more common issues that she discusses is the signs that you may have intimacy issues because you are trying to fit in a man’s world so you act professionally when you should act more sexual or feminine to a love interest. Essentially you have not learned how to be feminine, open or sexy and are uncomfortable in that role.
The other common issue she describes is feeling overly responsible for your parents’ happiness, usually one parent over the other. You’ve taken on a role that subconsciously and consciously you will have a hard time separating yourself from. You may enter into a relationship and start wondering, “but who’s going to take care of Mom?”
This is just a quick summary of the book, there are other issues and solutions provided. I highly recommend you get the book from your local library or Amazon to see which of these personality types best describes you. You may be a combination of all the above. Once you’ve figured out your patterns that will give you a launching point to then find the healing modality that best works for you to turn your life and thinking around.
When I go out on some days I’ll come back home sometimes and feel like I need to go out again and have more experiences, what I have been told during readings is “wanderlust”. This constant feeling, wanting, yearning to either go back to where I just came from or to do something adventurous again that day or soon is sometimes not feasible, financially responsible, and can be exhausting. I don’t always like this feeling of wanting all the time. What usually helps me in those times is first imagining God as a big hand scooping up all the energy and entities absorbed or picked up from the area’s I had just been that are around me and sprinkling it back where they came from. I see that hand sprinkling the energy and entities along the route I had just gone through, this returns the energy back to where it came from. Second I use affirmations and I’ll say three times out loud the following: “I am satisfied with the food I’ve had today”, “I am satisfied with the entertainment I’ve had today”, “I feel satisfied and content now”, “I feel satisfied with the drink I have had today”. You can also include other affirmations such as “I am at peace”, “my body is safe”, “my soul is safe”, and “my mind is safe” to regain some peace back into your life. I have a Blog that you can search for using the magnifying glass on the top toolbar called “Finding Peace“, go through that blog to help restore some of the peace in your life as well. A lot of it is you just absorb a bunch of energy that either wants to go back to where it came from or links you to certain areas that cause you to long to go back. Also you get a rush mentally from all the excitement you’ve just been through, so there is a psychological component as well. I find returning the energy to where it came from and saying “I am satisfied…” helps with the wanting feeling or dissatisfaction with what I’ve already received. I even do this when going out to the grocery store or other every day places, it helps me to feel better and more grounded.
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I receive many calls from those who received signs that their romantic interest or boyfriend is someone special (222, soul mates, twin flames) often times having deep feelings for them, premonitions and other signs that they are spiritually connected or “meant to be”. In many of these readings their feelings that this is a special connection is true. soul mate breakup, soul mate breakup
The hard message to deliver to clients is that many times one or both of them are not ready for the relationship or do not have the social skills to deal with the relationship (dealing with conflict, intensity of feelings). In a recent reading I relayed to my client from those crossed over that relationships are not just about soul connections, you have to make the relationship work in this life and often times that is psychology, empathy or behavior. We can have past lives with them that didn’t work as well, to have a soul mate connection does not guarantee success in any life.
Sometimes that is not your fault but the other party’s. You were receiving signs that this person is special and to proceed but do be aware that that can lead to a spiritual awakening for one or both of you, a learning experience or a calling to heal, rather than a successful long lasting relationship. If it does end or if you are going through problems I recommend healing what you can in yourself and giving your worries to the divine. I do provide healing under the energy healing section. That can improve the relationship or help you move on to someone better depending on the situation. Many of these soul mate connections failed in their past lives, know that it can also crumble in this life. The best thing you can do is improve upon yourself in areas you want to improve, be honest with yourself and try to see from other peoples’ perspective here. Then give the relationship to the divine as they have the wisdom to take you or the relationship to a better place.
From the perspective of someone that has met with multiple soul mates in this lifetime including a twin flame, I can tell you you have more than one soul mate, so release the worry and fear of scarcity, move forward with the positive belief that another will find you.
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I’ve done some research over the years on addictions, in my case food, and in my family’s case alcohol. Much of what I have read is science and psychology based, which has value by itself. While the biological process certainly does play a role in how we feel and what we do, as does the mind, I wanted to know the spiritual side because I do know that is a piece of the puzzle as well.
During a reading I received that addictions and cravings for what you are addicted to sometimes arise when you are trying to shut something or someone up, like a feeling or a voice. What you are trying to shut up may be anxiety, voices in your mind you don’t want to hear such as your ego or someone else’s, mixed in with your angels, guides or God. You may be trying to numb a feeling such as grief or a heart break you haven’t quite healed from yet. Go here on my blog on how to heal grief. If the divine is trying to warn you of something, this may cause some anxiety, from the higher vibration as well as other factors, and that is usually an indication to stop what you are doing and do a self check. It was explained to me the higher the vibration, the more anxiety you may feel, particularly if you are not in the light. More to come of this in my book to be published hopefully in 2019.
The recommendation is to stop. Stop. Do nothing. Let the anxiety ground. Then just chill. Do Nothing for a while. 5-15 minutes of do nothing time. Don’t look at your phone, sit or lay down and do nothing. If you are sensitive enough you will feel the energy go down from your head all the way down to you feet. After the 15 minutes, thank your angels, guides and God for being there to bring them forth, imagine a while light around you and ask for guidance or whatever the problem seems to be. The problem may be you’re working too hard or doing too much. You may be using the addiction to get away from worries or work. Its time to do nothing and receive guidance.
The other metaphysical reason for an addiction seems to be a combo of other people asking for more money and abundance as well as your actions in the past. As others ask for more money, you may “answer the call” as I put it to buy what they are selling. What you’ve enjoyed buying in the past is typically what you get pulled in buying again, essentially your actions and law of attraction. So if you’ve felt happy buying chocolate cake, tortilla chips, going out to eat, alcohol etc. that may be what you are pulled into buying again. This is with the combination with the physical and mental highs you receive from these actions.
Other non-metaphysical reasons for addictions usually involve serotonin, opioids and dopamine’s affect on your brain. An excellent book that describes this is “The End of Overeating…” by David Kessler, MD. Intellectually understanding why you feel a certain way can help you to stop yourself in your tracks, rise above the problem and find another solution.
Addiction provides an escape. An escape from work, worries, distraction of the mind, what we don’t want to look at, as well as a mental high. You are ignoring something, many times something deep inside. My recommendation is to stop and do nothing, grief healing, or look into changing habits (actions).
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I heard very clearly when in a reading state one day the word “Absolution”. Kind of hilarious, I went to 10+ years of Catholic school, and while I had heard of the word before I had to look it up after the vision to make sure I knew what it meant. I thought it had something to do with sinning, maybe forgiveness. I received several times in my energy healing and readings that we can beat ourselves up sometimes over what we have done in this current life and in past lives. A very clear vision popped up after I received this word “Absolution” after asking how to do this. This is what I received and hurriedly wrote down.
“pain of existence hopelessness we think we are sinners – should change, sometimes we know energetically or soul level we have been bad in the past complicated forces cause us to “misbehave” (not all our fault that we do) we are punishing ourselves physically instead of going through each cause and “I forgive myself, others…” there is a faster way absolve sins saw a vision of Jesus under a rain cloud, rain falling on him, on knees praying, also saw myself on knees praying by bed, then rising up and saying thank you. Say a prayer asking God to absolve my sins both in current and past lives on your knees (picture Jesus next to you with the intention that Jesus not get hurt). say amen. the rain represented the healing water to wash away sins”
The vision outlined a method with which to absolve your sins in past lives and current lives without the need for a priest. I’ve struggled with the word “sin” since taking the metaphysical journey, knowing that sometimes there are other forces within and outside of us that cause us to act negatively. I won’t go into that now, but if you feel that you continually pull yourself down mentally, physically, energetically for the past, this is a wonderful healing to lift you up. I really felt energetically refreshed afterwards with more positive energy.
Like the vision said, kneel (or lay down), and imagine Jesus with you in the rain which is cleansing both of you. Imagine yourself in the white light. Then see yourself floating above the clouds, up into the universe as high as you can go until you reach an area of the universe that is all white. Imagine you and Jesus in this area either kneeling or lying down with God watching over you. Tell yourself that Jesus won’t get hurt in the process (I had a problem with this that I didn’t want him dying or getting hurt for my sins, you might too). Thank God, your angels, archangels and Jesus for being there. Ask God out loud to absolve your sins in past lives and current life. End with please and thank you, Amen. Watch or feel what happens. Wait until the vision or feelings stop and your feet feel heavy or grounded. Say “Thank you God, Jesus and angels”. Imagine yourself going back down into the universe, through earth’s atmosphere, back into your body. Imagine your feet turning into roots and going down to the core of the earth, bringing green light to fill your body and energy field around you. Say out loud, “I am grounded, I am grounded, I am grounded” and wait until your feet feel like heavy rocks. Then continue about your day.
Sometimes a rejection from those we are interested in can lead to us entering the grief cycle. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting to them.
The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.
Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.
If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. Wait and feel much of the healing at the bottom of your lungs to clear before returning to your day. When the soreness or feeling in your lungs dissipate the healing is done. This can help push you past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.
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I noticed an unusual amount of activity around me recently and clairvoyantly I was seeing white flashes during my readings, more than usual. Previously I was visited by the Fire King and I was in the middle of writing about Elementals. I was in a Theta state and I asked who it was. I saw a picture of water clairvoyantly and I saw the word “undines”. Then they presented themselves to me in a way that I would understand, kind of like a blue humanoid with a flowing skirt beneath them which I recognized from an image I had seen previously done by an artist. I also heard the sound of water moving back and forth like the ocean.
I asked them what they helped with on Earth and at first they told me that I wouldn’t understand, which I agreed with respect. However I asked them if they helped clean up some of the pollution and negative energy in the water and they responded in the affirmative. The undines then showed me visually the stars in the sky and I saw them twinkling. They said that they helped make the stars shine. When I asked what this meant I saw someone’s eyeball and the water in their eye. Other duties they mentioned that some undines may be responsible for included to help cool down the air, clean energy, heal, control fire, and cool down fire. When I go to the ocean oftentimes I will see a soul mate clairvoyantly appear or even on one occasion I was asked out on a date. There seems to be a connection with the ocean and soul mates / romance.
I noticed a pattern that every time I visited the Pacific Ocean my heart would hurt and I intuitively realized that it was connected to pollution and other negative energy water was handling. I thought to send the ocean and it’s energies a blessing to help with this. The following night I started seeing mermaids very clearly clairvoyantly when I lay in bed and closed my eyes. I hadn’t seen them before that and I was surprised because honestly I didn’t think they were “real” metaphysically or physically. After that they appeared a couple more times, usually connected with when I sent blessings to ocean pollution cleanup efforts.
A positive way of garnering a nature spirit or an elemental’s attention is by asking God to send blessings to pollution cleanup in the area of your choice. Once I sent blessings to the trees and it rained for 2 weeks. Shortly there after they sent me a romantic option who’s occupation was as an arborist (San Diego at the time was in a long drought so this was unprecedented). Trees are discussed more in my other article about earth spirits.
When asking for high level water elementals to tell me about beings in their plane, the being that presented himself looked like a pharaoh, but said he could look like any royal figure. Another being that looked like King Titan from the Little Mermaid showed up to give guidance as well, so these high level beings typically like to present themselves as royalty as said before.
Feng shui can get pretty complicated, so this blog is to focus on the basics, for beginners. If you’d like to dig deeper I recommend any of the many books found in your local library or Amazon.
Basically, Feng shui is more than how to just rearrange your furniture, its about bringing good energy and luck to you, and protect you from the inauspicious. Experts say there are energy lines that are auspicious (good luck) and some that bring shar chi (bad luck). I got into it intuitively when I started wondering if there was a more passive way to bring me positive energy and good luck in my life.
Note: You may think you know where your North, South, East and West are, but double check with Google maps. Your front door may be facing Northwest, not North, check to be sure.
Wealth is probably the most asked about but as I write this I’ll remind you to find balance by reviewing and paying attention to all areas and sides of your home to bring peace and overall happiness. Place in the southeast area of your home any or all of the following:
Affirmations list such as “I enjoy what I already have and own”, “I am rich”, “I am financially abundant.”
Water fountain or a representation of water (picture, cup of water, color blue). If you use water refresh it every 2-3 days.
Wood in the form of a live plant; but no dead wood or drift wood, no dead or wilting plants
Abundance Crystal grid – youtube videos online on how to construct these
Green and prosperous plant (not cactus or spiky plant)
Avoid putting : metals, fire
For success and positive energy in Fame, or as I put it a positive reputation, put the following in the South area of your home:
Positive affirmations about your fame such as “People like me”, “People speak well of me”, “I have a positive reputation”, “I receive positive reviews”
Fire (lit candles) or pictures of fire, red decor
An image or statue of the Phoenix, particularly auspicious if you are a rooster year
Avoid putting in the South corner: water
For success and positive energy in career put the following in the North area of your home:
Positive affirmations about your career such as “My career is successful”, “I am good at what I do”, “I appreciate my career”
A bell for success
A 3 legged turtle to represent the celestial turtle
Water or representions of water as well as metal objects (I use keys and coins)
School and learning
If you are in school or have children that are, or you are continually improving on your own education, put on the Northeast corner of your home:
I recommend anything using the element of air as well as air is associated with intelligence and mental clarity
Quartz or other crystals that can help with intelligence
Positive affirmations such as “I learn easily”, “I am intelligent”, “Others know I am intelligent”
Element of Earth
Love and relationships
To bring more love, relationships or marriage into your life put into the Southwest corner of your home or room:
A list of positive qualities you bring to your relationship
Positive affirmations about your relationships such as “I have a successful loving relationship”, “I am attractive”, “I have a long term, compatible relationship now”
The double happiness symbol
The red Chinese knot
A list of qualities you are looking for in a partner (be realistic)
Element of Earth, no fire, no metals
Mentors and helpful friends
Good mentors can launch your career or improve other areas of your life such as romance or fame. To bring good or better mentors into your life but in the Northwest corner of your home the following:
A list of what you look for in a mentor
Element: Metals, either metal art or other metal décor (I use a lot of key décor and key art)
Positive affirmations about your mentor(s)
Familyand Physical Health
East side of the home
Elements: Wood and water
Positive affirmations concerning your family and health
Crystals or other tokens that remind you of health
Affirmations for areas you want to improve such as “I enjoy exercising”, “I can fit exercise into my schedule”, “I eat healthfully”
Pictures of healthy food
Pictures of healthy people with healthy bodies that inspire you
For better health for yourself put in the center of your home:
Tokens that mean spiritual health to you
Affirmations around your spirituality or spiritual health (I use a lot around peace)
Elements of Earth, Fire, the color yellow (I used a stone box with a yellow tealight candle in it along with my affirmations)
Children, Creativityand New Projects
To improve areas in your life concerning children or creativity put in the West side of your home:
Pictures of children if you want children
Positive affirmations concerning your children, creativity or new projects
There is a whole philosophy on how your home should be situated in a Valley between mountains and that the Green Dragon Mountain to the north should be higher than the White Tiger Mountain to the south. Mostly bringing in these celestial animals is an additional way to bring in positive Chi, protection, and clairity into your home and life. If you would like to bring the celestial animals into your home the green dragon should be on the east side, the white tiger should be on the West Side, the turtle should be on the North side and the Phoenix should be on the south side. Some say you should picture in your mind a yellow snake and the center of your home as well. I have pictures of these beings in my home but you can also purchase ceramic figurines and pictures online as well.
For the most part these Celestial animals can provide protection as well as stable positive Chi for the home.
There are other aspects of Feng shui that involve the position of your furniture and goods in your home as well as what to do about Corners that are inauspicious. Much of it has to do with balance so be aware of having too much of one color or having too much light in one room and not enough light in another. There are many good books out there if you want to learn more about feng shui, go with your intuition when choosing one best for you.
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Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:
– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run
I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.
It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.
The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.
In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of theThe Anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.
Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.
In the morning I was visited by a gnome who very pleasantly led me outside the door on my way to errand running. He wanted to make himself known, I think he was hinting at what was to come. I knew gnomes were associated with the ground and earth but did not often see them so clearly before this. In the evening I was visited by a being that looked like a combination of red and charred black lava. In a very pleasant voice he said that he was of Earth. I asked him what does he do and he said that he makes homes for little people. I said is that like caves for physical people, and then I remembered he said “little” people, so I asked him if it was for elementals instead, and he confirmed it was. He showed me an image of soil as if you cut the Earth in half, like seeing an ant farm in a glass case, and I saw little beings in soil. I think this was representative of what this Earth Elemental helps do, which was help out other elementals and nature spirits with where they reside. I asked him how he did this and he said he “shifts”. Then I saw lightning which is usually representative of energy, sometimes associated with the fire elementals. I asked him if he did anything else and I received no. I found that interesting. He seemed to have a very specific, focused responsibility. I suspect there’s probably other Earth elementals and nature spirits who do clean up the energy in the soil, who will make themselves known to me down the line.
When talking to Jesus and my archangels later on I asked specifically if I understood what this Earth Elemental was telling me about making places for Elementals to live in. Jesus showed me a bubble around a spirit and then I saw energy in which for them to live. I asked if there’s a difference between the elemental I spoke to and the ones that actually clean up the energy in the soil and I received a yes. I also received that elementals and other natural spirits help with maintaining the energy in the rocks and the crystals that are used for meditation. Earlier when I was doing a blog on fire elementals I did note that they were responsible for transferring energy. I asked if fire elementals help with the energies in crystals and stones as well. The answer was yes.
Gnomes and Elves for grounding
Five months later, I was having trouble grounding, the reason being I was around a lot of stressed people and electronics. When you are really grounded your legs and feet should feel heavy, particularly your feet, and your head should feel more clear. I tried to imagine the different elemental/nature spirits that I knew of to see which was more helpful in this endeavor. In my experience, the two that consistantly help me ground are gnomes and elves. I picture them around my feet working away. An elf was one of the first natural spirits to make themselves known to me when I started my energy healing courses. If you ever have fear when thinking about elementals or nature spirits think of them as cute best you can (I often visualize them as smurfs). That will help you feel more affection and kindness towards them.
Trees are quiet, but powerful beings. When I was feeling particularly grateful to trees one week I decided to send a blessing to the trees within San Diego. It was in thanks for making the energy in San Diego so positive and inviting. Unexpected, and not asked for, I received something back. It rained for a good two weeks, after a long drought. The amount of rain was unprecedented and much needed for the county. Shortly thereafter, within a week, I also was introduced to a new love opportunity, someone that was employed as an arborist.
The lesson here is if you want something in your life, sometimes it helps to give out blessings to others ( I ask God to send out the blessing in a way that doesn’t harm others best as possible rather than I sending my energy). You can send out blessings with what I want in return in mind (give to someone else what you want such as a money blessing, or good health) or sometimes because you appreciate what they have done for you. Often times I am visited afterwards by a spiritual being thanking me, without asking for it. Trees are good for grounding; I have been shown a vision of downward pointing green arrows while at the zoo to use as a visualization when you want to be more grounded. You can touch a tree and ask it out loud to help you ground, releasing the energy that is not yours and no longer serving you. Different species of trees (Pine vs Eucalyptus) are good at different tasks as well, which is a blog unto itself. I have often received images of trees carrying messages over distances between themselves, so they have a method of communicating with each other.
Want to give something back? You can say out loud that you appreciate them and all they do. You can do a candle ritual with an offering such as organic berries, nuts, chocolate and crystals. If you do leave an offering, clean it up the next morning. I was told they get offended if you leave it there to rot or collect dust. Lastly you can imagine God blessing the earth with blue, green, and pink energy, then visualize God cleaning up the pollution in the sky, water, and earth.
Earth can help with:*
Grounding – my article on grounding specifically can be found here
Mental Clarity – Think of clearing any unnecessary energy in your legs, feet and pelvis, imagine those areas a nice clean red color. If you want to concentrate on your mind or head for mental clarity think of the element of air or indigo/purple, only after you’ve cleared your bottom chakras for free flowing energy. Helps to include air with mental clarity rituals.
Binding or protection from negative energy
Cleansing of energies – crystals or people
Abundance and Money – feng shui says to put a plant in your south east corner as “wood” and crystals such as quartz help with financial abundance.
Getting over addictions – this makes sense as it grounds you and cleans energies, grounding helps one to be less anxious and less afraid
High level beings from this plane said they like to present themselves as Kings and Queens, but not as Sultans like Air and Fire.
More on the different elementals groups can be found here:
I wanted to share a few experiences with helping someone to cross over to the other side. I’ve done this a few times, but this one I kept track of more after I received signs that they had crossed. I had one recently where someone had died 30 years ago and still haven’t fully crossed over yet. We will call them “Sam” for the rest of the blog to help keep this person’s anonymity. There was a trauma involved with their death.
When those that have passed are Earthbound I usually see them surrounded by grey, black or orange energy depending on where they are in their afterlife journey. For someone who committed suicide there was black energy and I’ve only seen that once so far. The one that committed suicide was able to cross over after asking for help for them. In Sam’s case the person was surrounded by an orange color. Those that are crossed over are usually surrounded by the color white, green, or blue.
When someone I care about passes, I ask for Jesus, Archangel Michael, and Archangel Azrael to help that person crossover in the best and highest way for them. It seems to happen very quickly when I do this using the Theta healing modality as I can watch them do it in a matter of minutes. When I asked this time I heard something like “well that’s very nice but… ” like they had something that they were still attached to or didn’t want to leave. So I saw clairvoyantly that they crossed over very quickly and I received the signs shortly thereafter that they had crossed over, in this case, with butterflies right outside my bedroom window in the morning.
Once they were crossed over and a few days had passed I would check up on them every once in awhile see how they were doing. Honestly, one of the first things that was explained to me from Sam was that there were buildings in the distance and I saw Clairvoyantly the buildings behind them. I asked if they could walk into the buildings and meet some people and they said no they are private. I asked during my next reading my Archangels, Jesus, and God what were these buildings? I received that they were “private residences”.
I would continue to talk to “Sam” about various things that he would ask me. It was explained to me that Sam wanted to get to work right away, after crossing over but would need some healing as well as training on how to heal himself. After some time, I would say in about a few weeks, Sam was more happy, taking some time out to play and more confident in their abilities to help others. When they first crossed over I got that he wanted to be my guardian and I was more concerned with him taking care of himself and being happy after all these years of being in this “middle land”, being earthbound. In another reading, I found he also wanted to help out the country that he passed in.
I asked my archangels in a reading why that even though Sam was crossed over why he wasn’t instantly happy, and I received the answer that he wanted to work right away but he didn’t completely know everything yet as far as how to take care of himself energetically, that he felt guilty for being happy and still was figuring out what he could do on the other side.
Apparently it takes time for some of us to adjust after we’ve even crossed over to figure out how to use the energies and powers that we are given (kind of on earth too). I thought this was actually pretty interesting and I thought I might share it with the rest of my followers just in case you were interested in the process of crossing over. It probably only took one night after I asked for them to cross over for them to appear in my dreams very clearly and to send me a message. crossing over, crossing over
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As you can probably imagine I get a lot of calls at this time of the year, being the new year. People usually want to know if some aspect of their life is better than the year past. Before I get to the main point of this article I do want to say to not wait for the beginning of every year to make your life better. Everyday you can do something that makes you happy. Try your best not to rely on others to make you happy but to do the things that move you or motivate you. Whether that’s playing a game on your cell, watch your favorite TV show, cooking/baking something, taking a walk in the park, going to the zoo, or anything else that makes you happy. Start today, don’t wait for the next month or the beginning of the year to have your happiness or results. You CAN make yourself happy now. The Past is Not your Future,The Past is Not your Future
The main reason for this article was to address something I commonly hear and to give you the advice I received from the other side. Someone mentioned that they hadn’t dated anyone for years and they couldn’t believe that they would have more than one romantic option in 2018. The answer that I heard from the other side was the future is not your past. Which is very true. Just because it hasn’t happened for the past 5 years does not mean it’s not going to happen this year. Especially if you’ve been working on yourself, you’ve had some sort of Spiritual Awakening, or you’ve done some energy healing on yourself, you can certainly change your vibrations and what you’re bringing to you. So know that the past is not your future and just because it was a pattern in the past doesn’t mean it’s going to happen in your future.
Have a happy and healthy 2018!
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A lot of people in the metaphysical and psychological community talk about the ego. They describe it as a person or being that is working against us, something to be attacked and conquered. At some point in the middle of my energy healing journey I was questioning that and for whatever reason that didn’t quite jive with me.
I became interested in egos when I found that I couldn’t stay humble or say that I was sorry for something when I knew I should. It was like a block that prevented me from saying or acting in a certain way, and it was affecting my relationships, keeping me separate from others.
So I asked my angels and God to send me to the right literature that would accurately tell me what is “ego”. When I scanned through different metaphysical and psychological literature none of it felt right at that time. Usually I am very good at selecting the right books for me so I knew this meant something significant. Eventually I received clairvoyantly what it was while at work.
What they showed me was that it was a layer in the energy field around people. They showed it as just a black sheet in one of the layers on my back side. It wasn’t a person or spirit, which really made it less scary. Knowing this I asked God to heal my ego’s in the best highest way for me, ending in please and thank you. Instantly, this helped me by removing the blocks I was experiencing that were preventing me from being humble and from saying I’m sorry. Some people feel like egos actually protect us, and in some ways I can see that because it prevents you from doing things you don’t want to that make you feel low, such as saying you’re sorry. However, it also hinders us as it keeps us disconnected, because people won’t always tolerate arrogance or someone treating them badly without apologizing. There are times in social situations where you have to act humble, even if you are good at something, to better get along with others. I would highly recommend most, if not everyone, do this healing. You can say it verbatim as I’ve listed below:
” God, please heal my ego’s in the best highest play for me, please and thank you.”
Then, if you’d like, visualize a black layer of your energy field being removed and replaced with green healing light. If you are more of a Clairsentient, or someone who likes to feel their healing, wait until you feel a tingling or warming sensation dissipate. ego
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I used to get this question a lot when I first started doing readings and I haven’t encountered it much lately. However recently it’s come to mind that maybe some people still need this question answered.
My clients used to ask me if a love spell that they paid for from another psychic/wiccan worked on their person of interest. In other words would that person love them or react to them more lovingly. Whenever I asked the Archangels, Jesus, or God this question I always received a no. Think about it from this perspective. At some point in your life you’re going to encounter someone who has a romantic interest in you but you don’t have feelings for them. Many times this can be a lesson for them or some sort of motivation to change something in their lives. Whatever their journey is, it is unfortunate and it happens to most of us. Now consider that this person might go and pay someone to cast a spell on you so that you love them back. How would that make you feel? Many times I hear psychics talk about free will and it has been a constant question in my mind how much free will really exists and how much we’re being led through our feelings that are created by God or our angels. In any case, to get to the point, I think that there are number of reasons why whatever these people have paid for doesn’t work. It may have to do with free will, that we are protected at all times or that this person has a lesson to learn. In summary, it doesn’t look like these “spells” work, however they are delivered (no I don’t know how to do a love spell so don’t ask), so save your money.
Instead I would highly recommend you do healing on yourself. Throughout the years as I did healing on myself I found that more people found me attractive. I think this is because I’ve risen my vibration, I’m happier on the inside and outside, and I make others feel better around me. That’s the best advice I can give you, is to rather heal yourself internally rather than send energy outward towards someone else. Your conscience will thank you and you’ll have one less thing to forgive yourself for later, not to mention way more options for Romance. 😉
A past life regression provides an interesting glimpse into what roles we may have played with our other soul connections in other lives. You can see your past lives in a few ways. One is through meditation, and using a past life regression video/audio or a meditation that you read through a book. Another common way is through dreams. Be sure to ask God to help you remember your dreams in the morning so you can review them or write them down. The last way that I’ll mention is through psychic mediumship readings. You can ask your angels, archangels, God or ascended masters (Mary, Buddha, Jesus, etc) to show you your past life or the past lives of others. Sometimes when I connect with the best and highest self of someone else they will show us our past life together. You may have things to heal from past lives, something to learn from or it can be shown just because it might interest you.
Some past lives of my own that I was given:
Native American – I’ve seen myself as a man, looked like a hunter, and I’ve been told I was a shaman. Someone once told me I had 3 lives as a Native American.
Eygpt – I have so many dreams of living in Eygpt. I get glimpses that I may have been a priest, certainly involved with the mystical. Maybe even a slave in another life.
Greece – I may have had multiple happy lives in Greece, once as a painter who owned a gallery. Landscape paintings was what I was told.
Psychic Medium in Italy – I was told that my clients would have to come through the back door because it was not totally an accepted practice. Apparently I was quite good at foretelling the future.
Stable man in UK during King Henry the Eighth’s and Queen Elizabeth I’s time. Apparently lower class and in love with someone from the higher court. Sounded like an Emily Bronte novel. However, I received validation on my own later on and another psychic brought it up independently.
Leader in a Hun/Mongolian conflict – received more than one vision of this past life
Prince in the Middle East
There were others such as being African and living with a group of people under one roof, I was an Indian man and married to a woman, and being part of the French aristocracy. The French one is very pretty as I see gorgeous ballrooms and dancing with a lady who had an mutual interest in me. In one dream I saw that a horse brought me home while I was unconscious but I am unsure of what time frame or country that was from. Some of the dreams can be representative or informative and some may be showing you areas to be healed. They may explain why you see the patterns in your life that you do see and where some of your subconscious fears come from. If you wake up from a dream and intuitively know it is a past life, or even suspect it, you can ask God to heal what can be healed from that past life in the best and highest way for you. End with please and thank you for intention. The healing can affect you on multiple levels including fears and vibrations.
Sea salt baths are excellent ways to cleanse negative energy out of your system including your etheric field and reseal it with positive energy. As an empath I tend to take on a lot of energy from other people. While energy healing certainly does help, a sea salt bath cleanses as well and is something everyone can do regardless of where they are in their spiritual journey. Put about a handful of sea salt in your tub and soak in it for about an hour. Use your judgement on how long to stay in the tub, if you are highly sensitive you will be able to tell or you will just know. Once done, get out of the tub and rub apple cider vinegar all over yourself. Then rub camomile tea all over next. Take a shower to rinse off the vinegar and tea. These last two steps additionally strip, cleanse and reseal the energy field around you. I wouldn’t recommend just taking a sea salt bath without these additional steps. After taking the bath you’ll notice that you feel much better and have more energy. That is because you are carrying less negative energy around with you and your energy field is repaired. Not only is this good for you physically and spiritually, but you’ll find that taking the extra time out for yourself can be a lovely break during the week that you look forward to. Be sure to soak the vinegar bottle in the tub with you to keep it warm for when you get out of the bath. Make it fun for yourself by adding rose petals, candles and fragrances to your bath time.
It is very important to cleanse and energize your crystals regularly. How often you need to cleanse your crystal depends on how often it is used. If you meditate with your crystal you’ll notice that the vibration may not be as strong as it has been over time. If you hold your crystal in your left hand, ask it if it is cleansed and energized, and it doesn’t vibrate, it’s probably time to cleanse that crystal. One way to cleanse and energize is to put your crystals in the sun and moonlight for 24 hours (except amethyst, only use moonlight for amethyst). This removes any lower energy and energizes the crystal. Another method is to put your crystals in sea salt water from 4-24 hours depending on how much you’ve used your crystal. You have to be careful with this method because there are certain crystals that you can’t put in water or they’ll disintegrate like selenite. If you are unsure of your new crystals preferred cleansing method, you can always google “metaphysical” and the crystal’s common name. You can also use any number of vibrational instruments such as tuning forks, singing bowls, bells and cymbals to cleanse your crystals. Burning sage & sweetgrass and waving the smoke over your crystals is also recommended for removing negative energy and replacing it with positive. Enjoy your new crystals!
First, you are not alone. We are all interconnected by the group consciousness and that includes with nature. We can all do something and collectively when we make the effort we are setting an example for others and it will catch on over time. Other people will look up to you and watch the decisions you make and will want to emulate this in their lives. However, if you want to take a more holistic, metaphysical approach to this subject, I recommend a good meditation that I have tried and have been asked to pass on to each of you. how can one person save the earth,how can one person save the earth,how can one person save the earth Get into your meditative state and imagine you are surrounded by the Creator’s white light of love and protection. Expand that bubble to surround your home. Then expand it to surround your city, until it grows to surround your state. Eventually expand your white bubble to surround mother earth with positive white light. Imagine that the Creator is sending this light from above and see it completely surrounding the earth from space. Then imagine a green light coming down from Creator, surrounding the earth. Imagine the green light healing the land and the trees, transmuting or removing any pollution. Then imagine a blue light around earth. Imagine the blue light is cleaning up all the water, healing the sea creatures and removing pollution from the water and air. Lastly, imagine a pink light coming down and surrounding the earth. Imagine the pink light surrounding each of it’s inhabitants with love energy around the world. Imagine the pink light sending love to the elementals, the spirits, rocks, trees and surrounding nature. Imagine every person on every continent happy, wars ending, and everyone embracing and smiling. Continue to imagine earth surrounded in each of these lights and leave space, reentering the atmosphere, your home and eventually come back to yourself.
Why can’t God just heal the earth herself?
We have free will. If we want to use up the resources and pollute and not clean it up, we are free to do so. Angels, elementals, and the creator is not allowed to interfere with our free will.
What does this meditation do?
It does a number of things. It sets your intention that you want the earth, its inhabitants and nature saved. It tells the universe, which has infinite abundance, what you want by visualizing the healing occurring. Also, it asks the Creator, angels, elementals and other spirits to please help us and the visualization gives the request energy.
If you have been blessed with abundance, you can also help the planet and its inhabitants by buying more organic food, choosing environmentally kind electricity (wind, solar) and using environmentally safe chemicals. This will create a demand for these items, making them more available to other people and cheaper over time. If you want to feel better in your home and neighborhood, buy house plants and plant a tree. All of these actions create love energy in and around your home and helps the environment. Another thing I do is unplug anything I’m not using, like the stereo, can opener, toaster, and other kitchen appliances. You can’t unplug everything but you’d be surprised at how much energy you’d save with very little effort. Even though you may not be using that can opener, it still may be using something called “phantom energy” just by being plugged in. Appliances still drain energy when they are plugged in even though they are not being actively used.
When each of us does what we can, we can really make a difference in our world.
There a multiple ways to do this, but for someone not trained in healing you can buy a simple pink candle from Wal Mart or Target for around a buck with the virgin Mary on the front. I usually say an Our Father and a Hail Mary plus the prayer on the back of the candle then state my intention that I want whatever attachment in me or my family member to be taken away by Archangel Michael. Then I put a teaspoon of cinnamon in the pink candle, moving it away from the wink so the candle will burn, and light the wick. I then close with an Our Father and Hail Mary. If you say other prayers to your creator/source/God whatever you believe in and just use a pink candle with no image on the front, that may work too, although I haven’t tried that yet. I received this advice from Ann Simon, a wonderful medium and healer. If you want more advice, feel free to set up an appointment with me here: http://www.feathersinfinity.com.