Energy Healer Paradox: Healers Attracting the Wrong Friends and Romantic Partners

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Have you noticed since your spiritual awakening and healing path you continue to have relationships with those who drag you down or need healing? Do you just want a relationship with someone that has their “stuff” together and not in need?  Do you feel fatigued and drained?

I’ve been energy healing for years, and much of my readings/healing are about relationships. I found the same pattern occurring in my life where those I would date or court me would be people that would either show me things I needed to heal or need healing themselves. I knew there were people out there in better places in their lives and after so much healing over many years I knew I should be attracting someone great that didn’t drag me down.

During a reading for a client the answer was revealed to me by the angels. We put so much action, thought, feeling and energy into healing, we were attracting more healing, either of ourselves or others. Remember, Law of Attraction. So essentially I and this other healer that was a client were attracting more people who could show us what we needed to heal or people who we could heal.

Healers: time to take back your life. You want the life you were healing for, not to be constantly healing. Don’t get me wrong, it is good to heal yourself and others. Realize that if you get into the position of continually healing your life you are putting energy into “my relationships aren’t good enough”, “my life needs healing”, “I need to heal my life to feel better”, “my life isn’t good enough yet so I need to heal it”, “I’m not good enough” or “my life isn’t good enough yet”.

Solutions / Alternative actions:

    • Ask the Creator of All that is to cancel, clear, delete the energy you’ve put into healing your friends, family and romantic partners, and replace it with energy of those coming into your life (or already in it) that are stable, good people that you don’t need to constantly “fix”. This shouldn’t affect your business as you are only healing those in your personal life.  I visualized this as a cloud of black/brown energy, Creator removing it, transforming it into a little green cloud.  Visualize those that are stable and not needing major improvement coming to you now. You’ve put so much thought into what is not right, time to put on the brakes and go in a better direction. When I type this I see a car going down a dusty, rough, long road into grey energy, and turning 90 degrees onto a road with a bright horizon and beautiful colors. If you continue to heal do the above steps again every once and awhile to correct your course.
    • Take a break from healing for a while. Let the dust settle and enjoy the benefits. Tell yourself you are good enough now.  Do some grounding.  Notice the positive changes and concentrate on them. Do lists or meditations on what is going right in your life, not into what needs to improve. You may be constantly looking at things that need to be healed or improved and your energies are constantly “on” looking for opportunity areas.
    • Read my article on Empathy and Clairsentient maintenance to remove the energies of others and feel like yourself.

New healer’s tip: I’ve noticed lately with big projects where you are healing something with a large surface area it is helpful to “zoom out”, perceive this “problem” as small, then it is easier for the energy to transform because you’ve gotten around the belief that this issue is too big, but rather it is small. Then zoom back in on the energy and see the energy transformed but at a faster pace because you perceived it as small. Think of how big the universe is, and then mentally realize that this issue, or opportunity area, is actually quite small for God to heal.  This will help with any negative belief systems you may have. 

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Empathy Modes, Dealing with your Clairsentience

As a clairsentient, or empath as some like to refer to it, you may feel a lot of energy from people, places and even inorganic material.  Not all of it is important for us to interpret and can become overwhelming.  One concept that is important to keep in mind is that our energy may pick up some of this energy it is feeling and bring it with you, or it may leave parts of itself behind.  Before you know it you are feeling people and places you have left hours ago!  That is why it is important to do some empathic energy maintenance.

Empathic energy maintenance 

First return everyone’s energy back to them and your energy back to yourself.  Imagine God removing all energies and entities you’ve picked up or absorbed around the world. Friends, family, soul mates, places and clients.  Imagine God releasing them back to where they came from. Now imagine every where your energy may have gone as well, including those you may have read, healed, thought about, even energy in stores you may have stopped by that day. Imagine God’s hand above the Earth vacuuming that energy up transforming it green to heal it and then returning it back to you in healed form.  End with “please and thank you God.”

Grounding, Our Ally Against Brain Fog

When I first started my metaphysical journey no one really emphasized grounding enough. The higher chakras were the rock stars that received a lot of attention as everyone was looking to receive higher guidance from the divine. I found that my life had shifted a lot after my energy healing certifications, and preferring stability, I looked for an answer to keep my abilities but also regain some mental clarity. clairsentience

Here are some common symptoms of being ungrounded:

  • Loss of focus
  • Feeling less intelligent
  • Swift changing moods
  • Hunger that can’t be satisfied
  • Feeling more drained or fatigued than you’ve ever felt
  • Anxieties that are not explainable
  • Feeling everything and everyone around you
  • Headaches or migranes

I will talk a lot about grounding as I went through a difficult time without it, and because my clients still struggle with this concept.  When we are not grounded we kind of float up into this stream of energy connecting us and capture, absorb, and interpret this data.  Some of it we can take down with us.  When we ground, we are returning that back to earth or leaving it up in the stream.  Therefore, when grounded we are interpreting and receiving much less information and can think more clearly.  We can also regain a sense of individuality, and instead of experiencing everyone else’s fear, emotions and cravings, we can just feel like “us” again.  With all of that we regain mental clarity and peace.

The main reasons why clients struggle with grounding include:

  • Fear of loss: Many of them are looking for love, and want to be “present” for any guidance they may receive on their love interest. I remind them that they will still receive guidance intuitively, when you are grounded your angels don’t leave you and can still deliver guidance.  I even receive clairaudient and clairvoyant messages while grounded.  They are also afraid they will lose their “powers” if they ground and go back to being metaphysically asleep.  Not true.  I ground after readings, and if anything readings can be clearer as grounding removes the other clients’ energies from me.
  • Fear of the underworld: Many years ago, the underworld was supposedly in the ground, deep in the earth. This fear is most likely subconscious in your life now, but needs to be removed.  I recommend theta healing or any subconscious healing modality.
  • Fear of being unaware: They are afraid they won’t “feel” people as much and therefore not know when they are in danger. You will still have your intuition, ask God and angels to intuitively guide you so you can have peace and cleansing by being grounded.  From personal experience, feeling less can be a relief for a time.

Do this when you get up in the morning and whenever you feel you are getting less grounded again. Grounding does not reverse your progress on your metaphysical abilities, think of it as you are washing them off in a waterfall, washing away the psychic “dirt” and when you come up again you can see clearer.  If you have other problems with grounding, ask archangels Raphael and Uriel to heal them on all levels before you go to bed for a few nights until you notice a difference.

Method:

First return everyone’s energy back to them and your energy back to yourself as noted at the beginning of the article.  This will help with grounding.

Close your eyes and visualize black cords from your feet extend down until they meet the core of the earth, with mother earth grabbing them and securing them into the core.  I usually ask for this connection to core for 24 hours.  Visualize the rest of your body turn into the branches and the leaves, extending into your energy field and your energy field turning a dark green as well as the rest of your body.  Visualize air blowing away any energetic debris, then a waterfall wash over you to toss energies to the ground where they become soaked into the earth.  Lastly visualize green fire surrounding you and your energy field, dissolving any negative energy or energies that no longer serve you.  Using this process you will have used all 4 elements.  Sometimes I’ll take an actual shower, light candles asking for grounding, open windows for air to blow in and put black stones in my pockets for additional intention.

You should feel your feet become heavier, like putting on heavier boots and they should stay that way for the length of the time you ask. The other thing you can do is ask God to turn down your clairsentience to a level that’s more comfortable for you for that same amount of time so you’re not feeling the electronics, the people, and the energy around you which is really too much information. I watch a hand turn a knob all the way to the left until it clicks, meaning the clairsentience is turned down low or off depending on what you want. Remember you have your intuition and really that is what you want to use when you are out and about as it is less confusing. Intuition is a “knowing” of what you want to do without having to hear or see spiritually.

The other thing I recommend is to go into what I call “Modes”. These are essentially different grounding methods depending on the situation you’re about to enter or be in. Ask God to put you in these modes before you engage in each of these activities.

Reading Mode – After I’m done with a reading as well as when I wake up in the morning I ask God to take me out of reading mode. This makes me less sensitive to the energies around me that I don’t really need to be feeling and helps you feel more grounded and safe. I also find that you’re automatically put into reading mode once you ask God to help you do a reading. I don’t feel like you have to ask to be put into reading mode but I do ask to be taken out of it in the best highest way for me. End with please and thank you for intention. I will often see a door close and be locked with the word “readings” on it along with a time amount that I want to be out of reading mode such as 8 hours.

Travel mode – For any of you in the metaphysical fields that can feel the EMF, static electricity, and radiation around you, planes, cars and airports are not always fun. However, I was told to ask to be put into travel mode before I go on my trip. When I did this I became even more grounded then when I ask to be taken out of reading mode. I can also focus more and have more mental clarity. This is essentially “super grounded” you so you’re not feeling everybody’s “stuff” and not as fearful.

Work mode – If you have found after your spiritual awakening you can’t focus at work and you feel more fatigued this is because you’re feeling the energy from electronics, the people around you and their thoughts as well as the environment. You don’t need all of this information. I would highly recommend asking God to put you in some sort of “work mode” as I would call it, so you can focus more at work and have more mental clarity.  Sometimes your coworker’s energy may be negative for reasons that have nothing to do with work and may have to do with their personal life so it’s not always useful information.

You will still have your intuition in any of these modes. Don’t forget to use affirmations on intelligence and mental clarity for an additional boost in these areas.

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The 5 Love Languages for Animals and Singles

Many of my clients in the past have come to me wondering if they’ll ever receive love in their life without a partner. Many people have heard of the 5 love languages, and this book is usually put in the context of already established couples. However many of us do not have a romantic partner but still need our love tank filled so that we feel happier and more content in our daily lives.

What if I told you that you can receive love outside a romantic relationship? Everyone has heard of the Five Love Languages. I always knew my primary love language in the past was spending time with someone, but what does one do when they’re single and are not receiving love from another actual physical person?

The 5 love languages are:

+ Acts of service

+ Physical touch

+ Giving gifts

+ Words of Affirmation

+ Quality Time

Suggestions:

Acts of Service (receiving)

+ Receive an energy healing or massage (also counts as physical touch)

+ Meditation with crystals asking healers (angels or higher) to help heal you. The higher on the scale like thrones, cherubim or seraphim are great if you are really feeling out of sorts. Work towards 15 minutes to an hour depending on where you are. Place a lot of black onyx and tourmaline along your legs and feet for reducing anxiety.

+ Go out to a restaurant or movie theater where you receive service without having to cleanup

+ Have someone else clean your home once a quarter or twice a year if you don’t currently have a service

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

Physical touch

+ You may already being using methods to achieve contentment or calm through touch. Some people cuddle with a blankie, pillow, or take a nap on a soft bed. Some rub their arms or put on scented lotion.

+ Receive a massage from a therapist

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

Giving / receiving gifts

+ Budget permitting, go online or in person shopping. Get yourself something nice, whether than is luxury soap, lotion, electronics, whatever you would like.

+ Give yourself a bubble bath and extra long shower with scents, duckies, whatever brings you happiness

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

Quality time

+ Spend quality time with friends you are comfortable with

+ Tell yourself you’re giving yourself “quality time” and do something on your own that won’t make you feel bad. Again make sure you won’t feel lonely with whatever you choose. Arts and crafts, going to the beach, go to a cafe, take a walk m, watch a movie and playing games are a few examples.

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

Words of affirmation

+ Use affirmations such as those in Louise Hay’s books based on areas in your body that hurt or choose your own. “I love myself”, “I am beautiful”, as well as other things you commonly beat yourself up on.

+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy

I was sitting and thinking about how when we don’t receive enough hugs or we haven’t taken some time off to relax, rest or receive physical touch that a lot of us can be in pain physically. One of my workarounds to this is to ask God for enough love so I don’t feel pain for 24 hours. I perform a visualization (with feeling) in the morning and I say “I have enough love in my life so don’t feel pain but I can still ground”. I found without that last piece about grounding that I would be ungrounded but feeling euphoric. This is not good if you have to focus and do some logical thinking. Staying grounded helps you think clearly, gets rid of that brain fog and be less anxious.

PETS TOO!!

Recently I had an intuitive revelation that it’s not just humans that are affected by the five love languages, but also animals.

Pets have similar Love Languages in that some cats and dogs like to be petted and some do not (physical touch). Some like to sit on your lap and feel comfortable with having that physical touch and some don’t want to be touched at all. In the latter case that love language may not be their primary language. Some appreciate your acts of service of providing food and cleaning their area. My cat would occasionally present her stuffed mice for me at my garage door where I usually left in the morning as a gift to me. Some of your pets may have caught live birds and mice and present them to you. A lot of animals and plants do like to be spoken to in a calm or happy manner. Although they may not understand you, your tone of voice will generally lift up their mood and energy.

Animals have similar love languages, and will probably prefer one or a few over others. They give you love using the same love languages with the exception of words of affirmation (does tail wagging or purring count?)

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The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken

I was wandering the library looking for something new to read and I found this book with the little chocolate truffle in the front and I thought it looked delicious so I brought it home. I finished this book in about 2 days. The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken,The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken
It describes several personality types and psychological problems that may commonly occur with women that prevents them from having a long-lasting relationship. The author describes these personality types as the following:

+ The Old Faithful – if you stay attached to an ex for an unusually long time comparative to others around you, if you’re feeling like you missed out on your “one true” chance for love, or have beliefs in “The One”

+ The Whirlwind Dater – this is someone who dates a lot but has not settled on one man for a long period of time, this is also someone who has a hard time relaxing

+ The Standstill – this person rarely if ever dates, this can be common with those that are still a virgin or have only had sex a handful of times or less. This person is afraid of anyone finding out how little they have dated or have been intimate and often get embarrassed when someone asks them when was their last date and how often they’ve dated.

+ The Forbidden Fruit Hunter – this person is continually attracted to those that are unavailable or married, they may reject nice guys who show interest that are available, they may come from a single-parent home or has strong emotional connections with their family

+ The Compassionate Rescuer – this person has a hard time saying no to people, they feel like they have to rescue someone or is habitually with someone that they feel needs them, they continually try to stay flexible in order to please others, they give more then they receive in relationships, they are often condescended to or controlled by family or partners

+ The Wanderer – this woman is the life of the party, can make friends very easily but has a hard time staying faithful and hops from one relationship to another, they can get anxious if they’re not in a relationship and like to indulge in things that are pleasurable or celebratory

+ The Uptown Girl – she enjoys compliments and dresses or looks the part so she can get a lot of compliments. They look for men that either have money, status or power.

+ The Runaway Bride – very similar to the movie, this person is somebody that really doesn’t know themselves and doesn’t stay in a relationship very long, they commonly bolt when the relationship gets too serious

The book mainly outlines some common psychological issues that prevent you from seeing the situation as it truly is. One of which that she talks about is subconscious beliefs that are sabotaging you. If you find yourself in a situation after a date or when someone finds you attractive that you start having a lot of negative thoughts then you may need to work on your subconscious beliefs. I recommend using Theta healing which I do provide on my website which has turned much of my life around towards the positive as well as my thinking. Theta can affect Law of Attraction and the type of people that you draw to you as well as how they treat you when they are in your life. It can affect those that are already in your life as well and how they treat you but in a different more positive way. You can find my Theta healing offerings here. Theta healing works on current life, past life, and other soul level beliefs, removing the negative beliefs and replacing it with positive which in turn affects how people see you, how you think and what you attract to you.

Two other of the more common issues that she discusses is the signs that you may have intimacy issues because you are trying to fit in a man’s world so you act professionally when you should act more sexual or feminine to a love interest. Essentially you have not learned how to be feminine, open or sexy and are uncomfortable in that role.

The other common issue she describes is feeling overly responsible for your parents’ happiness, usually one parent over the other. You’ve taken on a role that subconsciously and consciously you will have a hard time separating yourself from. You may enter into a relationship and start wondering, “but who’s going to take care of Mom?”

This is just a quick summary of the book, there are other issues and solutions provided. I highly recommend you get the book from your local library or Amazon to see which of these personality types best describes you. You may be a combination of all the above. Once you’ve figured out your patterns that will give you a launching point to then find the healing modality that best works for you to turn your life and thinking around.

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Why We Want Those Who We Can’t Have and What to do about it

There are a few psychological and metaphysical reasons why you may be interested in somebody who is either not interested in you or that treats you poorly.

1. You are connecting to their soul energy, you’ve pierced through their outer layers and have gotten to a spiritual side of them that contains unconditional love. As you try to concentrate on other things, thoughts of them pop up in your mind because your energies are communicating. The problem is if on a physical level they are not as aware of this as you are, and are not interested in you in that way, they may not treat you very well or really contact you much at all. This leads me to the psychological problems that can lead to feeling “stuck” on a person.

2. When someone is busy or doesn’t take much interest in us we think that they’re more special or have more value. When someone is busy sometimes we interpret that as they’re more important, that they have more friends, and are more popular than us. We put them on a pedestal thinking they are more rare and harder to get, increasing their “scarcity“, and therefore boosting their value in our mind. This is also why someone who “breadcrumbs” you, in other words only contacts you every once in awhile, can get you addicted to them as well.

3. If you have a pattern of wanting people that are either taken or hard to actually be with in a relationship you may have a fear of your relationships failing. In other words you put yourself in a position where you never actually get together with the person so it can never really fail, thereby avoiding heartbreak, humiliation, social judgement from friends and family. You may have to face the beliefs as to why you don’t actually want to be in a real relationship due to fears of it failing. For this I recommend theta healing, which works on fears and beliefs on a subconscious level, which I can provide over distance on my website: www.mediumandreaknight.com

4. You get more of a rush mentally with dopamine when you have a roller coaster ride relationship than with a steady one. If you fantasize or are around that person for a shorter period of time you get that jolt of dopamine and then you leave them it allows you to reset so when you come back to them you get that jolt of dopamine again. To stay with them for a longer period of time where it is consistently good doesn’t give you that rush of dopamine after a period of absence.

5. Something feels unresolved or incomplete after you’ve been chasing them for a while? Maybe it feels unbalanced and you want it to feel equal. If you look up the reciprocity principal as I learned in Marketing, people feel obligated to return a favor. In this case you may have given this person a lot of attention, a lot of energetic love, and a lot of your mental time. Your brain wants something back in other words you want reciprocity. The unfortunate instance here is that you just may not get it back. What I recommend is a grief healing to get you to acceptance which I can also provide through my energy healing services on my website. www.mediumandreaknight.com

Recommendations:

1. Compartmentalize – this is a coping mechanism that helps you to focus on things like work and other areas of your life while shelving your romantic life for a while. It helps you not lose your life while you are thinking about or feeling stuck on another person.
2. Watch something that puts you in a better mood – for me this is youtube videos on comedy, interviews with mentors or animals. Get out of depression and feeling spent or empty from giving them so much love and attention and receiving little back.
3. Date other people – know you’re worth it and receive some of those compliments you are giving to someone else.
4. Work on yourself – psychologically and metaphysically, change how you see the situation. Someone treating you like crud should not be attractive and shouldn’t pull you towards them, instead know intellectually why this is happening to you by reading articles like this or books so when you encounter it you can change the situation and bring someone to you that treats you better. Go to my website, I provide theta healing which work on the fears and beliefs that sabotage you. Www.mediumandreaknight.com

Other reads:

+ Attached by Levine, Amir find at amazon.com

+ Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus by Gray, John PhD

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Temptations and Cravings

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Something was revealed to me today. Ever since my energy healing training, the seemingly random cravings to buy or consume seemed to increase. There would be a carrot or a reward at the end of doing what I wanted, such as an angel or God sign (repeating numbers, feathers, coins, signs). However, sometimes this would lead me into problems such as gaining weight, or going over budget. As I wandered the store today I pondered why I would still feel a craving to buy after meditating, when “they” know I have a budget. As I say to myself I have a budget, I usually have this thought inside me that says “that’s not the metaphysical way of thinking”, “that is scarcity or that is limited thinking”. The universe is abundant. However through experience I know that to continue to ignore a budget or your diet leads to putting yourself in a place where you have to do something more extreme other than maintenance to get back to your goal.

I received the wisdom while walking around that there are so many things in the world that you could buy. Zoom out and think about the entire world, all the bazaars and marketplaces in Moracco, Israel, India, China and so forth. You will not be able to buy from them all and store it, so there may always be a wanting or craving at some point, no matter how rich you become. Knowledge of this, the concept of “knowing” that there are so many things out there you could buy, that could bring joy in the short moment, but you could not possibly buy them all for lack of space, budgetary reasons, or in order to keep a slim body, this concept will help you understand that you can’t possibly please all of these forces that want you to buy, whatever their motivations may be.

There are a lot of people that ask for financial abundance and money, or people have jobs connected with these retail items, so there’s a energetic pool out there tugging you to buy, creating these cravings. These forces aren’t always necessarily evil it’s just there’s a lot of energetic pulls and you can’t satisfy them all. Even Bill Gates can’t buy everything and store it, he has a limit too.

Understanding that people are asking for abundance and you can’t possibly satisfy them all, will hopefully give you a release by separating you from the emotion and give you peace.

My recommendation? Don’t look at it as an evil craving and attach good or bad to it, look at it from the knowing that there’s a lot of beings and energetic forces out there. Know that you can’t satisfy them all so don’t feel guilt or loss. Keeping a budget, or keeping a caloric diary, will help create the boundaries and limits that help you succeed in your goals. They help you to know when to stop listening to that craving to buy or consume the next thing. Those forces pulling you to go outside of those limits aren’t necessarily evil, they just exist. Buddha talked about the wanting, so did Jesus, and both recommended balance.

Set your boundaries, write them down, when the wanting comes tell them you are at your limit. After this, if its supposed to be, then watch the magic happen to being it to you if necessary. If nothing happens, you didn’t need it, it was for a different reason such as someone needing to keep their job or someone asking for abundance.

When your budget or calories are up, have a list handy of free or zero calorie activities that make you happy such as walk in the park, listening to music, watch tv, watch a movie you already own, play a game or one of my favorites, take a nap.

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Health & Fitness: Changing to Healthier Food Choices

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Many times clients will ask me how they can change their habits so they could eat healthier.  I was able to change my eating habits over the years from fast food & sugar to eating mostly whole vegetables and protein during the day. To get to this point it took a lot of research, trial and error, and reading books from those that succeeded before me. healthier food choices, healthier food choices, healthier food choices

We use habits to avoid timely and stressful decision making as well as to conserve willpower. Habits involve 3 things; a cue, the habit itself and reinforcement. An example of a cue would be when I used to get to the office in the morning I’d go to the kitchen to make a cup of coffee.  I found that milk products can make me tired, coffee adds acid to the stomach which makes me feel hungrier and caffeine can make me anxious so I wanted to change the habit of having caffeinated coffee in the morning.  In order to change a habit, change one part of the cycle of cue, habit and reinforcement. To change all 3 might be too much of a shock to the system and you may resist the change because the mind may perceive it to be too much change at once. In this case, the cue was I got to work and wanted to get my cup of coffee. While I kept the cue and reinforcement, I changed the habit from getting coffee to getting mint tea, which was caffeine free and milk free. The other change to habit I could do is getting decaf with soy milk. Then the reinforcement was the enjoyment of my cup of hot beverage. You can use this strategy to slowly change your unwanted habits to more desired ones. Make sure that what you do exchange your habit to is acceptable to you, such as I like mint tea but not everyone does. Make sure that your reinforcement is still acceptable to you otherwise the change may not last long.

If you want to eat when you get home every night, change one thing about that process, such as peanuts instead of chips. If you eat cookies at midnight, change it to popcorn instead of cookies. Whatever the change is make sure that it is acceptable to you so that the change is not too drastic and try to do them one at a time instead of changing all your unwanted habits at once. Sometimes you may transition from one food to another.  For instance, I wanted to change from having so many burgers and fries to more salad.  To change right to salad with no “bridge” from burgers would be difficult, so what I did was I would put everything but the bun on salad, preferably spinach as spinach is a diuretic (lose water weight) and an appetite suppressant.  Then over time you will get used to the idea that burger salads, cheesesteak salad or even pizza salads (remove the topping and put on spinach) can be as satisfying for lunch or dinner.  Then you can transition from there to salads with less cheese or more healthy protein (chicken, fish, vegan alternatives) once you are comfortable with the new routine.
It may take some time to change every habit you want to change but it is possible.  The key is to be kind to yourself, understand the psychology such as change one thing at a time to avoid resistance, know what is an acceptable alternative for you and give it the time you need. You may have been reinforcing some of these habits for decades, like eating once you came home from school turned into eating when you came home from work.  You may need more than a day or two to change a habit that has been reinforced over the years.

Some fast notes:

  • Eat spinach, apples or applesauce with no added sugar, pineapple and green beans as they are diuretics (lose water weight) and are appetite suppressants. They have more fiber to slow the digestive process.  They make you feel more full.
  • Increasing hot water or tea intake during the day will help you to feel satiated and get more water in your body.
  • If you just downed a whole bag of chips and want more, really what you are is thirsty.  Take two pints of water “like a pill”, in other words drink them quickly rather than sip.  This will help you to feel full and restore your “sanity”.  Same thing after alcohol.
  • Salt, fat and sugar can create a reaction where your brain and stomach stop telling you that you are full (where did that bag of chips go?).  If you ever detox fully from these items you will know what I mean, your satiety can be restored and you feel full eating less whole food.  Over time try to reduce these and be aware that chips and sweets have an affect on your brain that cause you to crave them more and remove your satiety.  Same goes for artificial sugars.  It helps to be aware so you can make better choices in the future.

Best of luck!

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Good reads:

“The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg

“Willpower” by Roy Baumeister, John Tierney

“The end of overeating. Taking control of the insatiable American appetite.” by Kessler, M.D. David

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Health & Fitness: Running

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When I first started running back in 1995 I didn’t really know that there were a few things to watch out for so you didn’t hurt yourself. I hurt my knee when I was 16 and never really knew why until I picked it up again in recent years. For those trying to lose weight or become more fit, here are the few things I’ve learned over the years:

  • Stretch: Stretch before and after you run. Sit on the ground, tuck one leg under so your foot touches your other thigh and touch your toes on the leg that is outstretched (or try your best). Do this for the other side. Second, make a butterfly shape with your legs by touching your feet together and stretch your hands past your feet. Third, lift your leg behind you holding on to your ankle. Forth, stretch both legs out and touch your ankles or feet. Do each of these for at least 15 seconds.
  • Find the right shoe for you. Look at the bottom of your current shoes. Where is the wear, on the inside or outside of the shoe? I found out I was supinated, which is when you wear out the outside of your tennis shoes and I ended up having pain on the outside of my legs around the ankles and shins after I exercised. Once you figure out if you are pronated, neutral or supinated, get the right shoe for you so you’ll have less pain. This has helped me significantly whether I’m walking, using the elliptical or running.
  • Posture: Swing your arms front and back, not cross them in front of you. Keep your arms bent at a comfortable, loose L shape. Also, have loose shoulders so you don’t have shoulder pain. Keep your head up and level, not strained, looking out to the horizon so your don’t have neck pain. Great free video to illustrate this whole process: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRkeBVMQSgg
  • Balance your weight: This might be difficult for those of you that dominate on one side of the body. I found my right side would hurt after running (hips, knee, shoulder and back). My right side would do much of the pulling and get most of the impact and this was happening automatically. My left side would feel perfectly fine and light as a cloud. Actively think about balancing the two sides, emphasizing the non-dominant side. Actively think that your non-dominant side has to pull its own weight.

Practice makes perfect, you might have to pay attention to your posture and balancing for a while before it becomes automatic. When you stretch and balance everything out you’ll experience less pain and actually have more endurance because your dominant side isn’t doing all the work anymore. My knee, back, shoulders, neck and hips don’t hurt anymore after running, so it is possible to correct for these common issues. Happy running!

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