Life a little upside down after finishing a Reiki class? reiki practitioner, reiki practitioner
After finishing Reiki you become more sensitive to energy, Chi. I’ve found over the years that those who enter into metaphysical studies may go through a number of trials, although not the same for all, including losing their job, losing their friends, having their love life turn upside down and separating from family. Here are a few tips to add to your items to watch out for and maintain in order for your life to go more smoothly.
1. Feng Shui. Follow this link to go into my blog specifically on this subject for more detail. As you become sensitive to others’ energies you’ll start to notice the energy of your home as well. As good feng shui can benefit you, inauspicious (negative) energy may not. I recommend looking around the home and check the elements (water, metal, fire, wood) you have in each of your corners and sides. I’ve heard of some clients even having tragedies happen to their family members after moving to a new home with inauspicious energy. Good feng shui can bring positive things to you automatically so it is something good to look after for that reason as well. I can also remotely scan your home and tell you of any problem areas you may have. Schedule a reading with me and we can discuss further.
2. Turn off feeling the 2nd and 3rd Plane of Existence for a while. 1st plane is crystals, rocks, soil and other inorganic materials on earth. 2nd plane consists of plants, nature spirits and elementals. 3rd plane is humans and animals. Crystals, shells and other earth, water, fire and air nature spirits work very well in the healing process. However not everything in these planes (plants, animals, humans) are happy or healthy. You might want to turn off feeling these planes after meditation or healing. Need further instruction on how to do this? Schedule a reading with me here, email, text and over the phone readings are available.
3. Clairsentient Maintenance. As you scan, absorb, heal and read others you need to cleanse your energies and return your own back to you. Here is my detailed blog on how to do this.
4. Ask to stop absorbing energies from others. This was revealed to me after a reading and a healing. Ask Archangel Raphael to come to you and have you stop absorbing the energies of others. You may feel the healing around your mid back around the heart and solar plexus. Be calm and allow the healing to continue until you feel it is done.
5. Ground. Can’t emphasize this enough. Think of grounding as washing off your spiritual windshield. When you cleanse the energies of others off of it, you can see clearer and feel more like yourself and less like others. When you are out of healing, meditations, and readings, be sure to do a proper and thorough grounding. This will protect you from weight gain, mania and lack of focus (brain fog). It could save your job and your life path. Follow this link to my grounding article.
A new healing technique was revealed to me through meditation a week ago that has profoundly affected how I feel and think so I wanted to pass this along.law of attraction not working,law of attraction not working,law of attraction not working In my readings Law of Attraction has popped up as one reason why some of my clients are having similar patterns in their weight, love life and other undesirable “one step forward, two steps back” patterns. The other being beliefs and fears, which actually is intertwined with this idea because beliefs may affect how you react, see or “feel” about the situation.
Law of Attraction and Karma Concepts
When I talk about Law of Attraction what I mean is when we put thought, feeling, action and words towards an idea. The feelings, thoughts and words can the attached to something we do want in our life but also something that may be unfavorable.
Recently when watching a Hindu guru talk about Karma he said that culture has twisted the term a bit into meaning revenge against another when basically it just means “action“. During my readings clients will ask me if those that hurt them will receive something negative in return, essentially if “karma will get them back”, and often times from angels and above I receive a no response. The reasoning is usually (to sum up generally) because there are various perspectives in each situation and the reasons why we do things that can be varied (energy, lessons, feelings, reacting to beliefs).
I do believe that we have spiritual aids on certain levels that protect us from ourselves and neutralize some of this but some of the patterns are still left behind so that we can notice them. This can bring us to a spiritual awakening or to give us hints on what we still need to heal.
Weight Pattern Healing (Yo-Yo dieting)
When I was healing one of my clients I received the thoughts and feelings they were putting towards losing weight since their pre-teens. Have you ever looked at a photo years back when you were thinner and remembered at that time the picture was taken you were unhappy with your body weight, but now you would kill to look that thin again? My client focused on their thighs as early as pre-teens, judging the size and look of them, feeling emotions of disappointment, grief, frustration and sadness. Over the years she may experienced energy and thoughts around feeling or looking fat, even though she may have looked better back then than she does now. Essentially my client had been putting thoughts and feelings out there such as “My thighs are big” “I’m fat”, “I’m ugly”, “My thighs are fat”, “My butt is too big”, and so on.
The energy and belief that “my thighs are too big” were repeated in her mind over and over again, even when they were thinner, with a feeling of disappointment since her pre-teens. Imagine that as a cloud of energy getting bigger and bigger over time as she continued to feel it and think it, even mention it to her friends. Then imagine energetic forces to “make beliefs come true” affecting how you feel or think, such as “I’m on a diet but really need chocolate cake right now”. Over time these feelings, thoughts and actions create a “cloud of energy” affecting how she felt, thought, acted and what she attracted, creating undesirable patterns. What psychologists recommend is creating habits, but if you’ve been down that path you have “to be good” and stick to the plan for weeks, resisting strong forces telling you to do otherwise. With this healing I noticed results with some patterns in less than 24 hours, a big difference and relief. Less resistance mentally and emotionally to do the things you really want to just because you made choices in the past before you knew about the power of action.
The Jacob LOA Healing Method
When I meditated, a celestial healer by the name of Jacob appeared to me, and gathered the cloud of energy created from undesirable patterns. He put that energy into a bucket, transforming it into a green energy. This essentially heals it or neutralizes it. Then this is replaced with positive beliefs such as “My thighs are thin”, “I am thin”, “I am happy thin”, “I have a healthy body”. Combined with the feelings of happiness or contentment, these were written as sentences.
Imagine those sentences being written once, then repeated until it forms a square (see attached illustration at top), then repeated over again behind that square until a cube is formed. Then imagine the cube being repeated until it is a square of cubes, then the square of cubes repeated behind itself creating a cube of cubes, filling the energy that was once the cloud of black energy. This was the visual representation showed to me as how to replace the negative feelings, actions and thoughts with something more positive. This cube of cubes of positive energy was then put into another bucket, turned green with fireworks exploding from the bucket, lighting up the sky. The healing is done when the fireworks stop. Don’t forget to ground when you are done!
I did some of this healing on myself for different areas of my life and noticed a positive difference within 24 hours for some patterns. Some example topics that I may have worked on with clients:
Suppressing happiness feelings or feelings of Joy to fit in or please others
Putting too much thought, energy, love into unrequited love
Running away from those interested in me but I’m not interested in (always a mismatch)
Dreading working, career, negative beliefs around career
Negative feelings towards coworkers, bosses, friends, family, etc
Disappointment in relationships, emotions around when romantic interests are disappointing, endings in relationships
Relationship fears (disease, death, loss of power, no respect, conflict, communication)
Waking up with enthusiasm instead of dread, not wanting to leave bed
Choosing healthy foods instead of sugar, unhealthy carbs (actions), replace with being happy with healthy foods and being thinner (this works!!!!)
Stacked up energy from the thoughts and words of others that I couldn’t do what I wanted (lose weight, be successful, make money)
Fear around the paranormal, reacting out of fear
Feelings around weight yo-yoing, size and look of different body parts
Caring about what someone thinks and doing what I think they’d want (starts with parents)
Using food or drink to celebrate or reward
We may react to instances in our life for various reasons, biological, mental, past lives or social. That doesn’t mean we are stuck with these negative patterns for the rest of our lives, there is a way to transform the energy just as it can be created. This is an awesome healing that works.
This is an original healing method, so please be respectful and reference the author and article when sharing with friends or clients.
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Some soul mate and twin flame relationships can work. However it takes more than the soul connection itself sometimes to make a long term relationship happen. Here are a few common reasons I have found over the years as to why some soul mate relationships (even twin flames) fizzle out.
1. You feel the connection and he does not. He remains more grounded than you are, less affected by the eb and flow of your souls. You feel the feelings very strongly and think he should react similarly but he’s not on the same page.
2. You’re feeling the connection and think that’s going to do the work for you. A lot of times people ignore the psychology necessary to make the relationship work. It’s not all about the spiritual connection, one or both of you still need to have the psychological or relationship skills you need to make a relationship succeed. A lot of times that can boil down to how to make meaningful eye contact, show affection, deal with your anxiety or avoidance as an Attachment Theory, overcoming fears, communication, and compromise.
3. Validation is missing. Even though you feel his soul’s love and connection to you he is not giving you on a physical, conscious level the love and validation you need in order to feel fulfilled. You become disheartened and wonder how he feels or where his head is at in the relationship. Validation can be s simple as a text “Hi”, “Good morning”, or “Thinking of you” to let you know you are important to him and the relationship is still stable. It can be putting in the effort to see you (quality time), giving you a gift or doing you a favor (acts of service). It can also be expressing his feelings which is my next point.
4. He’s not expressing feelings. It can be very frustrating to my clients when they’re feeling such a strong connection with their soul mate’s or twin flame’s soul and he’s not showing that in a physical sense. Often times in many of my readings a very common question can be “how does he feel about me?” “Is he thinking about me?” Even though she can feel a very strong soul connection and she is convinced there is a purpose for the two of them, on a physical level he’s not opening up and expressing his feelings to her. So she remains clueless on how he’s feeling on a conscious level. Sometimes this happens because the men in our society don’t know that they need to follow up more frequently than they think, as well as a cultural pressure for the men in our society to not express emotion which can occur at a very early age. I remember watching my nephew grow up and my brother yelling at him for crying because boys don’t do that. It’s ingrained very early on in their childhood to not express emotion, a lot of social pressure goes into this and it can affect them later on in their relationships.
5. He’s just not that interested. I’m sorry to be harsh here but some people do need a splash of reality every once in awhile to knock them out of an unproductive pattern. A lot of my clients can feel this Soul connection so deeply and it’s kind of an affair of the Soul. However, no matter how much his soul visits you in your dreams and how much you can feel it clairsentiently, on a physical level he is just not that interested in you. A lot of times it can be an attraction issue, in other words he’s not attracted to you and not thinking about you in that way, or he’s just not certain enough about you to be committed to you.
Either way go back to psychology instead of the Soul connection itself. We can have multiple soulmates as we’ve had multiple past lives, and in each of these past lives it’s not always the same soulmate we have a romance with. So you can have many soul mates, and as you open yourself up to spirits and feel more you will find more than just one in a lifetime. I’ve already found a twin flame and multiple soulmates, soul connections and even a couple from my soul group. They can feel like a special connection and feel significant, however it’s going to take more than just a soulmate connection to make a relationship work. Hopefully this article will help you to see why.
If you need a reading to discuss what your angels and guides specifically advise for your relationship, feel free to setup an appointment here today. I offer same day and scheduled readings over phone, skype intl and text.
What if he is unwilling to make the changes necessary to advance the relationship? What you should do is continue looking. Go back to the psychology instead of the feelings alone. Get out there and meet somebody new if you are not exclusive. You may click with someone else, maybe spruce up your wardrobe or how you feel about yourself so you seem more attractive to the gender of your preference and meet new people. You don’t just need a soul mate to have a relationship, but relationship skills seem to be highly useful in order to make the relationship work and it helps when both sides have them and know how to use them. Some of the more successful relationships I’ve seen in the thousands of readings I’ve done over the years is open communication skills. People that can bypass the fears, or don’t seem to have as many blocks to expressing themselves are helpful in making relationships long term.
Also, you may be going through or will go through the grief cycle when transitioning to a new relationship. Be kind to yourself during this time, realize that the denial, bargaining and depression states are temporary and that you can ask for divine help to get you to acceptance. I do offer angelic and spirit guide lead grief advice and energy healing should you need help.
I recommend a few books for further reference, none of which talk about soulmates but rather the practicality of relationships from a psychological perspective as I feel this will help you more in your relationships. Good luck!
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Have you noticed since your spiritual awakening and healing path you continue to have relationships with those who drag you down or need healing? Do you just want a relationship with someone that has their “stuff” together and not in need? Do you feel fatigued and drained?
I’ve been energy healing for years, and much of my readings/healing are about relationships. I found the same pattern occurring in my life where those I would date or court me would be people that would either show me things I needed to heal or need healing themselves. I knew there were people out there in better places in their lives and after so much healing over many years I knew I should be attracting someone great that didn’t drag me down.
During a reading for a client the answer was revealed to me by the angels. We put so much action, thought, feeling and energy into healing, we were attracting more healing, either of ourselves or others. Remember, Law of Attraction. So essentially I and this other healer that was a client were attracting more people who could show us what we needed to heal or people who we could heal.
Healers: time to take back your life. You want the life you were healing for, not to be constantly healing. Don’t get me wrong, it is good to heal yourself and others. Realize that if you get into the position of continually healing your life you are putting energy into “my relationships aren’t good enough”, “my life needs healing”, “I need to heal my life to feel better”, “my life isn’t good enough yet so I need to heal it”, “I’m not good enough” or “my life isn’t good enough yet”.
Solutions / Alternative actions:
Ask the Creator of All that is to cancel, clear, delete the energy you’ve put into healing your friends, family and romantic partners, and replace it with energy of those coming into your life (or already in it) that are stable, good people that you don’t need to constantly “fix”. This shouldn’t affect your business as you are only healing those in your personal life. I visualized this as a cloud of black/brown energy, Creator removing it, transforming it into a little green cloud. Visualize those that are stable and not needing major improvement coming to you now. You’ve put so much thought into what is not right, time to put on the brakes and go in a better direction. When I type this I see a car going down a dusty, rough, long road into grey energy, and turning 90 degrees onto a road with a bright horizon and beautiful colors. If you continue to heal do the above steps again every once and awhile to correct your course.
Take a break from healing for a while. Let the dust settle and enjoy the benefits. Tell yourself you are good enough now. Do some grounding. Notice the positive changes and concentrate on them. Do lists or meditations on what is going right in your life, not into what needs to improve. You may be constantly looking at things that need to be healed or improved and your energies are constantly “on” looking for opportunity areas.
New healer’s tip: I’ve noticed lately with big projects where you are healing something with a large surface area it is helpful to “zoom out”, perceive this “problem” as small, then it is easier for the energy to transform because you’ve gotten around the belief that this issue is too big, but rather it is small. Then zoom back in on the energy and see the energy transformed but at a faster pace because you perceived it as small. Think of how big the universe is, and then mentally realize that this issue, or opportunity area, is actually quite small for God to heal. This will help with any negative belief systems you may have.
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Many of my clients in the past have come to me wondering if they’ll ever receive love in their life without a partner. Many people have heard of the 5 love languages, and this book is usually put in the context of already established couples. However many of us do not have a romantic partner but still need our love tank filled so that we feel happier and more content in our daily lives.
What if I told you that you can receive love outside a romantic relationship? Everyone has heard of the Five Love Languages. I always knew my primary love language in the past was spending time with someone, but what does one do when they’re single and are not receiving love from another actual physical person?
The 5 love languages are:
+ Acts of service
+ Physical touch
+ Giving gifts
+ Words of Affirmation
+ Quality Time
Acts of Service (receiving) –
+ Receive an energy healing or massage (also counts as physical touch)
+ Meditation with crystals asking healers (angels or higher) to help heal you. The higher on the scale like thrones, cherubim or seraphim are great if you are really feeling out of sorts. Work towards 15 minutes to an hour depending on where you are. Place a lot of black onyx and tourmaline along your legs and feet for reducing anxiety.
+ Go out to a restaurant or movie theater where you receive service without having to cleanup
+ Have someone else clean your home once a quarter or twice a year if you don’t currently have a service
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
+ You may already being using methods to achieve contentment or calm through touch. Some people cuddle with a blankie, pillow, or take a nap on a soft bed. Some rub their arms or put on scented lotion.
+ Receive a massage from a therapist
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
Giving / receiving gifts
+ Budget permitting, go online or in person shopping. Get yourself something nice, whether than is luxury soap, lotion, electronics, whatever you would like.
+ Give yourself a bubble bath and extra long shower with scents, duckies, whatever brings you happiness
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
+ Spend quality time with friends you are comfortable with
+ Tell yourself you’re giving yourself “quality time” and do something on your own that won’t make you feel bad. Again make sure you won’t feel lonely with whatever you choose. Arts and crafts, going to the beach, go to a cafe, take a walk m, watch a movie and playing games are a few examples.
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
Words of affirmation
+ Use affirmations such as those in Louise Hay’s books based on areas in your body that hurt or choose your own. “I love myself”, “I am beautiful”, as well as other things you commonly beat yourself up on.
+ Visualize God filling your love tank until full and then feel loved for additional manifesting energy
I was sitting and thinking about how when we don’t receive enough hugs or we haven’t taken some time off to relax, rest or receive physical touch that a lot of us can be in pain physically. One of my workarounds to this is to ask God for enough love so I don’t feel pain for 24 hours. I perform a visualization (with feeling) in the morning and I say “I have enough love in my life so don’t feel pain but I can still ground”. I found without that last piece about grounding that I would be ungrounded but feeling euphoric. This is not good if you have to focus and do some logical thinking. Staying grounded helps you think clearly, gets rid of that brain fog and be less anxious.
Recently I had an intuitive revelation that it’s not just humans that are affected by the five love languages, but also animals.
Pets have similar Love Languages in that some cats and dogs like to be petted and some do not (physical touch). Some like to sit on your lap and feel comfortable with having that physical touch and some don’t want to be touched at all. In the latter case that love language may not be their primary language. Some appreciate your acts of service of providing food and cleaning their area. My cat would occasionally present her stuffed mice for me at my garage door where I usually left in the morning as a gift to me. Some of your pets may have caught live birds and mice and present them to you. A lot of animals and plants do like to be spoken to in a calm or happy manner. Although they may not understand you, your tone of voice will generally lift up their mood and energy.
Animals have similar love languages, and will probably prefer one or a few over others. They give you love using the same love languages with the exception of words of affirmation (does tail wagging or purring count?)
I was wandering the library looking for something new to read and I found this book with the little chocolate truffle in the front and I thought it looked delicious so I brought it home. I finished this book in about 2 days. The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken,The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken It describes several personality types and psychological problems that may commonly occur with women that prevents them from having a long-lasting relationship. The author describes these personality types as the following:
+ The Old Faithful – if you stay attached to an ex for an unusually long time comparative to others around you, if you’re feeling like you missed out on your “one true” chance for love, or have beliefs in “The One”
+ The Whirlwind Dater – this is someone who dates a lot but has not settled on one man for a long period of time, this is also someone who has a hard time relaxing
+ The Standstill – this person rarely if ever dates, this can be common with those that are still a virgin or have only had sex a handful of times or less. This person is afraid of anyone finding out how little they have dated or have been intimate and often get embarrassed when someone asks them when was their last date and how often they’ve dated.
+ The Forbidden Fruit Hunter – this person is continually attracted to those that are unavailable or married, they may reject nice guys who show interest that are available, they may come from a single-parent home or has strong emotional connections with their family
+ The Compassionate Rescuer – this person has a hard time saying no to people, they feel like they have to rescue someone or is habitually with someone that they feel needs them, they continually try to stay flexible in order to please others, they give more then they receive in relationships, they are often condescended to or controlled by family or partners
+ The Wanderer – this woman is the life of the party, can make friends very easily but has a hard time staying faithful and hops from one relationship to another, they can get anxious if they’re not in a relationship and like to indulge in things that are pleasurable or celebratory
+ The Uptown Girl – she enjoys compliments and dresses or looks the part so she can get a lot of compliments. They look for men that either have money, statusor power.
+ The Runaway Bride – very similar to the movie, this person is somebody that really doesn’t know themselves and doesn’t stay in a relationship very long, they commonly bolt when the relationship gets too serious
The book mainly outlines some common psychological issues that prevent you from seeing the situation as it truly is. One of which that she talks about is subconscious beliefs that are sabotaging you. If you find yourself in a situation after a date or when someone finds you attractive that you start having a lot of negative thoughts then you may need to work on your subconscious beliefs. I recommend using Theta healing which I do provide on my website which has turned much of my life around towards the positive as well as my thinking. Theta can affect Law of Attraction and the type of people that you draw to you as well as how they treat you when they are in your life. It can affect those that are already in your life as well and how they treat you but in a different more positive way. You can find my Theta healing offerings here. Theta healing works on current life, past life, and other soul level beliefs, removing the negative beliefs and replacing it with positive which in turn affects how people see you, how you think and what you attract to you.
Two other of the more common issues that she discusses is the signs that you may have intimacy issues because you are trying to fit in a man’s world so you act professionally when you should act more sexual or feminine to a love interest. Essentially you have not learned how to be feminine, open or sexy and are uncomfortable in that role.
The other common issue she describes is feeling overly responsible for your parents’ happiness, usually one parent over the other. You’ve taken on a role that subconsciously and consciously you will have a hard time separating yourself from. You may enter into a relationship and start wondering, “but who’s going to take care of Mom?”
This is just a quick summary of the book, there are other issues and solutions provided. I highly recommend you get the book from your local library or Amazon to see which of these personality types best describes you. You may be a combination of all the above. Once you’ve figured out your patterns that will give you a launching point to then find the healing modality that best works for you to turn your life and thinking around.
There are a few psychological and metaphysical reasons why you may be interested in somebody who is either not interested in you or that treats you poorly.
1. You are connecting to their soul energy, you’ve pierced through their outer layers and have gotten to a spiritual side of them that contains unconditional love. As you try to concentrate on other things, thoughts of them pop up in your mind because your energies are communicating. The problem is if on a physical level they are not as aware of this as you are, and are not interested in you in that way, they may not treat you very well or really contact you much at all. This leads me to the psychological problems that can lead to feeling “stuck” on a person.
2. When someone is busy or doesn’t take much interest in us we think that they’re more special or have more value. When someone is busy sometimes we interpret that as they’re more important, that they have more friends, and are more popular than us. We put them on a pedestal thinking they are more rare and harder to get, increasing their “scarcity“, and therefore boosting their value in our mind. This is also why someone who “breadcrumbs” you, in other words only contacts you every once in awhile, can get you addicted to them as well.
3. If you have a pattern of wanting people that are either taken or hard to actually be with in a relationship you may have a fear of your relationships failing. In other words you put yourself in a position where you never actually get together with the person so it can never really fail, thereby avoiding heartbreak, humiliation, social judgement from friends and family. You may have to face the beliefs as to why you don’t actually want to be in a real relationship due to fears of it failing. For this I recommend theta healing, which works on fears and beliefs on a subconscious level, which I can provide over distance on my website here.
4. You get more of a rush mentally with dopamine when you have a roller coaster ride relationship than with a steady one. If you fantasize or are around that person for a shorter period of time you get that jolt of dopamine and then you leave them it allows you to reset so when you come back to them you get that jolt of dopamine again. To stay with them for a longer period of time where it is consistently good doesn’t give you that rush of dopamine after a period of absence.
5. Something feels unresolved or incomplete after you’ve been chasing them for a while? Maybe it feels unbalanced and you want it to feel equal. If you look up the reciprocity principal as I learned in Marketing, people feel obligated to return a favor. In this case you may have given this person a lot of attention, a lot of energetic love, and a lot of your mental time. Your brain wants something back in other words you want reciprocity. The unfortunate instance here is that you just may not get it back. What I recommend is a grief healing to get you to acceptance which I can also provide through my energy healing services on my website.
6. Possession. You feel like they are “yours”. What I receive in readings is a feeling like this person that is not their current partner (an interest, an ex) is “theirs” or belongs to them in some way and they don’t want them to move on or be with another. A lot of psychological articles will discuss a feeling of what they call “possession” of those you love. Much of this comes from the beliefs of “the one”, scarcity and insecurity. It can cause clients to feel jealous when their love interest is with another woman/man even though they do not have exclusivity with their love interest. In some cases the love interest may not even know my client very well yet and very little communication has been exchanged, yet my client can still feel like their love interest is “theirs”. Break free and realize we have more than one soul mate, many past lives and can feel a connection even with someone new. Ask God to heal your feelings of scarcity and “the one” in the best and highest way for you.
1. Compartmentalize – this is a coping mechanism that helps you to focus on things like work and other areas of your life while shelving your romantic life for a while. It helps you not lose your life while you are thinking about or feeling stuck on another person.
2. Watch something that puts you in a better mood – for me this is YouTube videos on comedy, interviews with mentors or animals. Get out of depression and feeling spent or empty from giving them so much love and attention and receiving little back.
3. Date other people – know you’re worth it and receive some of those compliments you are giving to someone else.
4. Work on yourself – psychologically and metaphysically, change how you see the situation. Someone treating you like crud should not be attractive and shouldn’t pull you towards them, instead know intellectually why this is happening to you by reading articles like this or books so when you encounter it you can change the situation and bring someone to you that treats you better. Go to my website, I provide theta healing which work on the fears and beliefs that sabotage you.
I’ve done some research over the years on addictions, in my case food, and in my family’s case alcohol. Much of what I have read is science and psychology based, which has value by itself. While the biological process certainly does play a role in how we feel and what we do, as does the mind, I wanted to know the spiritual side because I do know that is a piece of the puzzle as well.
During a reading I received that addictions and cravings for what you are addicted to sometimes arise when you are trying to shut something or someone up, like a feeling or a voice. What you are trying to shut up may be anxiety, voices in your mind you don’t want to hear such as your ego or someone else’s, mixed in with your angels, guides or God. You may be trying to numb a feeling such as grief or a heart break you haven’t quite healed from yet. Go here on my blog on how to heal grief. If the divine is trying to warn you of something, this may cause some anxiety, from the higher vibration as well as other factors, and that is usually an indication to stop what you are doing and do a self check. It was explained to me the higher the vibration, the more anxiety you may feel, particularly if you are not in the light. More to come of this in my book to be published hopefully in 2019.
The recommendation is to stop. Stop. Do nothing. Let the anxiety ground. Then just chill. Do Nothing for a while. 5-15 minutes of do nothing time. Don’t look at your phone, sit or lay down and do nothing. If you are sensitive enough you will feel the energy go down from your head all the way down to you feet. After the 15 minutes, thank your angels, guides and God for being there to bring them forth, imagine a while light around you and ask for guidance or whatever the problem seems to be. The problem may be you’re working too hard or doing too much. You may be using the addiction to get away from worries or work. Its time to do nothing and receive guidance.
The other metaphysical reason for an addiction seems to be a combo of other people asking for more money and abundance as well as your actions in the past. As others ask for more money, you may “answer the call” as I put it to buy what they are selling. What you’ve enjoyed buying in the past is typically what you get pulled in buying again, essentially your actions and law of attraction. So if you’ve felt happy buying chocolate cake, tortilla chips, going out to eat, alcohol etc. that may be what you are pulled into buying again. This is with the combination with the physical and mental highs you receive from these actions.
Other non-metaphysical reasons for addictions usually involve serotonin, opioids and dopamine’s affect on your brain. An excellent book that describes this is “The End of Overeating…” by David Kessler, MD. Intellectually understanding why you feel a certain way can help you to stop yourself in your tracks, rise above the problem and find another solution.
Addiction provides an escape. An escape from work, worries, distraction of the mind, what we don’t want to look at, as well as a mental high. You are ignoring something, many times something deep inside. My recommendation is to stop and do nothing, grief healing, or look into changing habits (actions).
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Sometimes a rejection from those we are interested in can lead to us entering the grief cycle. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting to them.
The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.
Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.
If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. Wait and feel much of the healing at the bottom of your lungs to clear before returning to your day. When the soreness or feeling in your lungs dissipate the healing is done. This can help push you past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.
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I’ve met my twin flame, a couple soul mates, and even more soul connections. I hope in this article to show you that they do exist, you are not alone, and give some advice on how to proceed. Every situation is different so if you need more specific advice tailored to your situation, feel free to set up a reading with your archangels here on my readings page.
Many of my clients come to their reading to ask me what to do next with their soul mate. Often times they are separated from them for one reason or another. Here is some general advice I can give depending on the situation.
If there are no serious blocks to you two getting together:
Look through some of the psychological literature that is out there. Your problem in your relationship may not be past lives but psychological. Some recommended books are “Attached” by Levine and “Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus” by Gray. These two books probably explain the reasons for the problems seen with my clients’ relationships in 80%+ of my past readings.
Visualize that which you perceive is not going right actually going well as if it is going well now. The now part is important. You are sending positive energy to the situation and asking for assistance from the universe, God, angels and other manifesting beings such as elementals and nature spirits. Go in with the intention of not necessarily manipulating rather that you believe that things will go well and you are asking for help from the divine.
Continue to work on how you feel about yourself. How you feel about your beauty, how you are treated can be in your energy field and people will react to it. Work on your “glow” as it were. People will start reacting differently when you feel and think differently about yourself. Affirmations and belief work helps as does theta healing which I can do over distance. My energy healing page is here.
If there are serious blocks such as marriage, they are not interested in dating your gender, or other:
Meditate, thank your angels and guides for joining you, visualize the white light around you for protection, and then wait for answers and guidance. Continue to ask for guidance if you continue to have feelings for the person that is strong but the block continues to persist. The reasoning maybe the timing is off or it’s something that needs to be healed on one side and/or the other. Energy healers and mediums can help you see the past lives that may be causing some of the blocks as well.
Go through the letting go process if you feel it just won’t work in this life. Throw out or sell anything that reminds you of them. Push feelings and thoughts of them aside consistently. Hold the intention that you plan on keeping their energy outside of your energy consistently. Sometimes their energy can give us the illusion that they are interested but that’s just their energy not their physical conscious self. It’s very important to visualize sending their energy back to them and retrieving your energy that they may have and send it back to yourself. This often brings me peace.
Find a real or mental bridge person to think about that makes you happy until you find the next romantic interest.
Do things that make you happy and not thinking of them. Watch comedy, listen to music, walk along water, go out to eat, talk with friends, play video games. Live a happy life now.
When you start dating again, don’t expect it to feel the same as the twin flame. It will feel different. Don’t forget that soul mates are special, that’s why we label them as such, so they will feel stronger than those that are not. They are often reminders we are all connected or what we need to work on. Work on your next relationship thinking you can create something wonderful and it will be. You can receive love again without the roller coaster ride and without the separation. Instead expect that you have to get to know the person, it will take time, unconditional love, and you’ll need to get underneath several layers to reach that level again. Give another person a chance to receive the awesomeness you can provide.
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I do many readings for others and many of my readings are with a woman that are attracted to a guy who she keeps in good contact with but he’s not revealing his feelings enough to her verbally. Clients often ask me why they have this pattern where the man is not revealing his feelings enough in the relationship. Many times I will receive that he reveals feelings in others ways as verbal expression can be difficult depending on how he was raised. Other ways can be acts of service, affirmations, quality time, physical gifts and longer than usual eye contact. Check out my 5 love languages article for more on this.
Some of this can be explained by Attachment Theory as someone is attracted to another person who is what they call an “avoidant” and it makes the client very anxious waiting for some sort of validation of his feelings in a verbal sense. These personality times have some psychological challenges to work through and can be a difficult partner for someone who gets anxious with separation.
The third reason that comes up is metaphysical. If you see the same pattern come up in your life where your partners have trouble expressing emotion, law of attraction may be sending you the same person with similar patterns. Look into your past. How many people in your life act similarly in ways that bother you? How much time, attention, action and feeling have you put into these people? Many times these people were just in you life from the get go, like parents, but over the years you have put energy, thought, feeling and action into people with similar personality traits. To manifest according to the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Bryne it helps to put thought, feeling, and action behind what you want. According to this book the law doesn’t really discriminate “bad” versus “good” desires, if you put the energy into it it is possible to get the same thing out over and over again. Now I do believe that spiritual forces protect us from ourselves but they do show us the same patterns as well so we can correct for it.
Some clients ask me how do I stop this pattern of being with these guys that don’t openly express their feelings. My recommendation is two fold. First reverse you’re thinking and reactions when you encounter someone who openly shows emotion. If you find yourself taking a step back in fear the problem may not be the person that is expressing themselves; it may be time to look at why you’re uncomfortable with someone showing you affection. The second recommendation is to look for either a behavioral psychiatrist who can do some sort of hypnotherapy on your subconscious or a Theta healer who essentially does the same thing but on multiple metaphysical levels including past lives, soul level, current life and genetic levels. My own Theta Healing also concentrates on the mind or mental level as well as the Akashic records. Theta healing removes the negative beliefs and fears that cause you to react this way and replaces them with something more positive and in line with what you really want. If you’d like to look at some of my energy healing options feel free to look on my website here. I also do psychic mediumship readings here.
Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:
– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run
I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.
It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.
The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.
In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of theThe Anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.
Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.
As you can probably imagine I get a lot of calls at this time of the year, being the new year. People usually want to know if some aspect of their life is better than the year past. Before I get to the main point of this article I do want to say to not wait for the beginning of every year to make your life better. Everyday you can do something that makes you happy. Try your best not to rely on others to make you happy but to do the things that move you or motivate you. Whether that’s playing a game on your cell, watch your favorite TV show, cooking/baking something, taking a walk in the park, going to the zoo, or anything else that makes you happy. Start today, don’t wait for the next month or the beginning of the year to have your happiness or results. You CAN make yourself happy now. The Past is Not your Future,The Past is Not your Future
The main reason for this article was to address something I commonly hear and to give you the advice I received from the other side. Someone mentioned that they hadn’t dated anyone for years and they couldn’t believe that they would have more than one romantic option in 2018. The answer that I heard from the other side was the future is not your past. Which is very true. Just because it hasn’t happened for the past 5 years does not mean it’s not going to happen this year. Especially if you’ve been working on yourself, you’ve had some sort of Spiritual Awakening, or you’ve done some energy healing on yourself, you can certainly change your vibrations and what you’re bringing to you. So know that the past is not your future and just because it was a pattern in the past doesn’t mean it’s going to happen in your future.
Have a happy and healthy 2018!
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Nope. Yep, you heard that right. No. Why? The reason is because that animal is not going to fill the void or make you feel less lonely enough to resolve the real problem. lonely pet, lonely pet
When I do my psychic medium readings often times I will hear ladies make common jokes that if they don’t meet “him” by the age of 40,50, or 60 that they’ll get 5 cats. I tell them that the animal will not be able to fill their emptiness, instead what can happen is you’ll feel worse because when you look at that cat you’ll realize it was not really what you wanted, not to mention common memes out in social media to make you feel pathetic. You can also fall into resentment when you have to care for the animal and realize while you are scooping their litter or trying to give them pills that this is not the life you were wanting after all. The animal, or even 5 of them, will not fill the emptiness you feel. My clients usually agree after I remind them of this.
What are some solutions instead?
Ask God for the love you need to not feel lonely feel loved every morning.
“God, please send my the best and highest love from you to me so I don’t feel lonely and I feel loved, whole and complete, Please and thank you.”
Ask God for an unconditional love download.
“God, please send me your unconditional love. Please and thank you.” Wait and feel the healing and love coming through until you feel it is complete.
Meditate concentrating on the heart chakra (including the chakras along your back) and balancing it with other charkas (I have gorgeous full chakra sets with black tourmaline here: www.ebay.com/usr/all1059)
Think about someone who makes you happy – That can be an imaginary friend, lover or someone else but make sure they make you smile. If you don’t have someone like this, ask God to send you someone, you’ll be glad you did.
Reach out to an old friend – It can be someone you haven’t spoken to in a while but someone who you are currently on good terms with. Many of us have those friends we’ve had for years or decades but only talk to once a quarter or once a year and pick up like there was no time between contacts.
Join a meetup group – Meetup.com has great groups of all kinds whether your interest is board games, cards, hiking, bowling, beaches, movies, or food they probably have a group suited to your needs. Get out there and meet new people!
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A spiritual attachment is a spirit that has attached itself to your energy field/aura. I see them a little balls of energy usually orange or black. If you see them as cute little fuzzy balls of energy I find it helps me not to react in fear.
Some energy or entities that is not yours can cause your energy field to be sluggish or you to not feel like yourself at times. Attachments can take advantage of those just getting into the metaphysical or going through a soul mate roller coaster ride. I ask every day for God to make my energy field a comfortable size for me for 24 hours and it helps me maintain higher energy levels as you pick up less of other people’s negative energy.
There are some common experiences that can happen when you have an unwelcome spiritual attachment, although some can be from having other issues:
Nausea that a doctor can’t explain
Aches and pain in different areas of your body (this can be multiple things as well)
Shoulder, head or neck discomfort
Your life is very overly melodramatic.
People around you are over reacting to your presence and things you say. Many times the energy is interfering with your relationships.
You keep getting ill and cannot seem to shake the cycle of illness.
Drug and alcohol addictions.
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1) Before you enter your home ask Archangel Michael or David to remove any spiritual attachments to you that are no longer serving you in the best and highest way. Be present, feel the healing, and wait until you feel better then enter your home.
2) Ask God to put a shield around you every morning that prevents you from having spiritual attachments with entities that have vibrations less than your angels and guides for 24 hours. Visualize an electric field around you and little balls of black and orange bouncing off of them.
3) Theta healing
4) Meditate with stones that specifically help with spiritual attachments. Black tourmaline is one of my personal favorites. Jet, labradorite, fluorite, blue kyanite are some others. I sell full chakra crystal sets here.
5) Ask Archangel Raphael during your next meditation to heal your energy field and aura in the best possible way for you.
6) Meditate with crystals and stones, from head to toe, asking your angels to help remove what is no longer serving you and what doesn’t belong to you.
7) Ask Archangel Michael to remove cords to others who no longer serve you and then visualize him remove them. spirit attachment
A lot of people in the metaphysical and psychological community talk about the ego. They describe it as a person or being that is working against us, something to be attacked and conquered. At some point in the middle of my energy healing journey I was questioning that and for whatever reason that didn’t quite jive with me.
I became interested in egos when I found that I couldn’t stay humble or say that I was sorry for something when I knew I should. It was like a block that prevented me from saying or acting in a certain way, and it was affecting my relationships, keeping me separate from others.
So I asked my angels and God to send me to the right literature that would accurately tell me what is “ego”. When I scanned through different metaphysical and psychological literature none of it felt right at that time. Usually I am very good at selecting the right books for me so I knew this meant something significant. Eventually I received clairvoyantly what it was while at work.
What they showed me was that it was a layer in the energy field around people. They showed it as just a black sheet in one of the layers on my back side. It wasn’t a person or spirit, which really made it less scary. Knowing this I asked God to heal my ego’s in the best highest way for me, ending in please and thank you. Instantly, this helped me by removing the blocks I was experiencing that were preventing me from being humble and from saying I’m sorry. Some people feel like egos actually protect us, and in some ways I can see that because it prevents you from doing things you don’t want to that make you feel low, such as saying you’re sorry. However, it also hinders us as it keeps us disconnected, because people won’t always tolerate arrogance or someone treating them badly without apologizing. There are times in social situations where you have to act humble, even if you are good at something, to better get along with others. I would highly recommend most, if not everyone, do this healing. You can say it verbatim as I’ve listed below:
” God, please heal my ego’s in the best highest play for me, please and thank you.”
Then, if you’d like, visualize a black layer of your energy field being removed and replaced with green healing light. If you are more of a Clairsentient, or someone who likes to feel their healing, wait until you feel a tingling or warming sensation dissipate. ego
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I used to get this question a lot when I first started doing readings and I haven’t encountered it much lately. However recently it’s come to mind that maybe some people still need this question answered.
My clients used to ask me if a love spell that they paid for from another psychic/wiccan worked on their person of interest. In other words would that person love them or react to them more lovingly. Whenever I asked the Archangels, Jesus, or God this question I always received a no. Think about it from this perspective. At some point in your life you’re going to encounter someone who has a romantic interest in you but you don’t have feelings for them. Many times this can be a lesson for them or some sort of motivation to change something in their lives. Whatever their journey is, it is unfortunate and it happens to most of us. Now consider that this person might go and pay someone to cast a spell on you so that you love them back. How would that make you feel? Many times I hear psychics talk about free will and it has been a constant question in my mind how much free will really exists and how much we’re being led through our feelings that are created by God or our angels. In any case, to get to the point, I think that there are number of reasons why whatever these people have paid for doesn’t work. It may have to do with free will, that we are protected at all times or that this person has a lesson to learn. In summary, it doesn’t look like these “spells” work, however they are delivered (no I don’t know how to do a love spell so don’t ask), so save your money.
Instead I would highly recommend you do healing on yourself. Throughout the years as I did healing on myself I found that more people found me attractive. I think this is because I’ve risen my vibration, I’m happier on the inside and outside, and I make others feel better around me. That’s the best advice I can give you, is to rather heal yourself internally rather than send energy outward towards someone else. Your conscience will thank you and you’ll have one less thing to forgive yourself for later, not to mention way more options for Romance. 😉
I’ve been using candles to help manifest the things that I desire for a number of years now and found them to be wonderful, positive tools. Some people tell you to buy expensive candles through metaphysical stores although I’d have to say most of the candles I use are tealights and 7 day candles (that really only last 3 days) that you find in grocery stores with pictures of Archangels or ascended masters on them. I’m going to share with you some ways that I use candles to help manifest the things I desire.
I use a number of tealights throughout the day for boosting my psychic mediumship abilities, financial abundance, losing weight, and for blessings to others when they ask for it. During full and new moon cycles I usually light three to four candles to ask for my main goals (vision boards) and then surround them with a full chakra set of Crystals and Stones. When you do intend to use candles to manifest things that you desire first start off blessing your candles either with Reiki or asking God to bless your candles. Then ask God to remove any negative energy when using or manifesting the candles that may have happened either when you’re praying or during the manifesting process (sometimes negative thoughts creep in). End with please and thank you for intention and visualize this happening. When I visualize the negative energy leaving I see a colors other than blue, white or green leaving the candle and God putting it in a vat of gold to transmute into positive energy. Then visualize God replacing the energy in the candle with green, blue or white light. Start off with two prayers and hold your candles when you are saying these prayers, I usually do the Our Father and the Hail Mary but you can use whatever to prayers you’re comfortable with. Then after you are finished with your prayers you ask for what you desire but in an appreciative tone as if you already have what you desire. For instance, “thank you for my new job”, “thank you for making me a protected clairvoyant and intuitive psychic medium”, “thank you for my financial abundance”, “thank you for helping me lose fat”, and “thank you for the great clients of customers I have”. Once you’ve decided on what you are going to ask for, say it out loud while holding the candle three times in a row. Number 3 is significant; think of the Trinity or the triquetra and other religious & spiritual symbols associated with the number three. After you have asked for what you wanted, light the candle and then end with two prayers.
Green candles are great for using when you are attempting to manifest abundance, money, or luck. I usually light 1 to 3 green candles a week to manifest financial abundance for myself. A lot of people ask for abundance in their lives but if it’s really money that you want not just more stuff I recommend asking for financial abundance. You can also ask for a new job using the green candle with Saint Judas Tadeo on the front that you can find in the tortilla section of your local grocery store. White candles are great to use around the house for safety and protection. Blue candles have been used in the past for healing. Some individuals put additional spices such a cinnamon or essential oils on top of the candle before they light it; this adds additional intention and can be useful as well. I have only used cinnamon, frankincense, and some other oils in the past. I do find them helpful and fun to add to the process. There are whole books and blogs written on the different spices and oils that can help you manifest what you desire so I would recommend Googling what you’re looking for, whether that is abundance or weight loss or healing, to find the right combination of candle color and other associated spices & oils.
An additional tip is to put your candles in areas of the house that have been denoted by feng shui as areas good for abundance or love depending on what you’re asking for. The south west corner is supposed to be good for your love life.
I get this question a lot when doing psychic mediumship readings for others. “Are we meant to be?”, “Are we destined to be together?” or “Is it written in stone that we are to be together?” I asked my Archangels and Jesus, who I usually connect to during a reading, what the answer was. It seems like there are several scenarios. One scenario is that two people are meant to meet, meant to be together to produce children who’s souls they are meant to journey with and learn from. In this scenario, they can still stay together or split at the end after the children are produced depending on free will and whether they work out their issues. Our parents didn’t split as much as later generations because of cultural and familial pressure, not to mention it was much harder to be a single mother before the 1990’s. The second scenario seems to be that the two are meant to meet in a lifetime, and learn relationship lessons with each other. It doesn’t always mean they will be together in a romantic relationship but they were still meant to meet, which gets confusing to many of my clients. The connection feels so strong they think the connection itself will do the work for them. The length of the relationship in this latter scenario seems to rely more on whether they work on their issues. Put into the mix people’s own pride, beliefs and fears and the relationship becomes more complex.
Many times I do receive that two people were meant to meet, but they may not always work out usually due to communication issues. Communication issues, commonly the lack of expressing emotion, feelings and their interest for the other person, is one of the most common scenarios I run into in relationship readings to date. Many of these issues arise from societal and cultural beliefs that we pick up from many different sources such as family, friends, media, movies and co-workers. Many parents still tell boys to not show emotion, although hopefully that is taking a turn for the better from what I’ve seen of the millennial generation. This leaves many women wondering what their men think and want. It leaves them frustrated, especially in the world of texting where women expect an immediate answer to their text as we know our cell phones are near us most of the time. We also tell ourselves to be independent and not rely on others, creating the anxious/avoidant (push/pull, chase/run) dynamic seen in attachment theory. Other common scenarios I encounter is one person wants the other to reach out as they are too afraid to reach out themselves and not receive an answer (fear of rejection). If one person feels this way it is very possible the other person is feeling the same, leaving them in a stalemate.
To sum up, watch out for areas that you can learn and grow, be honest with compassion, and communicate out your problems with your partner in a wise, empathic way. Look past pride to see both sides of the issue and don’t rely on “meant to be” to carry your relationship until death do you part.
A client the other day asked me why her relationship not working out if she and her love interest had so much in common.
The answers I received from spirit were two-fold. One, soul connections are brought into our lives and there is often a purpose to it. You may pick up on the uniqueness of the connection, however that doesn’t mean it will work out forever, or “til death do you part”. Sometimes you learn something from them and move on. Both partners need to work through their issues. Spirit showed me paths splitting due to a fork in the road; in other words your life paths may not be parallel for the rest of your lives and it can cause a struggle or feeling of incompleteness later in the relationship. Some couples, including soul connections & Soul Mates, are short term for various reasons. The second message I received was to discuss my parents. My parents have been married over 51 years and still going strong. They are almost complete opposites; one extremely logical and the other very good at expressing her emotions. In some ways they make up for what the other lacks and can be a very good paring. Sometimes they don’t understand each other at all, but they accept it, or ask their children what the other means as we have become translators for each side. They make it work doing their own thing as they are very independent people with unique interests.
Society today, probably because of movies and other forms of entertainment, make us feel that we are to match up and be completely like our mate, however 50+ years ago the opposite was believed. The full spectrum of similarities and differences can work out potentially. If you have differences, great! That could make it interesting for you and they can turn out to be helpful to you in the future.