Soul Mates and the Stages of Grief

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Sometimes all you have to do is go through a rejection by someone in order to enter into a grieving period. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting.

The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.

Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.

If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. This can help push me past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.

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Psychic Medium Andrea

When He’s Not Telling You How He Feels

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I do many readings for others and a lot of my readings are situations where a woman is attracted to a guy and keeps good contact with them but he’s not revealing his feelings enough to her. Clients often ask me why they have this pattern where the man is not revealing his feelings enough in the relationship. Some of this can be explained by Attachment Theory as someone is attracted to another person who is what they call an “avoidant” and it makes the client very anxious waiting for some sort of validation of his feelings in a verbal sense. Also look into your past. Were you ever in a situation where someone expressed emotion from the get-go and you were turned off and even ran away? Did you find yourself saying things like “oh he’s needy”, “oh he’s insecure”, “he’s desperate” or “he’s a stalker”. Be careful what you’re telling the universe when you are approached by someone who is open with emotion who does let you know how they feel. If you feel negatively about someone who expresses themselves openly then that in a way can explain why you’re in the situation you are in. If you’re attracted to those who do not openly express emotion in the beginning and turned off by those who do openly express emotion you may continue to be in relationships with those that have trouble expressing affection and love.

Some clients ask me how do I stop this pattern of being with these guys that don’t openly express their feelings. My recommendation is two fold. First reverse you’re thinking and reactions when you encounter someone who openly shows emotion. If you find yourself taking a step back in fear the problem may not be the person that is expressing themselves; it may be time to look at why you’re uncomfortable with someone showing you affection. The second recommendation is to look for either a behavioral psychiatrist who can do some sort of hypnotherapy on your subconscious or a Theta healer who essentially does the same thing but on multiple metaphysical levels including past lives, soul level, current life and genetic levels. My own Theta Healing also concentrates on the mind or mental level as well as the Akashic records. Theta healing removes the negative beliefs and fears that cause you to react this way and replaces them with something more positive and in line with what you really want.  I was led to add mental and akashic records healing to my Theta while doing readings for others and seeing the need. If you’d like to look at some of my energy healing options feel free to look on my website here www.feathersinfinity.com/energy-healing.html.  They can be done over the phone or in person just as effectively.  I also do Mediumship readings here: www.feathersinfinity.com/readings.html.

Energy Healer Paradox: How to Stop Attracting more of What or Who you don’t want

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Have you noticed since your spiritual awakening and healing path you continue to have relationships with those who drag you down or need healing? Do you just want a relationship with someone that has their “stuff” together and not in need?

I’ve been energy healing for years, and much of my readings/healing are about relationships. I found the same pattern occurring in my life where those I would date or court me would be people that would either show me things I needed to heal or need healing themselves. I knew there were people out there in better places in their lives and after so much healing over many years I knew I should be attracting someone great that didn’t drag me down.

During a reading for a client the answer was revealed to me by the angels. We put so much action, thought, and energy into healing, we were attracting more healing, either of ourselves or others. Remember, Law of Attraction. So essentially I and this other healer were attracting more people who could show us what we needed to heal or people who we could heal.

Healers: time to take back your life. You want the life you were healing for, not to be constantly healing. It is good to heal. Realize that if you get into the position of continually healing your life you are putting energy into “my relationships aren’t good enough”, “my life needs healing”, “I need to heal my life to feel better”, “my life isn’t good enough yet so I need to heal it”, “I’m not good enough” or “my life isn’t good enough yet”.

Solutions / Alternative actions:

  • Take a break from healing for a while. Let the dust settle and enjoy the benefits. Notice the positive changes and concentrate on them. Do lists or meditations on what is going right in your life, not into what needs to improve.
  • Get into a meditative state, and visualize you’re sitting across from God and ask God to pull the energy you’ve put into things/people not going right in your life and replace with better energy, such as “my life is great”. I visualized this as a cloud of black/brown energy, God removing it, transforming it into a little green cloud in a large vat of green transmuting energy, and then replacing it where it was taken from with a new set of green energy.
  • Then take time to visualize your life going great right now. This can be a combination of you visualizing what is actually going right as well as things that you wish were going well as if they were. Visualize your goals becoming true now. You’ve put so much thought into what is not right, time to put on the brakes and go in a better direction. When I type this I see a car going down a dusty, rough, long road into grey energy, and turning 90 degrees onto a road with a bright horizon and beautiful colors.
  • If you continue to heal do the above steps again every once and awhile to correct your course. I try to visualize my day going well and smoothly every morning.

New healer’s tip: I’ve noticed lately with big projects where you are healing something with a large surface area it is helpful to “zoom out”, perceive this “problem” as small, then it is easier for the energy to transform because you’ve gotten around the belief that this issue is too big, but rather it is small. Then zoom back in on the energy and see the energy transformed but at a faster pace because you perceived it as small. Think of how big the universe is, and then mentally realize that this issue, or opportunity area, is actually quite small for God to heal.

Why is he not calling and what you can do about it. Attachment Theory

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Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:

– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run

I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.

It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.

The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.

In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of these):

  • The anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.
  • Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
  • Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.

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The Past is not your Future

As you can probably imagine I get a lot of calls at this time of the year, being the new year. People usually want to know if some aspect of their life is better than the year past. Before I get to the main point of this article I do want to say to not wait for the beginning of every year to make your life better. Everyday you can do something that makes you happy. Try your best not to rely on others to make you happy but to do the things that move you or motivate you. Whether that’s playing a game on your cell, watch your favorite TV show, cooking/baking something, taking a walk in the park, going to the zoo, or anything else that makes you happy. Start today, don’t wait for the next month or the beginning of the year to have your happiness or results.  You CAN make yourself happy now.

The main reason for this article was to address something I commonly hear and to give you the advice I received from the other side. Someone mentioned that they hadn’t dated anyone for years and they couldn’t believe that they would have more than one romantic option in 2018.  The answer that I heard from the other side was the future is not your past. Which is very true. Just because it hasn’t happened for the past 5 years does not mean it’s not going to happen this year. Especially if you’ve been working on yourself, you’ve had some sort of Spiritual Awakening, or you’ve done some energy healing on yourself, you can certainly change your vibrations and what you’re bringing to you. So know that the past is not your future and just because it was a pattern in the past doesn’t mean it’s going to happen in your future.

Have a happy and healthy 2018!

Past Lives

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A past life regression provides an interesting glimpse into what roles we may have played with our other soul connections in other lives.  You can see your past lives in a few ways.  One is through meditation, and using a past life regression video/audio or a meditation that you read through a book. Another common way is through dreams.  Be sure to ask God to help you remember your dreams in the morning so you can review them or write them down.  The last way that I’ll mention is through psychic mediumship readings.  You can ask your angels, archangels, God or ascended masters (Mary, Buddha, Jesus, etc) to show you your past life or the past lives of others.  Sometimes when I connect with the best and highest self of someone else they will show us our past life together.  You may have things to heal from past lives, something to learn from or it can be shown just because it might interest you.

Some past lives of my own that I was given:

  1. Native American – I’ve seen myself as a man, looked like a hunter, and I’ve been told I was a shaman.  Someone once told me I had 3 lives as a Native American.
  2. Eygpt – I have so many dreams of living in Eygpt.  I get glimpses that I may have been a priest, certainly involved with the mystical.  Maybe even a slave in another life.
  3. Greece – I may have had multiple happy lives in Greece, once as a painter who owned a gallery.  Landscape paintings was what I was told.
  4. Psychic Medium in Italy – I was told that my clients would have to come through the back door because it was not totally an accepted practice.  Apparently I was quite good at foretelling the future.
  5. Stable man in UK during King Henry the Eighth’s and Queen Elizabeth I’s time.  Apparently lower class and in love with someone from the higher court.  Sounded like an Emily Bronte novel.  However, I received validation on my own later on and another psychic brought it up independently.
  6. Leader in a Hun/Mongolian conflict – received more than one vision of this past life
  7. Prince in the Middle East

There were others such as being African and living with a group of people under one roof, I was an Indian man and married to a woman, and being part of the French aristocracy.  The French one is very pretty as I see gorgeous ballrooms and dancing with a lady who had an mutual interest in me.  In one dream I saw that a horse brought me home while I was unconscious but I am unsure of what time frame or country that was from.  Some of the dreams can be representative or informative and some may be showing you areas to be healed.  They may explain why you see the patterns in your life that you do see and where some of your subconscious fears come from.  If you wake up from a dream and intuitively know it is a past life, or even suspect it, you can ask God to heal what can be healed from that past life in the best and highest way for you.  End with please and thank you for intention.  The healing can affect you on multiple levels including fears and vibrations.

Manifest Your Desires!


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Do you want to change your life?  Did you just get your reading of the future and not like the outcome?  Manifest!  Manifestation can bring more of the things you want to you, whether it is love, career, or a home.  To manifest, think of what you want as if you already have it right now.  Leave your fears and worries out of your manifestation unless you want those things to come to you.  Using the New Moon or Full Moon energies help enhance your manifestation energy.  Once you have your desires in mind release it to the universe.  It helps to write 5-8 things down if you prefer as well.  Writing or speaking has more energy behind it than thoughts.  Imagine you are drawing it to you naturally.  Want to know more?  Go to www.feathersinfinity.com to setup a reading with me.  I’ll be happy to discuss this with you.  Good Luck!

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Use your Intuition!

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Are you intuitive?  Do you just know things for no logical reason but know you are right?  Do you seem to know things about others without hearing about them from somewhere else.  You are probably an intuitive and have a great gift from God.  How do you use it?  Continue to listen to your hunches and urgings.  If it is positive and feels good it came from your higher self or from the light.  If it’s negative then it probably came from fear, so don’t listen to the negative advice, thoughts and feelings for now.  If your idea seems to come from nowhere and feels good to you, go for it.  Over time you will receive enough validation that you’re intuition is leading you in the right direction!  Want to know more?  Go to www.feathersinfinity.com to setup a reading with me.  I’ll be happy to discuss this with you.  Good Luck!

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