Soul Mates and the Stages of Grief

Photo source: Toolshero.com

Sometimes all you have to do is go through a rejection by someone in order to enter into a grieving period. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting.

The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.

Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.

If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. This can help push me past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.

If you need more help go to the top toolbar, I have different psychic reading options for you so you can talk to me in person, over the phone, or Skype/text chat.

Psychic Medium Andrea

Becoming Vegetarian

Image source: Medical News Today

It’s amazing I haven’t completely become vegetarian after the things that I thought, read about, and witnessed. But for whatever reason I haven’t fully changed to a vegetarian or vegan yet. Earlier this week, one day I ate vegetarian meals all day without really realizing it, I was busy with work and limited with the choices that I could choose for lunch and dinner. I ended up just having salad with peanuts twice that day and nothing else. I felt elated by the end of the day and I realized that I had eaten vegetarian all day. So I tried again the next day and I still felt this euphoric feeling. Since then I had a few meals that did include chicken and that uplifted, peaceful, happy feeling had left me. I had seen the documentaries about how they treat animals and I had a few experiences myself so I have had reasons in the past switch to vegetarianism. I just haven’t for various reasons. When I was at Mission Bay another reason had come to me. They were reminding me of a sight when on my way to Palm Springs of huge farm where the smell was horrible for miles before you could even see this ranch where they mass produced meat. The cows were lined up their heads through a fence and all the ground was mud instead of being grass. The fence was a rusty red from lack of upkeep and old tarps that used to shield the animals from the sun were torn and blowing in the wind. The Farm was the biggest I had ever seen, and seemed to go on for miles. They were reminding me of this image and showing me that a soul has to be in each of those animals. How would you like that life where you are confined, standing in your poo and then ultimately die a horrible, frightening death? After that was revealed to me that made sense. It provided an additional motivation to really consider converting to vegetarianism. I should already have enough evidence or motivation to do so but sometimes it’s easy to not see the meat on your plate as an animal because it no longer looks like an animal. However that thought of “oh man I have to go into this life, and into this body that will be bored, used, and go through a horrible, terror filled end” added some additional enlightenment, and hopefully motivation. If you are struggling with reasons to convert to vegetarianism I hope this revelation gives you something to think about that helps you as well.

Need a reading or energy healing? Go to my website at http://www.Feathersinfinity.com.

Energy Healer Paradox: How to Stop Attracting more of What or Who you don’t want

depressed man.jpg

Have you noticed since your spiritual awakening and healing path you continue to have relationships with those who drag you down or need healing? Do you just want a relationship with someone that has their “stuff” together and not in need?

I’ve been energy healing for years, and much of my readings/healing are about relationships. I found the same pattern occurring in my life where those I would date or court me would be people that would either show me things I needed to heal or need healing themselves. I knew there were people out there in better places in their lives and after so much healing over many years I knew I should be attracting someone great that didn’t drag me down.

During a reading for a client the answer was revealed to me by the angels. We put so much action, thought, and energy into healing, we were attracting more healing, either of ourselves or others. Remember, Law of Attraction. So essentially I and this other healer were attracting more people who could show us what we needed to heal or people who we could heal.

Healers: time to take back your life. You want the life you were healing for, not to be constantly healing. It is good to heal. Realize that if you get into the position of continually healing your life you are putting energy into “my relationships aren’t good enough”, “my life needs healing”, “I need to heal my life to feel better”, “my life isn’t good enough yet so I need to heal it”, “I’m not good enough” or “my life isn’t good enough yet”.

Solutions / Alternative actions:

  • Take a break from healing for a while. Let the dust settle and enjoy the benefits. Notice the positive changes and concentrate on them. Do lists or meditations on what is going right in your life, not into what needs to improve.
  • Get into a meditative state, and visualize you’re sitting across from God and ask God to pull the energy you’ve put into things/people not going right in your life and replace with better energy, such as “my life is great”. I visualized this as a cloud of black/brown energy, God removing it, transforming it into a little green cloud in a large vat of green transmuting energy, and then replacing it where it was taken from with a new set of green energy.
  • Then take time to visualize your life going great right now. This can be a combination of you visualizing what is actually going right as well as things that you wish were going well as if they were. Visualize your goals becoming true now. You’ve put so much thought into what is not right, time to put on the brakes and go in a better direction. When I type this I see a car going down a dusty, rough, long road into grey energy, and turning 90 degrees onto a road with a bright horizon and beautiful colors.
  • If you continue to heal do the above steps again every once and awhile to correct your course. I try to visualize my day going well and smoothly every morning.

New healer’s tip: I’ve noticed lately with big projects where you are healing something with a large surface area it is helpful to “zoom out”, perceive this “problem” as small, then it is easier for the energy to transform because you’ve gotten around the belief that this issue is too big, but rather it is small. Then zoom back in on the energy and see the energy transformed but at a faster pace because you perceived it as small. Think of how big the universe is, and then mentally realize that this issue, or opportunity area, is actually quite small for God to heal.

Why is he not calling and what you can do about it. Attachment Theory

Image takes you to Amazon.com for more info

Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:

– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run

I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.

It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.

The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.

In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of these):

  • The anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.
  • Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
  • Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.

Image takes you to Amazon.com for more info

http://amzn.to/2pg2qy9

What is Ego?

ego 

A lot of people in the metaphysical and psychological community talk about the ego. They describe it as a person or being that is working against us, something to be attacked and conquered. At some point in the middle of my energy healing journey I was questioning that and for whatever reason that didn’t quite jive with me.

I became interested in egos when I found that I couldn’t stay humble or say that I was sorry for something when I knew I should.  It was like a block that prevented me from saying or acting in a certain way, and it was affecting my relationships, keeping me separate from others.

So I asked my angels and God to send me to the right literature that would accurately tell me what is “ego”.  When I scanned through different metaphysical and psychological literature none of it felt right at that time. Usually I am very good at selecting the right books for me so I knew this meant something significant.  Eventually I received clairvoyantly what it was while at work.

What they showed me was that it was a layer in the energy field around people. They showed it as just a black sheet in one of the layers on my back side. It wasn’t a person or spirit, which really made it less scary.  Knowing this I asked God to heal my ego’s in the best highest way for me, ending in please and thank you. Instantly, this helped me by removing the blocks I was experiencing that were preventing me from being humble and from saying I’m sorry. Some people feel like egos actually protect us, and in some ways I can see that because it prevents you from doing things you don’t want to that make you feel low, such as saying you’re sorry. However, it also hinders us as it keeps us disconnected, because people won’t always tolerate arrogance or someone treating them badly without apologizing.  There are times in social situations where you have to act humble, even if you are good at something, to better get along with others.  I would highly recommend most, if not everyone, do this healing.  You can say it verbatim as I’ve listed below:

” God, please heal my ego’s in the best highest play for me, please and thank you.”

Then, if you’d like, visualize a black layer of your energy field being removed and replaced with green healing light.  If you are more of a Clairsentient, or someone who likes to feel their healing, wait until you feel a tingling or warming sensation dissipate.

Need more healing advice or a psychic reading?  Go to my website here: www.feathersinfinity.com.

 

Destiny, Soul Mates and “Meant to Be”

Original article by Psychic Medium Andrea.  

I get this question a lot when doing psychic mediumship readings for others. “Are we meant to be?”, “Are we destined to be together?” or “Is it written in stone that we are to be together?”  I asked my Archangels and Jesus, who I usually connect to during a reading, what the answer was. It seems like there are several scenarios. One scenario is that two people are meant to meet, meant to be together to produce children who’s souls they are meant to journey with and learn from. In this scenario, they can still stay together or split at the end after the children are produced depending on free will and whether they work out their issues.  Our parents didn’t split as much as later generations because of cultural and familial pressure, not to mention it was much harder to be a single mother before the 1990’s.   The second scenario seems to be that the two are meant to meet in a lifetime, and learn relationship lessons with each other.  It doesn’t always mean they will be together in a romantic relationship but they were still meant to meet, which gets confusing to many of my clients.  The connection feels so strong they think the connection itself will do the work for them.  The length of the relationship in this latter scenario seems to rely more on whether they work on their issues.  Put into the mix people’s own pride, beliefs and fears and the relationship becomes more complex.

Many times I do receive that two people were meant to meet, but they may not always work out usually due to communication issues. Communication issues, commonly the lack of expressing emotion, feelings and their interest for the other person, is one of the most common scenarios I run into in relationship readings to date. Many of these issues arise from societal and cultural beliefs that we pick up from many different sources such as family, friends, media, movies and co-workers.  Many parents still tell boys to not show emotion, although hopefully that is taking a turn for the better from what I’ve seen of the millennial generation. This leaves many women wondering what their men think and want.  It leaves them frustrated, especially in the world of texting where women expect an immediate answer to their text as we know our cell phones are near us most of the time. We also tell ourselves to be independent and not rely on others, creating the anxious/avoidant (push/pull, chase/run) dynamic seen in attachment theory.  Other common scenarios I encounter is one person wants the other to reach out as they are too afraid to reach out themselves and not receive an answer (fear of rejection). If one person feels this way it is very possible the other person is feeling the same, leaving them in a stalemate.

To sum up, watch out for areas that you can learn and grow, be honest with compassion, and communicate out your problems with your partner in a wise, empathic way. Look past pride to see both sides of the issue and don’t rely on “meant to be” to carry your relationship until death do you part.

Original article by Psychic Medium Andrea.  Do not copy or distribute without author’s permission.

Need more relationship advice?  Contact Psychic Medium Andrea at http://www.feathersinfinity.com.

Past Life Regression and Healing

past life

I did some past life regression and healing on myself today and wanted to pass along some of the techniques I used to heal some of my past lives that may be affecting how I perceive or vibrate in this life.

First it is important to relax, I usually do this lying on my bed, and meditate with some crystals.  The crystals I recommend from crown to toe are as follows:

Amethyst
Sodalite or Iolite
Larimar or angelite or aquamarine
Malachite or Serpentine or Tree Agate
Citrine
Sunstone or Moonstone
Red Jasper
Black Tourmaline (legs, knees and feet)

I relax and try to clear my mind.

Next I ask God to send me Jesus, and my 5 archangels, however you can ask for the ascended master of your choice (Buddha, Mary, etc.) and your archangels.

Say:

“Jesus and my archangels, thank you for being here.”

“Please show me a past life I need to heal from.”  or “Please show me a past life with …[person or soul connection].”

It may not be happy, since we are healing from this particular life.

Wait and allow them to show you.

Once you feel you were shown a representation of what happened you can ask for it to be healed.

Healing 1: “God please pull any regrets, resentments, rejections from the situation shown to me on all levels they exist in the best and highest way.  Replace anything removed with energy that is best and highest for me.  Please and thank you.”

Wait and feel the healing to be done.  Sometimes I ask them to make my feet feel less heavy when they are done.

Healing 2: Technically, I think this karmic healing should take care of #1, but it doesn’t hurt to do both.

Creator of all that is, I’m sorry, I forgive myself and I forgive others concerning this situation.  Please and thank you, it is done, it is done, it is done, and so it is.”

Wait and feel the healing to be done.

More tips or guidance specifically for you from your angels and guides?  Go to www.feathersinfinity.com.

Self Healing

healing

There are a few methods that I learned in self healing my past that I wanted to share.

  1. “Healing through the decades”

Get into a meditative state (close your eyes and breathe in and out 3 times).  Imagine God and your angels sitting next to you.  Say:

  “Creator of all that is, please pull any negative emotions and negative energy from me when I was ages 0-10 years old.  Replace anything removed with healing energy that is best and highest for me.  Please and thank you, it is done, it is done, it is done, and so it is.”

Wait and feel the energy being removed and replaced or until you intuitively know it is complete.  Then repeat the above prayer, replacing 0-10 with 11-20, then 21-30, until you reach your current age.  This will help with much of the anxiety and negative energy you have been feeling over the years.

2. “Stop the arguing”

Do you get into arguments with someone in your head over and over again concerning what happened in the past or some other reason?  I know some of you won’t want to do what I am about to tell you, but know that is your ego or some other negative side of you.  This prayer Heals significantly and I highly recommend it.  Just say the words, you don’t even have to feel it, or get to the wisdom of the situation before using it.  Mainly it is to release the energy that is no longer serving you and is bothering you (and probably only bothering you at this point).  It will still work even if you don’t feel humble enough to mean it fully at the time.  The healing will take care of that.

Think of situations that to this day still bother you.  Even if you don’t want to give this person anything, even if you hate them, or think you hate them, say this:

 “Creator of all that is, I’m sorry, I forgive myself and I forgive others concerning this situation.  Please and thank you, it is done, it is done, it is done, and so it is.”

Wait and feel the energy being removed and replaced or until you intuitively know it is complete. There may be multiple reasons why you are going through this with someone else.  It could be due to someone’s insecurities, past lives,  a learning experience to make you more empathic or wise in the future. Whatever the reason, this helps to relieve a lot of that energy stuck in the past.

The other thing you can do daily to stay out of arguing with other people’s egos, shadow selves, or energies is to ask for this every morning:

 “Creator of all that is, please block me from connecting to others, unless I consciously ask for it or you feel it is important.  Please and thank you, it is done, it is done, it is done, and so it is.”

Need more tips and tricks tailored specifically to you from your angels and guides?  Check out my website www.feathersinfinity.com for my reading and healing offerings.

Client’s Love & Relationship Question

relationship

LOVE & RELATIONSHIP QUESTION

A client the other day asked me why her relationship not working out if she and her love interest had so much in common.

The answers I received from spirit were two-fold.  One, soul connections are brought into our lives and there is often a purpose to it.  You may pick up on the uniqueness of the connection, however that doesn’t mean it will work out forever, or “til death do you part”.  Sometimes you learn something from them and move on.  Both partners need to work through their issues.  Spirit showed me paths splitting due to a fork in the road; in other words your life paths may not be parallel for the rest of your lives and it can cause a struggle or feeling of incompleteness later in the relationship.  Some couples, including soul connections & Soul Mates, are short term for various reasons.  The second message I received was to discuss my parents.  My parents have been married over 51 years and still going strong.  They are almost complete opposites; one extremely logical and the other very good at expressing her emotions.  In some ways they make up for what the other lacks and can be a very good paring.  Sometimes they don’t understand each other at all, but they accept it, or ask their children what the other means as we have become translators for each side.  They make it work doing their own thing as they are very independent people with unique interests.

Society today, probably because of movies and other forms of entertainment, make us feel that we are to match up and be completely like our mate, however 50+ years ago the opposite was believed.  The full spectrum of similarities and differences can work out potentially.  If you have differences, great!  That could make it interesting for you and they can turn out to be helpful to you in the future.

Need more advice?  Check out my website www.feathersinfinity.com for readings and healing.

Past Lives

old key

A past life regression provides an interesting glimpse into what roles we may have played with our other soul connections in other lives.  You can see your past lives in a few ways.  One is through meditation, and using a past life regression video/audio or a meditation that you read through a book. Another common way is through dreams.  Be sure to ask God to help you remember your dreams in the morning so you can review them or write them down.  The last way that I’ll mention is through psychic mediumship readings.  You can ask your angels, archangels, God or ascended masters (Mary, Buddha, Jesus, etc) to show you your past life or the past lives of others.  Sometimes when I connect with the best and highest self of someone else they will show us our past life together.  You may have things to heal from past lives, something to learn from or it can be shown just because it might interest you.

Some past lives of my own that I was given:

  1. Native American – I’ve seen myself as a man, looked like a hunter, and I’ve been told I was a shaman.  Someone once told me I had 3 lives as a Native American.
  2. Eygpt – I have so many dreams of living in Eygpt.  I get glimpses that I may have been a priest, certainly involved with the mystical.  Maybe even a slave in another life.
  3. Greece – I may have had multiple happy lives in Greece, once as a painter who owned a gallery.  Landscape paintings was what I was told.
  4. Psychic Medium in Italy – I was told that my clients would have to come through the back door because it was not totally an accepted practice.  Apparently I was quite good at foretelling the future.
  5. Stable man in UK during King Henry the Eighth’s and Queen Elizabeth I’s time.  Apparently lower class and in love with someone from the higher court.  Sounded like an Emily Bronte novel.  However, I received validation on my own later on and another psychic brought it up independently.
  6. Leader in a Hun/Mongolian conflict – received more than one vision of this past life
  7. Prince in the Middle East

There were others such as being African and living with a group of people under one roof, I was an Indian man and married to a woman, and being part of the French aristocracy.  The French one is very pretty as I see gorgeous ballrooms and dancing with a lady who had an mutual interest in me.  In one dream I saw that a horse brought me home while I was unconscious but I am unsure of what time frame or country that was from.  Some of the dreams can be representative or informative and some may be showing you areas to be healed.  They may explain why you see the patterns in your life that you do see and where some of your subconscious fears come from.  If you wake up from a dream and intuitively know it is a past life, or even suspect it, you can ask God to heal what can be healed from that past life in the best and highest way for you.  End with please and thank you for intention.  The healing can affect you on multiple levels including fears and vibrations.