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By Andrea Knight
Much of what we have learned from empaths or clairsentient people comes from other gurus and teachers. Here are a few misunderstood beliefs around what it means to be an empath that I have found independently in my experiences with some solutions to help you feel better now.
1. We absorb other people’s energy. I learned that this was not always true when doing my Dominion article, instead it may be more rare than you think. Instead, like an actor taking on a role, you may be a mimicking the energies of others, and all you have to say is “reverse”, visualizing all your energies, protectors and guides turning around in a circle to reverse out of this feeling. Ask them instead to “mimic” peace and feeling safe. I will also visualize an arrow going back in time to a point I was feeling at peace, like after a good meditation. In a few seconds I will be restored to that feeling. Much faster than meditations, energy healing sessions, saging and sweetgrass…you get the point. Can be done in seconds while you are anywhere. This solves the problem for me in most instances where I feel icky, off, not safe or brain fogged.
2. That it is actually only our spirit absorbing or mimicking others. Not always true and less often than you think. Instead what I have found is I am feeling my guides, angels and other spiritual helpers mimicking or absorbing the energies and entities. They are doing their part in protecting me and I am feeling what they are protecting me from. What I recommend here is in my “heal the healers” article, imagine your spiritual guides, healers, and other spiritual helpers getting cleansed when you heal yourself. You can just visualize this with all their chakras being cleared, aligned and their energies restored to brilliant colors. You may feel better faster than only working on yourself. Also this is another awesome way to elevate your psychic abilities to the next level as they help facilitate the psychic, mediumship and energy healing process. This method is helpful especially when you’ve done everything you possibly can on yourself but not feeling enough of a change to the positive. “Heal your healers.”
3. That everything we feel, mimic or absorb is from people. Nope. Sometimes you are feeling the environment, the rocks, trees, plants, air, as well as what people, animals and spirits have left behind energetically. You are potentially reading what is, what was and what may be in the future if you have that ability. Mentally note it, and then ask your spiritual entourage to “reverse” like in #1.
This concept of “reversing” out of feeling like others, the environment or spirits is a result of independent research and experience. Please do not copy without proper reference to author and links to this site.
It is possible to go to the grocery store, even Walmart with great psychic or energy healing abilities and feel at peace with no brain fog. Watch out for that article in the future but some of that advice is contained in the recommendations above.
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Do you feel like you can’t get over someone even though they may not be good for you? Do you feel like every time you try to move on you feel like you can’t?
You may have spiritual cords connected to your ex lover, ex husband, or even ex friends. If you are trying to separate yourself and feel like you can’t, or someone else’s emotions are affecting you at seemingly random moments of the day, I recommend cord cutting as one step in a process of restoring your energy back to peace.
I should note that cord-cutting does not sever any potential for a relationship with this person in the future. Rather, it helps to restore peace between you and the other person and I find it feels very grounding as well. It helps remove some of the anxiety you may be experiencing concerning the person. Some strange things may happen as well including they may contact you, post on social media something that reminds them of you, think of you or something else after the cord cutting ceremony. You may even see angelic signs or messages concerning them after that for a period of time. Depending on where your relationship is and what you intend to do in the future you can either dismiss these or note them when they happen.
If this is a twin flame or soulmate connection that you’re trying to disconnect yourself from because the emotions have become too extreme this may be only one step in the process. Depending on what you want to do with the relationship there may be more steps as cord cutting alone I have found not to be enough to completely move on however it is a good step to take regardless. I have found some twin flame (& some soulmate) energies may come back to you even stronger than it was before as it does not want to separate. I should note briefly, as each situation is different, that this is not always a sign that you have to have a relationship in this life with that person. If the relationship was not working it just means the soul does not want to separate at this time, not that the physical person you are trying to have a relationship with will turn around their behavior. If you want further information on your particular situation I recommend going to the toolbar at the top of this page and looking under my psychic readings section for the right reading for you to talk to your angels and guides for guidance on your particular relationship.
Cord cutting method:
Imagine yourself in a white light. Thank your archangels and God for being there out loud. Say out loud “I command cords be removed between [name or other person] and myself. Please and thank you.” Visualize an Archangel like Michael or Raphael remove the chords one by one from your crown chakra all the way down to your root chakra. Imagine an archangel removing chords you have stuck to the other person from their chakras from the crown down to the root. Imagine archangels putting these cords in a bucket and setting them on fire until they are ash and blow away. If there’s anything else left in the bucket imagine a white flame burning that, even if it’s hard for it to burn away, until it disappears. Lastly, imagine the Archangel replacing the area where the cords were severed with Divine Light. Thank your angels and God for being here and imagine yourself grounding back into Earth.
Life a little upside down after finishing a Reiki class? reiki practitioner, reiki practitioner
After finishing Reiki you become more sensitive to energy, Chi. I’ve found over the years that those who enter into metaphysical studies may go through a number of trials, although not the same for all, including losing their job, losing their friends, having their love life turn upside down and separating from family. Here are a few tips to add to your items to watch out for and maintain in order for your life to go more smoothly.
1. Feng Shui. Follow this link to go into my blog specifically on this subject for more detail. As you become sensitive to others’ energies you’ll start to notice the energy of your home as well. As good feng shui can benefit you, inauspicious (negative) energy may not. I recommend looking around the home and check the elements (water, metal, fire, wood) you have in each of your corners and sides. I’ve heard of some clients even having tragedies happen to their family members after moving to a new home with inauspicious energy. Good feng shui can bring positive things to you automatically so it is something good to look after for that reason as well. I can also remotely scan your home and tell you of any problem areas you may have. Schedule a reading with me and we can discuss further.
2. Turn off feeling the 2nd and 3rd Plane of Existence for a while. 1st plane is crystals, rocks, soil and other inorganic materials on earth. 2nd plane consists of plants, nature spirits and elementals. 3rd plane is humans and animals. Crystals, shells and other earth, water, fire and air nature spirits work very well in the healing process. However not everything in these planes (plants, animals, humans) are happy or healthy. You might want to turn off feeling these planes after meditation or healing. Need further instruction on how to do this? Schedule a reading with me here, email, text and over the phone readings are available.
3. Clairsentient Maintenance. As you scan, absorb, heal and read others you need to cleanse your energies and return your own back to you. Here is my detailed blog on how to do this.
4. Ask to stop absorbing energies from others. This was revealed to me after a reading and a healing. Ask Archangel Raphael to come to you and have you stop absorbing the energies of others. You may feel the healing around your mid back around the heart and solar plexus. Be calm and allow the healing to continue until you feel it is done.
5. Ground. Can’t emphasize this enough. Think of grounding as washing off your spiritual windshield. When you cleanse the energies of others off of it, you can see clearer and feel more like yourself and less like others. When you are out of healing, meditations, and readings, be sure to do a proper and thorough grounding. This will protect you from weight gain, mania and lack of focus (brain fog). It could save your job and your life path. Follow this link to my grounding article.
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By Andrea Knight
Have you noticed since your spiritual awakening and healing path you continue to have relationships with those who drag you down or need healing? Do you just want a relationship with someone that has their “stuff” together and not in need? Do you feel fatigued and drained?
I’ve been energy healing for years, and much of my readings/healing are about relationships. I found the same pattern occurring in my life where those I would date or court me would be people that would either show me things I needed to heal or need healing themselves. I knew there were people out there in better places in their lives and after so much healing over many years I knew I should be attracting someone great that didn’t drag me down.
During a reading for a client the answer was revealed to me by the angels. We put so much action, thought, feeling and energy into healing, we were attracting more healing, either of ourselves or others. Remember, Law of Attraction. So essentially I and this other healer that was a client were attracting more people who could show us what we needed to heal or people who we could heal.
Healers: time to take back your life. You want the life you were healing for, not to be constantly healing. Don’t get me wrong, it is good to heal yourself and others. Realize that if you get into the position of continually healing your life you are putting energy into “my relationships aren’t good enough”, “my life needs healing”, “I need to heal my life to feel better”, “my life isn’t good enough yet so I need to heal it”, “I’m not good enough” or “my life isn’t good enough yet”.
Solutions / Alternative actions:
Ask the Creator of All that is to cancel, clear, delete the energy you’ve put into healing your friends, family and romantic partners, and replace it with energy of those coming into your life (or already in it) that are stable, good people that you don’t need to constantly “fix”. This shouldn’t affect your business as you are only healing those in your personal life. I visualized this as a cloud of black/brown energy, Creator removing it, transforming it into a little green cloud. Visualize those that are stable and not needing major improvement coming to you now. You’ve put so much thought into what is not right, time to put on the brakes and go in a better direction. When I type this I see a car going down a dusty, rough, long road into grey energy, and turning 90 degrees onto a road with a bright horizon and beautiful colors. If you continue to heal do the above steps again every once and awhile to correct your course.
Take a break from healing for a while. Let the dust settle and enjoy the benefits. Tell yourself you are good enough now. Do some grounding. Notice the positive changes and concentrate on them. Do lists or meditations on what is going right in your life, not into what needs to improve. You may be constantly looking at things that need to be healed or improved and your energies are constantly “on” looking for opportunity areas.
New healer’s tip: I’ve noticed lately with big projects where you are healing something with a large surface area it is helpful to “zoom out”, perceive this “problem” as small, then it is easier for the energy to transform because you’ve gotten around the belief that this issue is too big, but rather it is small. Then zoom back in on the energy and see the energy transformed but at a faster pace because you perceived it as small. Think of how big the universe is, and then mentally realize that this issue, or opportunity area, is actually quite small for God to heal. This will help with any negative belief systems you may have.
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There are a few psychological and metaphysical reasons why you may be interested in somebody who is either not interested in you or that treats you poorly.
1. You are connecting to their soul energy, you’ve pierced through their outer layers and have gotten to a spiritual side of them that contains unconditional love. As you try to concentrate on other things, thoughts of them pop up in your mind because your energies are communicating. The problem is if on a physical level they are not as aware of this as you are, and are not interested in you in that way, they may not treat you very well or really contact you much at all. This leads me to the psychological problems that can lead to feeling “stuck” on a person.
2. When someone is busy or doesn’t take much interest in us we think that they’re more special or have more value. When someone is busy sometimes we interpret that as they’re more important, that they have more friends, and are more popular than us. We put them on a pedestal thinking they are more rare and harder to get, increasing their “scarcity“, and therefore boosting their value in our mind. This is also why someone who “breadcrumbs” you, in other words only contacts you every once in awhile, can get you addicted to them as well.
3. If you have a pattern of wanting people that are either taken or hard to actually be with in a relationship you may have a fear of your relationships failing. In other words you put yourself in a position where you never actually get together with the person so it can never really fail, thereby avoiding heartbreak, humiliation, social judgement from friends and family. You may have to face the beliefs as to why you don’t actually want to be in a real relationship due to fears of it failing. For this I recommend theta healing, which works on fears and beliefs on a subconscious level, which I can provide over distance on my website here.
4. You get more of a rush mentally with dopamine when you have a roller coaster ride relationship than with a steady one. If you fantasize or are around that person for a shorter period of time you get that jolt of dopamine and then you leave them it allows you to reset so when you come back to them you get that jolt of dopamine again. To stay with them for a longer period of time where it is consistently good doesn’t give you that rush of dopamine after a period of absence.
5. Something feels unresolved or incomplete after you’ve been chasing them for a while? Maybe it feels unbalanced and you want it to feel equal. If you look up the reciprocity principal as I learned in Marketing, people feel obligated to return a favor. In this case you may have given this person a lot of attention, a lot of energetic love, and a lot of your mental time. Your brain wants something back in other words you want reciprocity. The unfortunate instance here is that you just may not get it back. What I recommend is a grief healing to get you to acceptance which I can also provide through my energy healing services on my website.
6. Possession. You feel like they are “yours”. What I receive in readings is a feeling like this person that is not their current partner (an interest, an ex) is “theirs” or belongs to them in some way and they don’t want them to move on or be with another. A lot of psychological articles will discuss a feeling of what they call “possession” of those you love. Much of this comes from the beliefs of “the one”, scarcity and insecurity. It can cause clients to feel jealous when their love interest is with another woman/man even though they do not have exclusivity with their love interest. In some cases the love interest may not even know my client very well yet and very little communication has been exchanged, yet my client can still feel like their love interest is “theirs”. Break free and realize we have more than one soul mate, many past lives and can feel a connection even with someone new. Ask God to heal your feelings of scarcity and “the one” in the best and highest way for you.
1. Compartmentalize – this is a coping mechanism that helps you to focus on things like work and other areas of your life while shelving your romantic life for a while. It helps you not lose your life while you are thinking about or feeling stuck on another person.
2. Watch something that puts you in a better mood – for me this is YouTube videos on comedy, interviews with mentors or animals. Get out of depression and feeling spent or empty from giving them so much love and attention and receiving little back.
3. Date other people – know you’re worth it and receive some of those compliments you are giving to someone else.
4. Work on yourself – psychologically and metaphysically, change how you see the situation. Someone treating you like crud should not be attractive and shouldn’t pull you towards them, instead know intellectually why this is happening to you by reading articles like this or books so when you encounter it you can change the situation and bring someone to you that treats you better. Go to my website, I provide theta healing which work on the fears and beliefs that sabotage you.
When I go out on some days I’ll come back home sometimes and feel like I need to go out again and have more experiences, what I have been told during readings is “wanderlust”. This constant feeling, wanting, yearning to either go back to where I just came from or to do something adventurous again that day or soon is sometimes not feasible, financially responsible, and can be exhausting. I don’t always like this feeling of wanting all the time. What usually helps me in those times is first imagining God as a big hand scooping up all the energy and entities absorbed or picked up from the area’s I had just been that are around me and sprinkling it back where they came from. I see that hand sprinkling the energy and entities along the route I had just gone through, this returns the energy back to where it came from. Second I use affirmations and I’ll say three times out loud the following: “I am satisfied with the food I’ve had today”, “I am satisfied with the entertainment I’ve had today”, “I feel satisfied and content now”, “I feel satisfied with the drink I have had today”. You can also include other affirmations such as “I am at peace”, “my body is safe”, “my soul is safe”, and “my mind is safe” to regain some peace back into your life. I have a Blog that you can search for using the magnifying glass on the top toolbar called “Finding Peace“, go through that blog to help restore some of the peace in your life as well. A lot of it is you just absorb a bunch of energy that either wants to go back to where it came from or links you to certain areas that cause you to long to go back. Also you get a rush mentally from all the excitement you’ve just been through, so there is a psychological component as well. I find returning the energy to where it came from and saying “I am satisfied…” helps with the wanting feeling or dissatisfaction with what I’ve already received. I even do this when going out to the grocery store or other every day places, it helps me to feel better and more grounded.
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I heard very clearly when in a reading state one day the word “Absolution”. Kind of hilarious, I went to 10+ years of Catholic school, and while I had heard of the word before I had to look it up after the vision to make sure I knew what it meant. I thought it had something to do with sinning, maybe forgiveness. I received several times in my energy healing and readings that we can beat ourselves up sometimes over what we have done in this current life and in past lives. A very clear vision popped up after I received this word “Absolution” after asking how to do this. This is what I received and hurriedly wrote down.
“pain of existence hopelessness we think we are sinners – should change, sometimes we know energetically or soul level we have been bad in the past complicated forces cause us to “misbehave” (not all our fault that we do) we are punishing ourselves physically instead of going through each cause and “I forgive myself, others…” there is a faster way absolve sins saw a vision of Jesus under a rain cloud, rain falling on him, on knees praying, also saw myself on knees praying by bed, then rising up and saying thank you. Say a prayer asking God to absolve my sins both in current and past lives on your knees (picture Jesus next to you with the intention that Jesus not get hurt). say amen. the rain represented the healing water to wash away sins”
The vision outlined a method with which to absolve your sins in past lives and current lives without the need for a priest. I’ve struggled with the word “sin” since taking the metaphysical journey, knowing that sometimes there are other forces within and outside of us that cause us to act negatively. I won’t go into that now, but if you feel that you continually pull yourself down mentally, physically, energetically for the past, this is a wonderful healing to lift you up. I really felt energetically refreshed afterwards with more positive energy.
Like the vision said, kneel (or lay down), and imagine Jesus with you in the rain which is cleansing both of you. Imagine yourself in the white light. Then see yourself floating above the clouds, up into the universe as high as you can go until you reach an area of the universe that is all white. Imagine you and Jesus in this area either kneeling or lying down with God watching over you. Tell yourself that Jesus won’t get hurt in the process (I had a problem with this that I didn’t want him dying or getting hurt for my sins, you might too). Thank God, your angels, archangels and Jesus for being there. Ask God out loud to absolve your sins in past lives and current life. End with please and thank you, Amen. Watch or feel what happens. Wait until the vision or feelings stop and your feet feel heavy or grounded. Say “Thank you God, Jesus and angels”. Imagine yourself going back down into the universe, through earth’s atmosphere, back into your body. Imagine your feet turning into roots and going down to the core of the earth, bringing green light to fill your body and energy field around you. Say out loud, “I am grounded, I am grounded, I am grounded” and wait until your feet feel like heavy rocks. Then continue about your day.
Sometimes a rejection from those we are interested in can lead to us entering the grief cycle. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting to them.
The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.
Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.
If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. Wait and feel much of the healing at the bottom of your lungs to clear before returning to your day. When the soreness or feeling in your lungs dissipate the healing is done. This can help push you past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.
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I had a client come to me for problems with her love life. So I was helping her with her love life I got a vision that sometimes she hears negative voices. She verified that she indeed was having this issue, and she told me her solution was to say “Return to Sender”. We started to talk about her clairaudience a bit and it was explained to me through the reading by spirit guides that she has some blocks and imbalances on her side chakras and meridians. Then they showed me an image of a donut and I got concept that we spend a lot of time healing our front and back chakras and meridians, but we don’t always pay attention to the sides. Donuts will be more tan on the front and back but their sides will be a lighter color due to less direct contact with the oil while cooking (see image). So I relay this information to her to heal her side chakras’ and meridians’ blocks and imbalances that will help with the backups of negative energy that her system may be interpreting is negative voices. I have also noticed when you concentrate on healing the sides that it helps you better ground to Mother Earth, therefore release some of other people’s energies, and help you focus.
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One common side effect of being ungrounded is a lack of mental clarity, where it is hard to concentrate and focus as you used to (light headedness). Here are some common symptoms of being ungrounded:
-Loss of focus
-Feeling less intelligent
-Swift changing moods
-Hunger that can’t be satisfied
-Feeling more drained or fatigued than you’ve ever felt
-Anxieties that are not explainable
-Feeling everything and everyone around you
I talk a lot about grounding, and I’ve included additional methods and modes in the past, but I haven’t done a basic grounding blog as I figured it has been covered quite a bit on the internet. However, it has come up multiple times this past week so I decided to get it done. There are many YouTube meditations on this as well.
Do this when you get up in the morning and whenever you feel you are getting less grounded again. Grounding does not negatively affect your metaphysical abilities, think of it as you are washing them off in a waterfall, washing away the psychic “dirt” and when you come up again you can see clearer. Hopefully that helps some of you with your fears of grounding. If you have other fears of grounding, ask your archangels to heal them on all levels before you go to bed for the next 7 nights.
First imagine God sweeping away all the energies from the environments, family, friends, strangers that you may have absorbed and sprinkling them back towards where they came from. Then imagine any energy that you’ve left behind in the environment and with other people, including those you think a lot about like soulmates, coming back to you in a transmuted positive form, commonly seen in green.
Close your eyes and visualize black cords from the core of the earth extend up until they hook on to your feet, hips and end of your spine. I usually ask for this connection to core for 24 hours and wait for mother earth to acknowledge with a check mark clairvoyantly. Visualize the rest of your body turn into the branches and the leaves, extending into your energy field and your energy field turning a dark green as well as the rest of your body. Visualize air blowing away any energetic debris, then a waterfall wash over you to toss energies to the ground where they become soaked into the earth. Lastly visualize green fire surrounding you and your energy field, dissolving any negative energy or energies that no longer serve you. Using this process you will have used all 4 elements.
Imagine antennae that extend from the crown of your head open to a river of energy above you, representing the energy of others, their thoughts another spiritual information. Imagine those antennae retracting down back into your head. Imagine your energy fields and other cords that extend outside of your protective “front line” to retract into and behind your “front line” protectors. Ask them to stay there for a period of time such as 24 hours, etc.
Lastly if you’ve been doing a lot of spiritual work I highly recommend visualizing God turning down a nobb like you’re turning down the volume of something until you feel your energy become more grounded and less high vibrational. This will help bring you peace as well.
Sometimes after a very ungrounding reading I’ll take an actual shower, and light candles asking for grounding, open windows for air to blow in and put black stones in my pockets for additional intention. You should feel your feet become heavier, like putting on heavier boots and they should stay that way for the length of the time you ask. Lastly, visualize any portals open in your home closing (or around you if outside the home). I usually see a field of energy sweep through the home, closing any portals as it scans through like a copy machine.
You can also visualize your home grounding its energy as well. I usually see a forest in the home, with a stream of water in the middle, campfire, lightning bugs in the air, air blowing through the forest rustling the leaves. This way you are incorporating all 4 elements in your grounding visualization.
There are other guided meditations for grounding online but they do take rather a long period of time. In the morning I usually like to get going, so you can do this in the shower or in bed. Also, if you are clairsentient, check out my blog on how to maintain your energies so you can clear more of what no longer serves you.
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I do many readings for others and many of my readings are with a woman that are attracted to a guy who she keeps in good contact with but he’s not revealing his feelings enough to her verbally. Clients often ask me why they have this pattern where the man is not revealing his feelings enough in the relationship. Many times I will receive that he reveals feelings in others ways as verbal expression can be difficult depending on how he was raised. Other ways can be acts of service, affirmations, quality time, physical gifts and longer than usual eye contact. Check out my 5 love languages article for more on this.
Some of this can be explained by Attachment Theory as someone is attracted to another person who is what they call an “avoidant” and it makes the client very anxious waiting for some sort of validation of his feelings in a verbal sense. These personality times have some psychological challenges to work through and can be a difficult partner for someone who gets anxious with separation.
The third reason that comes up is metaphysical. If you see the same pattern come up in your life where your partners have trouble expressing emotion, law of attraction may be sending you the same person with similar patterns. Look into your past. How many people in your life act similarly in ways that bother you? How much time, attention, action and feeling have you put into these people? Many times these people were just in you life from the get go, like parents, but over the years you have put energy, thought, feeling and action into people with similar personality traits. To manifest according to the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Bryne it helps to put thought, feeling, and action behind what you want. According to this book the law doesn’t really discriminate “bad” versus “good” desires, if you put the energy into it it is possible to get the same thing out over and over again. Now I do believe that spiritual forces protect us from ourselves but they do show us the same patterns as well so we can correct for it.
Some clients ask me how do I stop this pattern of being with these guys that don’t openly express their feelings. My recommendation is two fold. First reverse you’re thinking and reactions when you encounter someone who openly shows emotion. If you find yourself taking a step back in fear the problem may not be the person that is expressing themselves; it may be time to look at why you’re uncomfortable with someone showing you affection. The second recommendation is to look for either a behavioral psychiatrist who can do some sort of hypnotherapy on your subconscious or a Theta healer who essentially does the same thing but on multiple metaphysical levels including past lives, soul level, current life and genetic levels. My own Theta Healing also concentrates on the mind or mental level as well as the Akashic records. Theta healing removes the negative beliefs and fears that cause you to react this way and replaces them with something more positive and in line with what you really want. If you’d like to look at some of my energy healing options feel free to look on my website here. I also do psychic mediumship readings here.
I wanted to impart some knowledge I gained over the weekend that really helped me to relax and unwind after a long, active week. I can fill up my day with a lot of activities and sometimes it helps to have a way to relax mentally as well as physically. For those of you dealing with anxiety or with muscle aches or pains this should help you out. I learned online that you can use essential oils specifically lavender, eucalyptus, and peppermint to help relax your muscles and joints. Essential oils work on multiple levels and in multiple ways.
I already had these essential oils available to me as I use them for my candle manifesting. All three are good for healing when using them in conjunction with your candles. Peppermint has the added benefit of increasing more positive energy both in the environment as well as when you inhale it. I also drink mint and peppermint tea help me relax.
How to: Take an aloe based lotion of your choice, about 2-3 ounces, and combine it with two drops of each of these essential oils: peppermint, lavender, and eucalyptus. With the mixing container in hand you can also apply any energy healing you know into the lotion as well. Then stir the lotion together to combine with the oils and rub the lotion from shoulder to toe or only use on your joints.
The lotion feels really good by itself but for an extra relaxing, luxurious feeling apply it while in a nice warm bubble bath with some sea salts.
I also apply energy healing to my lotions for additional grounding effect. You can buy my reiki lotions and other bath products at my store here.
Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:
– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run
I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.
It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.
The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.
In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of theThe Anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.
Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.
I was visited by an elemental king of fire the other day. He’s been making himself known pretty prominently for the past couple days. So during my next reading I asked what he is responsible for or what he helps out with. I felt a warm sensation on my face and on my arms so through a series of questions I found out that they can warm an area or body part such as when we get upset, embarrassed or angry we’ll feel our face get warm or prickly (fire elementals specifically). I also asked if they’re responsible for creating many of the sensations throughout my body I’ve been experiencing since I took Reiki and I saw clairvoyantly that all the Elementals have something to do with the sensations we feel. When I asked to be cooler during a hot part of the day I first asked for water and that didn’t quite do it. Then I saw the word “air”, so I asked for air and then I cooled down. As the years have gone by I have clairvoyantly seen as well as intuitively received that some of these feelings are controlled by elementals and nature spirits.
Over the years I would ask about different sensations and the answers were consistently elementals or nature spirits rather than my angels. For a week or two after this meeting I wanted to know more about what Elementals do to help us out. After looking through some sources of information seems like they clean up a lot of negative energy in different areas on Earth. In a reading I asked why are they creating some of these unusual sensations such as prickling, warming, heaviness and I received that they wish to help out. One way they can help out is by allowing us to feel the blocks and imbalances that need to be healed by creating some of these sensations in our body and around us. Affirmations, meditation and energy healing such as theta, crystals and Reiki can remove those blocks and imbalances. Energetic blocks can be indicators of what beliefs you have about yourself and the world around you as well as the chakras/meridians/energy fields that need to be cleansed or healed. Know that this is only part of what they do to help us raise our vibration. Use it as an indication that something is out of balance and get your metaphysical tool belt out to clear some stuff out. As we heal, we raise our vibration.
Some items that fire elementals can help out with and given to me in a mediumship reading with a high level fire elemental:
Healing – one worked on my joints the other day, it felt great!
Teach or make us feel like going in another direction or to not do something
Remove negative energy & entities
Transmute energy (purple flame I was told was not fire elementals, that was connected to Christ energy)
They did want others to know that not all of them are evil, even though many evil characters on TV and movies are pictures associated with fire. Some fire elementals try to steer you in another direction and that may be done in less pleasant ways but not always for malevolent reasons. Their healing and grounding can be quite awesome and I would recommend including them not just earth in your grounding routine. They can also help give you energy and remove negative energy from your body/aura as well.
Fatigue – Wow, this can be multiple things. The simplest answer I can give you is clear the root chakra, or carry a red stone in your pocket. The root chakra seems to be one of the major energy boosting centers. Also imagine red energy in your legs down to your feet while exercising, I’ve noticed this gives me an energy boost. Fatigue could also be someone else’s energies stuck in your energy field. In this case say mentally this is not me and the energy will go away. If it is a block, do a clairsentient body scan and see where the energy is concentrated, then clear chakras and meridians on the spot as well as above and below. The other common reason is lack of enthusiasm, use affirmations for this (“I am enthusiastic about life”, “Love and Joy runs through my arteries and veins”) because sometimes we have to do things we aren’t always thrilled with.
Mental slowness, lack of mental clarity – First check both sides of your throat including the area where the spinal cord meets the skull. Also check chakras in the middle of your head, behind the nose and in the back of your mouth. Second, Ground! Do a great grounding including grounding the back chakras, each of your joints in arms, shoulders and legs. Grounding helps with mental clarity and focus when out of a reading.
Here is a summary of solutions to clear some of the discomfort, fatigue or blocks:
1. Appreciation – say out loud what you appreciate, even if it is materialistic, like “I appreciate my bed, I appreciate my TV, I appreciate the beach…”
2. Mediation with crystals – I highly recommend full chakra sets with grounding stones for your legs. I practice what I preach and sell full sets which include stones for your legs and feet (go here: www.ebay.com/usr/all1059). The additional leg stones can help with anxieties, stress and help you have a more clear flow of energy. I have seen no one else provide a full chakra set which includes feet and knee chakra stones. They really make a difference.
3. Affirmations – Louise Hay has a book, “How to heal your life” that gives you affirmations for the areas where you feel discomfort. Also there are many affirmations on the internet if you google “knee pain affirmation”.
4. Energy healing – Crystals, theta or Reiki as well as many other modalities can help you restore balance and peace.
When I ask what high level elemental beings do, often I am presented with a being that looks like a king, sultan or other royal being. So far I’ve seen Sultans and Kings representing high level fire beings.
I saw in my reading that elementals and nature spirits would like to be known for what they do to help. They help us throughout the day, either by being our guides through feelings as well as cleaning up the energy around us. An excellent way to feel better is to take a walk outside in nature and you’ll instantly realize how much better the energy is. The other thing I saw clairvoyantly in my reading clearly when I was asking about fire Elementals was lightning. After perusing some of the sources about Elementals I saw them mention lightning as well. I read that fire Elementals might be responsible for much of the energy around us including lightning. One particular source said that they may be responsible for the energy even within our atoms. They also may help with energizing your crystals and stones.
If you have fears concerning elementals and nature spirits due to fairy tales or movies as a child (many of us do), I recommend affirming to yourself that they are kind and always visualize them as such. If something feels wrong assume it is not them, ask and visualize your archangels removing the offending party or energy. If you need more proof that they are here to help go outside on a nice day and see how much better you feel being in nature. I have additional information on how to connect with and notice nature spirits / elements in other blogs on this site or you can sign up for a reading with me to find out more on my psychic mediumship page: www.feathersinfinity.com.
I used to get this question a lot when I first started doing readings and I haven’t encountered it much lately. However recently it’s come to mind that maybe some people still need this question answered.
My clients used to ask me if a love spell that they paid for from another psychic/wiccan worked on their person of interest. In other words would that person love them or react to them more lovingly. Whenever I asked the Archangels, Jesus, or God this question I always received a no. Think about it from this perspective. At some point in your life you’re going to encounter someone who has a romantic interest in you but you don’t have feelings for them. Many times this can be a lesson for them or some sort of motivation to change something in their lives. Whatever their journey is, it is unfortunate and it happens to most of us. Now consider that this person might go and pay someone to cast a spell on you so that you love them back. How would that make you feel? Many times I hear psychics talk about free will and it has been a constant question in my mind how much free will really exists and how much we’re being led through our feelings that are created by God or our angels. In any case, to get to the point, I think that there are number of reasons why whatever these people have paid for doesn’t work. It may have to do with free will, that we are protected at all times or that this person has a lesson to learn. In summary, it doesn’t look like these “spells” work, however they are delivered (no I don’t know how to do a love spell so don’t ask), so save your money.
Instead I would highly recommend you do healing on yourself. Throughout the years as I did healing on myself I found that more people found me attractive. I think this is because I’ve risen my vibration, I’m happier on the inside and outside, and I make others feel better around me. That’s the best advice I can give you, is to rather heal yourself internally rather than send energy outward towards someone else. Your conscience will thank you and you’ll have one less thing to forgive yourself for later, not to mention way more options for Romance. 😉
I’ve been using candles to help manifest the things that I desire for a number of years now and found them to be wonderful, positive tools. Some people tell you to buy expensive candles through metaphysical stores although I’d have to say most of the candles I use are tealights and 7 day candles (that really only last 3 days) that you find in grocery stores with pictures of Archangels or ascended masters on them. I’m going to share with you some ways that I use candles to help manifest the things I desire.
I use a number of tealights throughout the day for boosting my psychic mediumship abilities, financial abundance, losing weight, and for blessings to others when they ask for it. During full and new moon cycles I usually light three to four candles to ask for my main goals (vision boards) and then surround them with a full chakra set of Crystals and Stones. When you do intend to use candles to manifest things that you desire first start off blessing your candles either with Reiki or asking God to bless your candles. Then ask God to remove any negative energy when using or manifesting the candles that may have happened either when you’re praying or during the manifesting process (sometimes negative thoughts creep in). End with please and thank you for intention and visualize this happening. When I visualize the negative energy leaving I see a colors other than blue, white or green leaving the candle and God putting it in a vat of gold to transmute into positive energy. Then visualize God replacing the energy in the candle with green, blue or white light. Start off with two prayers and hold your candles when you are saying these prayers, I usually do the Our Father and the Hail Mary but you can use whatever to prayers you’re comfortable with. Then after you are finished with your prayers you ask for what you desire but in an appreciative tone as if you already have what you desire. For instance, “thank you for my new job”, “thank you for making me a protected clairvoyant and intuitive psychic medium”, “thank you for my financial abundance”, “thank you for helping me lose fat”, and “thank you for the great clients of customers I have”. Once you’ve decided on what you are going to ask for, say it out loud while holding the candle three times in a row. Number 3 is significant; think of the Trinity or the triquetra and other religious & spiritual symbols associated with the number three. After you have asked for what you wanted, light the candle and then end with two prayers.
Green candles are great for using when you are attempting to manifest abundance, money, or luck. I usually light 1 to 3 green candles a week to manifest financial abundance for myself. A lot of people ask for abundance in their lives but if it’s really money that you want not just more stuff I recommend asking for financial abundance. You can also ask for a new job using the green candle with Saint Judas Tadeo on the front that you can find in the tortilla section of your local grocery store. White candles are great to use around the house for safety and protection. Blue candles have been used in the past for healing. Some individuals put additional spices such a cinnamon or essential oils on top of the candle before they light it; this adds additional intention and can be useful as well. I have only used cinnamon, frankincense, and some other oils in the past. I do find them helpful and fun to add to the process. There are whole books and blogs written on the different spices and oils that can help you manifest what you desire so I would recommend Googling what you’re looking for, whether that is abundance or weight loss or healing, to find the right combination of candle color and other associated spices & oils.
An additional tip is to put your candles in areas of the house that have been denoted by feng shui as areas good for abundance or love depending on what you’re asking for. The south west corner is supposed to be good for your love life.
Sea salt baths are excellent ways to cleanse negative energy out of your system including your etheric field and reseal it with positive energy. As an empath I tend to take on a lot of energy from other people. While energy healing certainly does help, a sea salt bath cleanses as well and is something everyone can do regardless of where they are in their spiritual journey. Put about a handful of sea salt in your tub and soak in it for about an hour. Use your judgement on how long to stay in the tub, if you are highly sensitive you will be able to tell or you will just know. Once done, get out of the tub and rub apple cider vinegar all over yourself. Then rub camomile tea all over next. Take a shower to rinse off the vinegar and tea. These last two steps additionally strip, cleanse and reseal the energy field around you. I wouldn’t recommend just taking a sea salt bath without these additional steps. After taking the bath you’ll notice that you feel much better and have more energy. That is because you are carrying less negative energy around with you and your energy field is repaired. Not only is this good for you physically and spiritually, but you’ll find that taking the extra time out for yourself can be a lovely break during the week that you look forward to. Be sure to soak the vinegar bottle in the tub with you to keep it warm for when you get out of the bath. Make it fun for yourself by adding rose petals, candles and fragrances to your bath time.
There are many ways to keep your vibration high. Something every one can do regardless of where you are on your spiritual journey is eat less processed foods or foods with a barcode, and eat more organic. The less sugar, caffeine and carbs which turn into sugar is best. Eat more fruits and vegetables and animal products with less hormones and where the animal was treated better when it was alive. If you are adept at energy healing such as Reiki it helps to clear your main chakras once a day if not every other day. There is also any excellent Youtube video out there that gives you 20 ways to raise your vibration which is quite excellent (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQ5Oy4Ja9fI). Some of the examples is to look at something beautiful, smell one of your favorite smells, practice mudras, write down what you are grateful for, listen to music you love, give something to someone else, listen to music in 528hz, listen to ancient chants, do yoga, and breathe more deeply. Another thing I have learned that heals and helps with your vibration is imagining a blue light around you and breathe that in imagining the blue light filling your entire inner body. Try some of these out and you’ll feel the difference.
I was in the same situation not too long ago. I had to lose some weight and every diet that was effective required some sort of salad everyday if not every meal. So how do you go from loving sandwiches, meat and carbs to salad? I can tell you from personal experience that it can be done and over time you’ll find you’ll start craving salads too. The key is to make it fun for you and to transition slowly. What I mean by transitioning is start by integrating the foods you now love into the salad. For me, I love cheesesteaks so I started off making these big cheesesteak salads, with real steak, cheese, red onion and a balsamic dressing. I got the idea from a cafe I used to frequent. They had this salad on their menu and I started making it from home. Eventually you’ll learn to integrate all kinds if your favorite things into salads, like tuna or chicken salad, cranberries, sunflower seeds, olives, hummus, fajita meat and cheese. Eventually you’ll be able to have less and less meat and cheese and your waistline will show the results of your ingenuity. Need more help to control the cravings because you know they come from more than just the food? I have a special energy healing technique that I’ve used on myself and I’m willing to help you too. Visit my readings page above and schedule a reading with me. I provide this healing over the phone or in person. I’ve lost 120 pounds so far, and so can you.
It is very important to cleanse and energize your crystals regularly. How often you need to cleanse your crystal depends on how often it is used. If you meditate with your crystal you’ll notice that the vibration may not be as strong as it has been over time. If you hold your crystal in your left hand, ask it if it is cleansed and energized, and it doesn’t vibrate, it’s probably time to cleanse that crystal. One way to cleanse and energize is to put your crystals in the sun and moonlight for 24 hours (except amethyst, only use moonlight for amethyst). This removes any lower energy and energizes the crystal. Another method is to put your crystals in sea salt water from 4-24 hours depending on how much you’ve used your crystal. You have to be careful with this method because there are certain crystals that you can’t put in water or they’ll disintegrate like selenite. If you are unsure of your new crystals preferred cleansing method, you can always google “metaphysical” and the crystal’s common name. You can also use any number of vibrational instruments such as tuning forks, singing bowls, bells and cymbals to cleanse your crystals. Burning sage & sweetgrass and waving the smoke over your crystals is also recommended for removing negative energy and replacing it with positive. Enjoy your new crystals!