Soul Mates and the Stages of Grief

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Sometimes all you have to do is go through a rejection by someone in order to enter into a grieving period. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting.

The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.

Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.

If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. This can help push me past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.

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Psychic Medium Andrea

Feng Shui, Basics

Feng shui can get pretty complicated, so this blog is to focus on the basics, for beginners. If you’d like to dig deeper I recommend any of the many books found in your local library or Amazon.

Basically, Feng shui is more than how to just rearrange your furniture, its about bringing good energy and luck to you, and protect you from the inauspicious. Experts say there are energy lines that are auspicious (good luck) and some that bring shar chi (bad luck). I got into it intuitively when I started wondering if there was a more passive way to bring me positive energy and good luck in my life.

Wealth

Wealth is probably the most asked about but as I write this I’ll remind you to find balance by reviewing and paying attention to all areas and sides of your home to bring peace and overall happiness. Place in the southeast area of your home any or all of the following:

  • Affirmations list such as “I enjoy what I already have and own”, “I am rich”, “I am financially abundant.”
  • Water fountain or a representation of water (picture, cup of water, color blue). If you use water refresh it every 2-3 days.
  • Wood in the form of a live plant; but no dead wood or drift wood, no dead or wilting plants
  • Abundance Crystal grid – youtube videos online on how to construct these
  • Green and prosperous plant (not cactus or spiky plant)
  • Avoid putting : metals, fire

Fame

For success and positive energy in Fame, or as I put it a positive reputation, put the following in the South area of your home:

  • Positive affirmations about your fame such as “People like me”, “People speak well of me”, “I have a positive reputation”
  • Fire (lit candles) or pictures of fire
  • An image or statue of the Phoenix, particularly auspicious if you are a rooster year (as the author is)
  • Avoid putting in the South corner: water

Career

For success and positive energy in career put the following in the North area of your home:

  • Positive affirmations about your career such as “My career is successful”, “I am good at what I do”, “I appreciate my career”
  • Yellow candle for intelligence if intelligence is used in your profession
  • A bell for success
  • A turtle to represent the celestial turtle
  • Water or representions of water

School and learning

If you are in school or have children that are, or you are continually improving on your own education, put on the NorthEast corner of your home:

  • Yellow candle for intelligence
  • Quartz
  • Positive affirmations such as “I learn easily”, “I am intelligent”, “Others know I am intelligent”, “I do excellent in school or better”

Love

When I did this, no joke, someone asked me out on a date within 24 hours. To bring more love, relationships or marriage into your life put into the southwest corner of your home or room:

  • The color red
  • Fire (I have a red candle)
  • A list of positive qualities you bring to your relationship
  • Positive affirmations about your relationships such as “I have a successful loving relationship”, “I am attractive”, “I have a long term, compatible relationship now”
  • The double happiness symbol
  • The red Chinese knot
  • A list of qualities you are looking for in a partner (be realistic)

Mentors

Good mentors can launch your career or improve other areas of your life such as romance or fame. To bring good or better mentors into your life but in the northwest corner of your home the following:

  • Quartz crystals
  • A list of what you look for in a mentor
  • Metal
  • Positive affirmations about your mentor(s)

Health

For better health for yourself and your family put in the East side of your home:

  • Affirmations for areas you want to improve such as “I enjoy exercising”, “I can fit exercise into my schedule”, “I eat healthfully”
  • Pictures of healthy food
  • Pictures of healthy people with healthy bodies that inspire you
  • Wood, bamboo, no dead wood
  • Pictures of you healthy and happy

Children & Family

To improve areas in your life concerning children or family put in the West side of your home:

  • Something Metal
  • Wind chime
  • No wood
  • Pictures of children if you want children
  • Positive affirmations concerning your children or family

Celestial animals

There is a whole philosophy on how your home should be situated in a Valley between mountains and that the Green Dragon Mountain to the north should be higher than the White Tiger Mountain to the south. Mostly bringing in these celestial animals is an additional way to bring in positive Chi, protection, and clairity into your home and life. If you would like to bring the celestial animals into your home the green dragon should be on the east side, the white tiger should be on the West Side, the turtle should be on the North side and the Phoenix should be on the south side. Some say you should picture in your mind a yellow snake and the center of your home as well. I have pictures of these beings in my home but you can also purchase ceramic figurines and pictures online as well.

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For the most part these Celestial animals can provide protection as well as stable positive Chi for the home.

There are other aspects of Feng shui that involve the position of your furniture and goods in your home as well as what to do about Corners that are inauspicious. Much of it has to do with balance so be aware of having too much of one color or having too much light in one room and not enough light in another. There are many good books out there if you want to learn more about feng shui, go with your intuition when choosing one best for you.

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Clairaudience blocks and imbalances

I had a client come to me for problems with her love life. So I was helping her with her love life I got a vision that sometimes she hears negative voices. She told me her solution was to say “Return to Sender”. We started to talk about her clairaudience a bit and it was explained to me through the reading that she has some blocks and imbalances on her side chakras and meridians. Then they showed me an image of a donut and I got concept that we spend a lot of time healing our front and back chakras and meridians, but we don’t always pay attention to the sides. Donuts will be more tan on the front and back but their sides will be a lighter color due to less direct contact with the oil while cooking (see image). So I relay this information to her to heal her side chakras’ and meridians’ blocks and imbalances that will help with the backups of negative energy that her system may be interpreting is negative voices. I have also noticed when you concentrate on healing the sides that it helps you better ground to Mother Earth, therefore release some of other people’s energies, and help you focus.

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Grounding, Basics

When I first started my metaphysical journey no one really emphasized grounding. The higher chakras were the rock stars that received a lot of attention as everyone was looking to receive more higher guidence from the divine. I found that my life had shifted a lot, and prefering stability, I looked for an answer. The other common side effect of lack of grounding is a lack of mental clarity, where it is hard to concentrate and focus as you used to (light headedness). I was in finance so this was inconvenient. Here are some common symptoms:

-Loss of focus

-Feeling less intelligent

-Swift changing moods

-Hunger that can’t be satisfied

-Feeling more drained or fatigued than you’ve ever felt

-Anxieties that are not explainable

-Feeling everything and everyone around you

I talk a lot about grounding, and I’ve included additional methods and modes in the past, but I haven’t done a basic grounding blog as I figured it has been covered quite a bit on the internet. However, it has come up multiple times this past week so I decided to get it done. There are many YouTube meditations on this as well.

Do this when you get up in the morning and whenever you feel you are getting less grounded again. Grounding does not negatively affect your metaphysical abilities, think of it as you are washing them off in a waterfall, washing away the psychic “dirt” and when you come up again you can see clearer. Hopefully that helps some of you with your fears of grounding. If you have other fears of grounding, ask your archangels to heal them on all levels before you go to bed for the next 7 nights.

Method:

Close your eyes and visualize roots from the core of the earth coming up to your legs and your legs turn into a trunk of a tree. Visualize the rest of your body turn into the branches and the leaves, extending into your energy field and your energy field turning a dark green as well as the rest of your body. Dark green as in the color of spinach, as a lighter green means less grounded and can be used in readings to stay grounded and high vibrational. Ask your energies out loud to be grounded for the next 8 hours or for however long you’re going to be out and about. You should feel your feet become heavier, less light like putting on heavier boots and they should stay that way for the length of the time you ask. The other thing you can do is ask God to turn down your clairsentience to a level that’s more comfortable for you for that same amount of time so you’re not feeling the electronics, the people, the energy around you which is really too much information. I watch a hand turn a knob all the way to the left until it clicks, meaning it is turned down low or off depending on what you want. Remember you have your intuition and really that is what you want to use when you are out and about as it is less confusing. It is a “knowing” of what you want to do or go.

The other thing I recommend is use my “modes” as explained in my previous blog here: feathersinfinity.wordpress.com/2018/01/25/empathy-modes-dealing-with-your-clairsentience/

There are other guided meditations for grounding online but they do take rather a long period of time. In the morning I usually like to get going, so you can do this in the shower or in bed.

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When He’s Not Telling You How He Feels

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I do many readings for others and a lot of my readings are situations where a woman is attracted to a guy and keeps good contact with them but he’s not revealing his feelings enough to her. Clients often ask me why they have this pattern where the man is not revealing his feelings enough in the relationship. Some of this can be explained by Attachment Theory as someone is attracted to another person who is what they call an “avoidant” and it makes the client very anxious waiting for some sort of validation of his feelings in a verbal sense. Also look into your past. Were you ever in a situation where someone expressed emotion from the get-go and you were turned off and even ran away? Did you find yourself saying things like “oh he’s needy”, “oh he’s insecure”, “he’s desperate” or “he’s a stalker”. Be careful what you’re telling the universe when you are approached by someone who is open with emotion who does let you know how they feel. If you feel negatively about someone who expresses themselves openly then that in a way can explain why you’re in the situation you are in. If you’re attracted to those who do not openly express emotion in the beginning and turned off by those who do openly express emotion you may continue to be in relationships with those that have trouble expressing affection and love.

Some clients ask me how do I stop this pattern of being with these guys that don’t openly express their feelings. My recommendation is two fold. First reverse you’re thinking and reactions when you encounter someone who openly shows emotion. If you find yourself taking a step back in fear the problem may not be the person that is expressing themselves; it may be time to look at why you’re uncomfortable with someone showing you affection. The second recommendation is to look for either a behavioral psychiatrist who can do some sort of hypnotherapy on your subconscious or a Theta healer who essentially does the same thing but on multiple metaphysical levels including past lives, soul level, current life and genetic levels. My own Theta Healing also concentrates on the mind or mental level as well as the Akashic records. Theta healing removes the negative beliefs and fears that cause you to react this way and replaces them with something more positive and in line with what you really want.  I was led to add mental and akashic records healing to my Theta while doing readings for others and seeing the need. If you’d like to look at some of my energy healing options feel free to look on my website here www.feathersinfinity.com/energy-healing.html.  They can be done over the phone or in person just as effectively.  I also do Mediumship readings here: www.feathersinfinity.com/readings.html.

Energy Healer Paradox: How to Stop Attracting more of What or Who you don’t want

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Have you noticed since your spiritual awakening and healing path you continue to have relationships with those who drag you down or need healing? Do you just want a relationship with someone that has their “stuff” together and not in need?

I’ve been energy healing for years, and much of my readings/healing are about relationships. I found the same pattern occurring in my life where those I would date or court me would be people that would either show me things I needed to heal or need healing themselves. I knew there were people out there in better places in their lives and after so much healing over many years I knew I should be attracting someone great that didn’t drag me down.

During a reading for a client the answer was revealed to me by the angels. We put so much action, thought, and energy into healing, we were attracting more healing, either of ourselves or others. Remember, Law of Attraction. So essentially I and this other healer were attracting more people who could show us what we needed to heal or people who we could heal.

Healers: time to take back your life. You want the life you were healing for, not to be constantly healing. It is good to heal. Realize that if you get into the position of continually healing your life you are putting energy into “my relationships aren’t good enough”, “my life needs healing”, “I need to heal my life to feel better”, “my life isn’t good enough yet so I need to heal it”, “I’m not good enough” or “my life isn’t good enough yet”.

Solutions / Alternative actions:

  • Take a break from healing for a while. Let the dust settle and enjoy the benefits. Notice the positive changes and concentrate on them. Do lists or meditations on what is going right in your life, not into what needs to improve.
  • Get into a meditative state, and visualize you’re sitting across from God and ask God to pull the energy you’ve put into things/people not going right in your life and replace with better energy, such as “my life is great”. I visualized this as a cloud of black/brown energy, God removing it, transforming it into a little green cloud in a large vat of green transmuting energy, and then replacing it where it was taken from with a new set of green energy.
  • Then take time to visualize your life going great right now. This can be a combination of you visualizing what is actually going right as well as things that you wish were going well as if they were. Visualize your goals becoming true now. You’ve put so much thought into what is not right, time to put on the brakes and go in a better direction. When I type this I see a car going down a dusty, rough, long road into grey energy, and turning 90 degrees onto a road with a bright horizon and beautiful colors.
  • If you continue to heal do the above steps again every once and awhile to correct your course. I try to visualize my day going well and smoothly every morning.

New healer’s tip: I’ve noticed lately with big projects where you are healing something with a large surface area it is helpful to “zoom out”, perceive this “problem” as small, then it is easier for the energy to transform because you’ve gotten around the belief that this issue is too big, but rather it is small. Then zoom back in on the energy and see the energy transformed but at a faster pace because you perceived it as small. Think of how big the universe is, and then mentally realize that this issue, or opportunity area, is actually quite small for God to heal.

Mood lotion, how to relieve some anxiety

I wanted to impart some knowledge I gained over the weekend that really helped me to relax and unwind after a long, active week. I can fill up my day with a lot of activities and sometimes it helps to have a way to relax mentally as well as physically. For those of you dealing with anxiety or with muscle aches or pains this should help you out. I learned online that you can use essential oils specifically lavender, eucalyptus, and peppermint to help relax your muscles and joints. Essential oils work on multiple levels and in multiple ways.

I already had these essential oils available to me as I use them for my candle manifesting. All three are good for healing when using them in conjunction with your candles. Peppermint has the added benefit of increasing more positive energy both in the environment as well as when you inhale it. I also drink mint and peppermint tea help me relax.

How to: So essentially what I did was I took some lotion and I combined it with two drops of each of these essential oils, peppermint, lavender, and Eucalyptus. Then I stirred the lotion together to combine with the oils and I rubbed the lotion from shoulder to toe. That felt really good by itself but then I drew a nice warm bubble bath with some mineral salts and laid in there for at least 15 minutes. As I was laying with my lotion on I could really feel the lotion working with the essential oils.

If you can’t find these essential oils near you then have them delivered to you to your door. I like to use Amazon and here are some direct links to Amazon so you can get these essential oils. This one is a great deal because it includes all three as well as orange which is great for love & relationship manifesting with candles.

Lagunamoon Essential Oils Gift Set,Top 6 Aromatherapy Oils Orange Lavender Tea Tree Peppermint Eucalyptus Lemongrass

Why is he not calling and what you can do about it. Attachment Theory

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Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:

– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run

I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.

It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.

The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.

In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of these):

  • The anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.
  • Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
  • Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.

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Elementals Series I: The Fire King

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I was visited by an elemental king of fire the other day. He’s been making himself known pretty prominently for the past couple days. So during my next reading I asked what he is responsible for or what he helps out with. I felt a warm sensation on my face and on my arms so through a series of questions I found out that they can warm an area or body part such as when we get upset, embarrassed or angry we’ll feel our face get warm or prickly (fire elementals specifically). I also asked if they’re responsible for creating many of the sensations throughout my body I’ve been experiencing since I took Reiki and I saw clairvoyantly that all the Elementals have something to do with the sensations we feel. When I asked to be cooler during a hot part of the day I first asked for water and that didn’t quite do it. Then I saw the word “air”, so I asked for air and then I cooled down. As the years have gone by I have clairvoyantly seen as well as intuitively received that some of these feelings are controlled by elementals and nature spirits. Over the years I would ask about different sensations and the answers were consistently elementals or nature spirits rather than my angels. For a week or two after this meeting I wanted to know more about what Elementals do to help us out. After looking through some sources of information seems like they clean up a lot of negative energy in different areas on Earth. In a reading I asked why are they creating some of these unusual sensations such as prickling, warming, heaviness and I received that they wish to help out. One way they can help out is by allowing us to feel the blocks and imbalances that need to be healed by creating some of these sensations in our body and around us. Affirmations, meditation and energy healing such as theta, crystals and Reiki can remove those blocks and imbalances. Energetic blocks can be indicators of what beliefs you have about yourself and the world around you as well as the chakras/meridians/energy fields that need to be cleansed or healed. Know that this is only part of what they do to help us raise our vibration. Use it as an indication that something is out of balance and get your metaphysical tool belt out to clear some stuff out. As we heal, we raise our vibration.

Common issues:

Fatigue – Wow, this can be multiple things. The simplest answer I can give you is clear the root chakra, or carry a red stone in your pocket. The root chakra seems to be one of the major energy boosting centers. Also imagine red energy in your legs down to your feet while exercising, I’ve noticed this gives me an energy boost. Fatigue could also be someone else’s energies stuck in your energy field. In this case say mentally this is not me and the energy will go away. If it is a block, do a clairsentient body scan and see where the energy is concentrated, then clear chakras and meridians on the spot as well as above and below. The other common reason is lack of enthusiasm, use affirmations for this (“I am enthusiastic about life”, “Love and Joy runs through my arteries and veins”) because sometimes we have to do things we aren’t always thrilled with.

Mental slowness, lack of mental clarity – First check both sides of your throat including the area where the spinal cord meets the skull. Also check chakras in the middle of your head, behind the nose and in the back of your mouth. Second, Ground! Do a great grounding including grounding the back chakras, each of your joints in arms, shoulders and legs. Grounding helps with mental clarity and focus when out of a reading.

Here is a summary of solutions to clear some of the discomfort, fatigue or blocks:

1. Apprecition – say out loud what you appreciate, even if it is materialistic, like “I appreciate my bed, I appreciate my TV, I appreciate the beach…”

2. Mediation with crystals – I highly recommend full chakra sets with grounding stones for your legs. I practice what I preach and sell full sets which include stones for your legs and feet (go here: www.ebay.com/usr/all1059). The additional leg stones can help with anxieties, stress and help you have a more clear flow of energy. I have seen no one else provide a full chakra set which includes feet and knee chakra stones. They really make a difference.

3. Affirmations – Louise Hay has a book, “How to heal your life” that gives you affirmations for the areas where you feel discomfort. Also there are many affirmations on the internet if you google “knee pain affirmation”.

4. Energy healing – Crystals, theta or Reiki as well as many other modalities can help you restore balance and peace.

I saw in my reading that elementals and nature spirits would like to be known for what they do to help. They help us throughout the day, either by being our guides through feelings as well as cleaning up the energy around us. An excellent way to feel better is to take a walk outside in nature and you’ll instantly realize how much better the energy is. The other thing I saw clairvoyantly in my reading clearly when I was asking about fire Elementals was lightning. After perusing some of the sources about Elementals I saw them mention lightning as well. I read that fire Elementals might be responsible for much of the energy around us including lightning. One particular source said that they may be responsible for the energy even within our atoms. They also may help with energizing your crystals and stones.

If you have fears concerning elementals and nature spirits due to fairy tales or movies as a child (many of us do), I recommend affirming to yourself that they are kind and always visualize them as such. If something feels wrong assume it is not them, ask and visualize your archangels removing the offending party or energy. If you need more proof that they are here to help go outside on a nice day and see how much better you feel being in nature. I have additional information on how to connect with and notice nature spirits / elements in other blogs on this site or you can sign up for a reading with me to find out more on my psychic mediumship page: www.feathersinfinity.com.

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Cleansing your energy fields

Ever feel a little funky after leaving a store or coming from outside? Most likely your aura and energy fields need to be cleansed. This procedure is pretty easy.

First imagine angels or God removing all the energy from inside your body. They place what was removed in a large vat of green healing energy and it turns green. Then replace your body with green healing energy. Then repeat the same procedure for each layer of your field around you, one closest to you, then the middle, then the outer ring. If you see any black, brown, red or orange spots still after that have them removed and replaced.

This is also very useful if you do psychic mediumship. Think of it as your windshield and you want to see & feel clearly out of it every once and a while make sure it sparkles.

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