Did you know you can apply the 5 love languages to your plants at home?
I figured this out through experience, without really trying to apply the five love languages I noticed as I spent more time with my plants doing activities other than just watering them, they would grow better, faster and would survive longer. Before I started applying these methods I would lose more plants or they would wilt quicker.
At first, I was taking the advice of someone else and trying to use positive energy to help my plants with the re-potting process so they would survive longer (before this they often died shortly after the process). I found, like good feng shui, the positive energy uplifted the feeling of my home but also found it helps the plants grow faster and greener leaving you with a beautiful garden! There was a statistical difference in how many plants survived between when I applied these methods versus before when I just would water them.
Many of you have read the book The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. If you haven’t, its a very good book and describes the 5 possible ways you can send and receive love, usually written in the context of a person. Not everyone has the same primary way to send or receive love, they can differ and this is why you can have couples sending love to their partner but their partner doesn’t feel loved. For instance, one client’s way of sending love was working hard to provide for home and family, but their partner may want quality time, so at times there was resentment from the lack of personal time spent.
The 5 Love Languages
- Affirmations – Tell your plant it is doing well, that is is growing well, that it is pretty or handsome, thank it for being there. Tell it to get along with other plants particularly the little ones that are new. Just like a puppy, use a nice tone. This has an energetic effect and raises the vibration around you. I used to say “yay!” with dogs (not necessarily with cats) and they would become instantly happy. I find it uplifts your energy and the energy around you as well. I feel a big difference with the plants for hours after I give affirmations to a group of plants. You may feel odd, but if you want positive energy in your home and you are willing, try it while the husband or wife is away.
- Quality time – I don’t think plants need a ton of time but the act of you paying attention, talking to them, watering them is all quality time. After you’ve raised the positive energy then you may want to sit in that energy and enjoy the benefits. Think of plants as little sponges of energy, make sure you make it positive and you can enjoy it for some time later. Someone recommended playing music for them, I’ve found plant healing frequency music on YouTube or you can choose something you intuitively think is best for the mood you want to feel around your home.
- Physical touch – I was doing this without really thinking about it. One of my cypress trees had a branch that extends like an hand to greet me and I would shake it and say something encouraging. That particular plant was dying at first but I was able to bring it back to life. You can see the areas on the branches were they turned brown and then the outer edges of the branches turn green as the new needles came in. After I realized the power of the 5 love languages on my plants, eventually I would touch every plant and use positive affirmations. I wouldn’t over do it, not all plants need a hug or really want too much touching (I don’t hug my plants, I promise).
- Gifts – This is easy, your offerings of water and plant food, new soil at times or even a bigger pot can all be gifts they like. Use positive speaking when doing pot transfers, I used to lose plants while doing this. They call it plant shock. Ever since using the 5 love languages all of my plants have survived pot and soil replacements. You can even ask God to send elementals, kings, queens or nature spirits to help the plant with the transition that is best and highest for both of you so it doesn’t cause plant shock and rapid plant death.
- Acts of Service – Overlapping with gifts, transferring to bigger pots, changing the soil, watering them, trimming them and other plant maintenance can go onto this category.
Now when I buy plants, I talk to them on our way home, even listen to them to get to know them better. Start by talking to them, ask their name or you can name them. Put little labels on them, put pride into selecting their little pots and encourage them when transferring them anywhere. Tell them they will be ok when moving between area or pots. Just as with your pets you think they don’t speak the language but they can get a lot from your tone of voice. Your voice is also determining the energy around you and your plants which puts everyone at ease. Not to mention the spirits who maintain the plants and their energies can understand your meaning. Sincerity is best.
Chapman, Gary D. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Chicago: Northfield Pub, 1995. Print.
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