Top 5 Items to Watch Out for After Becoming a Reiki Practitioner or Energy Healer

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After finishing Reiki you become more sensitive to energy, Chi. I’ve found over the years that those who enter into metaphysical studies may go through a number of trials, although not the same for all, including losing their job, losing their friends, having their love life turn upside down and separating from family. Here are a few tips to add to your items to watch out for and maintain in order for your life to go more smoothly.

1. Feng Shui. Follow this link to go into my blog specifically on this subject for more detail. As you become sensitive to others’ energies you’ll start to notice the energy of your home as well. As good feng shui can benefit you, inauspicious (negative) energy may not. I recommend looking around the home and check the elements (water, metal, fire, wood) you have in each of your corners and sides. I’ve heard of some clients even having tragedies happen to their family members after moving to a new home with inauspicious energy. Good feng shui can bring positive things to you automatically so it is something good to look after for that reason as well. I can also remotely scan your home and tell you of any problem areas you may have. Schedule a reading with me and we can discuss further.

2. Turn off feeling the 2nd and 3rd Plane of Existence for a while. 1st plane is crystals, rocks, soil and other inorganic materials on earth. 2nd plane consists of plants, nature spirits and elementals. 3rd plane is humans and animals. Crystals, shells and other earth, water, fire and air nature spirits work very well in the healing process. However not everything in these planes (plants, animals, humans) are happy or healthy. You might want to turn off feeling these planes after meditation or healing. Need further instruction on how to do this? Schedule a reading with me here, email, text and over the phone readings are available.

3. Clairsentient Maintenance. As you scan, absorb, heal and read others you need to cleanse your energies and return your own back to you. Here is my detailed blog on how to do this.

4. Ask to stop absorbing energies from others. This was revealed to me after a reading and a healing. Ask Archangel Raphael to come to you and have you stop absorbing the energies of others. You may feel the healing around your mid back around the heart and solar plexus. Be calm and allow the healing to continue until you feel it is done.

5. Ground. Can’t emphasize this enough. Think of grounding as washing off your spiritual windshield. When you cleanse the energies of others off of it, you can see clearer and feel more like yourself and less like others. When you are out of healing, meditations, and readings, be sure to do a proper and thorough grounding. This will protect you from weight gain, mania and lack of focus (brain fog). It could save your job and your life path. Follow this link to my grounding article.

Attracting the Wrong Men? Bad Patterns in Your Life? Law of Attraction Healing, Jacob’s Method

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A new healing technique was revealed to me through meditation a week ago that has profoundly affected how I feel and think so I wanted to pass this along.law of attraction not working,law of attraction not working,law of attraction not working
In my readings Law of Attraction has popped up as one reason why some of my clients are having similar patterns in their weight, love life and other undesirable “one step forward, two steps back” patterns.  The other being beliefs and fears, which actually is intertwined with this idea because beliefs may affect how you react, see or “feel” about the situation.

Law of Attraction and Karma Concepts 

When I talk about Law of Attraction what I mean is when we put thought, feeling, action and words towards an idea. The feelings, thoughts and words can the attached to something we do want in our life but also something that may be unfavorable.

Recently when watching a Hindu guru talk about Karma he said that culture has twisted the term a bit into meaning revenge against another when basically it just means “action“. During my readings clients will ask me if those that hurt them will receive something negative in return, essentially if “karma will get them back”, and often times from angels and above I receive a no response.  The reasoning is usually (to sum up generally) because there are various perspectives in each situation and the reasons why we do things that can be varied (energy, lessons, feelings, reacting to beliefs).

I do believe that we have spiritual aids on certain levels that protect us from ourselves and neutralize some of this but some of the patterns are still left behind so that we can notice them. This can bring us to a spiritual awakening or to give us hints on what we still need to heal.

Weight Pattern Healing (Yo-Yo dieting)

When I was healing one of my clients I received the thoughts and feelings they were putting towards losing weight since their pre-teens.  Have you ever looked at a photo years back when you were thinner and remembered at that time the picture was taken you were unhappy with your body weight, but now you would kill to look that thin again?  My client focused on their thighs as early as pre-teens, judging the size and look of them, feeling emotions of disappointment, grief, frustration and sadness.  Over the years she may experienced energy and thoughts around feeling or looking fat, even though she may have looked better back then than she does now.  Essentially my client had been putting thoughts and feelings out there such as “My thighs are big” “I’m fat”, “I’m ugly”, “My thighs are fat”, “My butt is too big”, and so on.

The energy and belief that “my thighs are too big” were repeated in her mind over and over again, even when they were thinner, with a feeling of disappointment since her pre-teens.  Imagine that as a cloud of energy getting bigger and bigger over time as she continued to feel it and think it, even mention it to her friends.  Then imagine energetic forces to “make beliefs come true” affecting how you feel or think, such as “I’m on a diet but really need chocolate cake right now”. Over time these feelings, thoughts and actions create a “cloud of energy” affecting how she felt, thought, acted and what she attracted, creating undesirable patterns.  What psychologists recommend is creating habits, but if you’ve been down that path you have “to be good” and stick to the plan for weeks, resisting strong forces telling you to do otherwise.  With this healing I noticed results with some patterns in less than 24 hours, a big difference and relief.  Less resistance mentally and emotionally to do the things you really want to just because you made choices in the past before you knew about the power of action.

The Jacob LOA Healing Method

When I meditated, a celestial healer by the name of Jacob appeared to me, and gathered the cloud of energy created from undesirable patterns. He put that energy into a bucket, transforming it into a green energy. This essentially heals it or neutralizes it. Then this is replaced with positive beliefs such as “My thighs are thin”, “I am thin”, “I am happy thin”, “I have a healthy body”.  Combined with the feelings of happiness or contentment, these were written as sentences.

Imagine those sentences being written once, then repeated until it forms a square (see attached illustration at top), then repeated over again behind that square until a cube is formed.  Then imagine the cube being repeated until it is a square of cubes, then the square of cubes repeated behind itself creating a cube of cubes, filling the energy that was once the cloud of black energy.  This was the visual representation showed to me as how to replace the negative feelings, actions and thoughts with something more positive.  This cube of cubes of positive energy was then put into another bucket, turned green with fireworks exploding from the bucket, lighting up the sky.  The healing is done when the fireworks stop.  Don’t forget to ground when you are done!

I did some of this healing on myself for different areas of my life and noticed a positive difference within 24 hours for some patterns.  Some example topics that I may have worked on with clients:

  • Suppressing happiness feelings or feelings of Joy to fit in or please others
  • Putting too much thought, energy, love into unrequited love
  • Running away from those interested in me but I’m not interested in (always a mismatch)
  • Dreading working, career, negative beliefs around career
  • Negative feelings towards coworkers, bosses, friends, family, etc
  • Disappointment in relationships, emotions around when romantic interests are disappointing, endings in relationships
  • Relationship fears (disease, death, loss of power, no respect, conflict, communication)
  • Waking up with enthusiasm instead of dread, not wanting to leave bed
  • Choosing healthy foods instead of sugar, unhealthy carbs (actions), replace with being happy with healthy foods and being thinner (this works!!!!)
  • Stacked up energy from the thoughts and words of others that I couldn’t do what I wanted (lose weight, be successful, make money)
  • Fear around the paranormal, reacting out of fear
  • Feelings around weight yo-yoing, size and look of different body parts
  • Caring about what someone thinks and doing what I think they’d want (starts with parents)
  • Using food or drink to celebrate or reward

We may react to instances in our life for various reasons, biological, mental, past lives or social.  That doesn’t mean we are stuck with these negative patterns for the rest of our lives, there is a way to transform the energy just as it can be created.  This is an awesome healing that works. 

This is an original healing method, so please be respectful and reference the author and article when sharing with friends or clients.

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Energy Healer Paradox: Healers Attracting the Wrong Friends and Romantic Partners

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Have you noticed since your spiritual awakening and healing path you continue to have relationships with those who drag you down or need healing? Do you just want a relationship with someone that has their “stuff” together and not in need?  Do you feel fatigued and drained?

I’ve been energy healing for years, and much of my readings/healing are about relationships. I found the same pattern occurring in my life where those I would date or court me would be people that would either show me things I needed to heal or need healing themselves. I knew there were people out there in better places in their lives and after so much healing over many years I knew I should be attracting someone great that didn’t drag me down.

During a reading for a client the answer was revealed to me by the angels. We put so much action, thought, feeling and energy into healing, we were attracting more healing, either of ourselves or others. Remember, Law of Attraction. So essentially I and this other healer that was a client were attracting more people who could show us what we needed to heal or people who we could heal.

Healers: time to take back your life. You want the life you were healing for, not to be constantly healing. Don’t get me wrong, it is good to heal yourself and others. Realize that if you get into the position of continually healing your life you are putting energy into “my relationships aren’t good enough”, “my life needs healing”, “I need to heal my life to feel better”, “my life isn’t good enough yet so I need to heal it”, “I’m not good enough” or “my life isn’t good enough yet”.

Solutions / Alternative actions:

    • Ask the Creator of All that is to cancel, clear, delete the energy you’ve put into healing your friends, family and romantic partners, and replace it with energy of those coming into your life (or already in it) that are stable, good people that you don’t need to constantly “fix”. This shouldn’t affect your business as you are only healing those in your personal life.  I visualized this as a cloud of black/brown energy, Creator removing it, transforming it into a little green cloud.  Visualize those that are stable and not needing major improvement coming to you now. You’ve put so much thought into what is not right, time to put on the brakes and go in a better direction. When I type this I see a car going down a dusty, rough, long road into grey energy, and turning 90 degrees onto a road with a bright horizon and beautiful colors. If you continue to heal do the above steps again every once and awhile to correct your course.
    • Take a break from healing for a while. Let the dust settle and enjoy the benefits. Tell yourself you are good enough now.  Do some grounding.  Notice the positive changes and concentrate on them. Do lists or meditations on what is going right in your life, not into what needs to improve. You may be constantly looking at things that need to be healed or improved and your energies are constantly “on” looking for opportunity areas.
    • Read my article on Empathy and Clairsentient maintenance to remove the energies of others and feel like yourself.

New healer’s tip: I’ve noticed lately with big projects where you are healing something with a large surface area it is helpful to “zoom out”, perceive this “problem” as small, then it is easier for the energy to transform because you’ve gotten around the belief that this issue is too big, but rather it is small. Then zoom back in on the energy and see the energy transformed but at a faster pace because you perceived it as small. Think of how big the universe is, and then mentally realize that this issue, or opportunity area, is actually quite small for God to heal.  This will help with any negative belief systems you may have. 

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Empathy Modes, Dealing with your Clairsentience

As a clairsentient, or empath as some like to refer to it, you may feel a lot of energy from people, places and even inorganic material.  Not all of it is important for us to interpret and can become overwhelming.  One concept that is important to keep in mind is that our energy may pick up some of this energy it is feeling and bring it with you, or it may leave parts of itself behind.  Before you know it you are feeling people and places you have left hours ago!  That is why it is important to do some empathic energy maintenance.

Empathic energy maintenance 

First return everyone’s energy back to them and your energy back to yourself.  Imagine God removing all energies and entities you’ve picked up or absorbed around the world. Friends, family, soul mates, places and clients.  Imagine God releasing them back to where they came from. Now imagine every where your energy may have gone as well, including those you may have read, healed, thought about, even energy in stores you may have stopped by that day. Imagine God’s hand above the Earth vacuuming that energy up transforming it green to heal it and then returning it back to you in healed form.  End with “please and thank you God.”

Grounding, Our Ally Against Brain Fog

When I first started my metaphysical journey no one really emphasized grounding enough. The higher chakras were the rock stars that received a lot of attention as everyone was looking to receive higher guidance from the divine. I found that my life had shifted a lot after my energy healing certifications, and preferring stability, I looked for an answer to keep my abilities but also regain some mental clarity. clairsentience

Here are some common symptoms of being ungrounded:

  • Loss of focus
  • Feeling less intelligent
  • Swift changing moods
  • Hunger that can’t be satisfied
  • Feeling more drained or fatigued than you’ve ever felt
  • Anxieties that are not explainable
  • Feeling everything and everyone around you
  • Headaches or migranes

I will talk a lot about grounding as I went through a difficult time without it, and because my clients still struggle with this concept.  When we are not grounded we kind of float up into this stream of energy connecting us and capture, absorb, and interpret this data.  Some of it we can take down with us.  When we ground, we are returning that back to earth or leaving it up in the stream.  Therefore, when grounded we are interpreting and receiving much less information and can think more clearly.  We can also regain a sense of individuality, and instead of experiencing everyone else’s fear, emotions and cravings, we can just feel like “us” again.  With all of that we regain mental clarity and peace.

The main reasons why clients struggle with grounding include:

  • Fear of loss: Many of them are looking for love, and want to be “present” for any guidance they may receive on their love interest. I remind them that they will still receive guidance intuitively, when you are grounded your angels don’t leave you and can still deliver guidance.  I even receive clairaudient and clairvoyant messages while grounded.  They are also afraid they will lose their “powers” if they ground and go back to being metaphysically asleep.  Not true.  I ground after readings, and if anything readings can be clearer as grounding removes the other clients’ energies from me.
  • Fear of the underworld: Many years ago, the underworld was supposedly in the ground, deep in the earth. This fear is most likely subconscious in your life now, but needs to be removed.  I recommend theta healing or any subconscious healing modality.
  • Fear of being unaware: They are afraid they won’t “feel” people as much and therefore not know when they are in danger. You will still have your intuition, ask God and angels to intuitively guide you so you can have peace and cleansing by being grounded.  From personal experience, feeling less can be a relief for a time.

Do this when you get up in the morning and whenever you feel you are getting less grounded again. Grounding does not reverse your progress on your metaphysical abilities, think of it as you are washing them off in a waterfall, washing away the psychic “dirt” and when you come up again you can see clearer.  If you have other problems with grounding, ask archangels Raphael and Uriel to heal them on all levels before you go to bed for a few nights until you notice a difference.

Method:

First return everyone’s energy back to them and your energy back to yourself as noted at the beginning of the article.  This will help with grounding.

Close your eyes and visualize black cords from your feet extend down until they meet the core of the earth, with mother earth grabbing them and securing them into the core.  I usually ask for this connection to core for 24 hours.  Visualize the rest of your body turn into the branches and the leaves, extending into your energy field and your energy field turning a dark green as well as the rest of your body.  Visualize air blowing away any energetic debris, then a waterfall wash over you to toss energies to the ground where they become soaked into the earth.  Lastly visualize green fire surrounding you and your energy field, dissolving any negative energy or energies that no longer serve you.  Using this process you will have used all 4 elements.  Sometimes I’ll take an actual shower, light candles asking for grounding, open windows for air to blow in and put black stones in my pockets for additional intention.

You should feel your feet become heavier, like putting on heavier boots and they should stay that way for the length of the time you ask. The other thing you can do is ask God to turn down your clairsentience to a level that’s more comfortable for you for that same amount of time so you’re not feeling the electronics, the people, and the energy around you which is really too much information. I watch a hand turn a knob all the way to the left until it clicks, meaning the clairsentience is turned down low or off depending on what you want. Remember you have your intuition and really that is what you want to use when you are out and about as it is less confusing. Intuition is a “knowing” of what you want to do without having to hear or see spiritually.

The other thing I recommend is to go into what I call “Modes”. These are essentially different grounding methods depending on the situation you’re about to enter or be in. Ask God to put you in these modes before you engage in each of these activities.

Reading Mode – After I’m done with a reading as well as when I wake up in the morning I ask God to take me out of reading mode. This makes me less sensitive to the energies around me that I don’t really need to be feeling and helps you feel more grounded and safe. I also find that you’re automatically put into reading mode once you ask God to help you do a reading. I don’t feel like you have to ask to be put into reading mode but I do ask to be taken out of it in the best highest way for me. End with please and thank you for intention. I will often see a door close and be locked with the word “readings” on it along with a time amount that I want to be out of reading mode such as 8 hours.

Travel mode – For any of you in the metaphysical fields that can feel the EMF, static electricity, and radiation around you, planes, cars and airports are not always fun. However, I was told to ask to be put into travel mode before I go on my trip. When I did this I became even more grounded then when I ask to be taken out of reading mode. I can also focus more and have more mental clarity. This is essentially “super grounded” you so you’re not feeling everybody’s “stuff” and not as fearful.

Work mode – If you have found after your spiritual awakening you can’t focus at work and you feel more fatigued this is because you’re feeling the energy from electronics, the people around you and their thoughts as well as the environment. You don’t need all of this information. I would highly recommend asking God to put you in some sort of “work mode” as I would call it, so you can focus more at work and have more mental clarity.  Sometimes your coworker’s energy may be negative for reasons that have nothing to do with work and may have to do with their personal life so it’s not always useful information.

You will still have your intuition in any of these modes. Don’t forget to use affirmations on intelligence and mental clarity for an additional boost in these areas.

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The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken

I was wandering the library looking for something new to read and I found this book with the little chocolate truffle in the front and I thought it looked delicious so I brought it home. I finished this book in about 2 days. The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken,The Good Ones Aren’t All Taken
It describes several personality types and psychological problems that may commonly occur with women that prevents them from having a long-lasting relationship. The author describes these personality types as the following:

+ The Old Faithful – if you stay attached to an ex for an unusually long time comparative to others around you, if you’re feeling like you missed out on your “one true” chance for love, or have beliefs in “The One”

+ The Whirlwind Dater – this is someone who dates a lot but has not settled on one man for a long period of time, this is also someone who has a hard time relaxing

+ The Standstill – this person rarely if ever dates, this can be common with those that are still a virgin or have only had sex a handful of times or less. This person is afraid of anyone finding out how little they have dated or have been intimate and often get embarrassed when someone asks them when was their last date and how often they’ve dated.

+ The Forbidden Fruit Hunter – this person is continually attracted to those that are unavailable or married, they may reject nice guys who show interest that are available, they may come from a single-parent home or has strong emotional connections with their family

+ The Compassionate Rescuer – this person has a hard time saying no to people, they feel like they have to rescue someone or is habitually with someone that they feel needs them, they continually try to stay flexible in order to please others, they give more then they receive in relationships, they are often condescended to or controlled by family or partners

+ The Wanderer – this woman is the life of the party, can make friends very easily but has a hard time staying faithful and hops from one relationship to another, they can get anxious if they’re not in a relationship and like to indulge in things that are pleasurable or celebratory

+ The Uptown Girl – she enjoys compliments and dresses or looks the part so she can get a lot of compliments. They look for men that either have money, status or power.

+ The Runaway Bride – very similar to the movie, this person is somebody that really doesn’t know themselves and doesn’t stay in a relationship very long, they commonly bolt when the relationship gets too serious

The book mainly outlines some common psychological issues that prevent you from seeing the situation as it truly is. One of which that she talks about is subconscious beliefs that are sabotaging you. If you find yourself in a situation after a date or when someone finds you attractive that you start having a lot of negative thoughts then you may need to work on your subconscious beliefs. I recommend using Theta healing which I do provide on my website which has turned much of my life around towards the positive as well as my thinking. Theta can affect Law of Attraction and the type of people that you draw to you as well as how they treat you when they are in your life. It can affect those that are already in your life as well and how they treat you but in a different more positive way. You can find my Theta healing offerings here. Theta healing works on current life, past life, and other soul level beliefs, removing the negative beliefs and replacing it with positive which in turn affects how people see you, how you think and what you attract to you.

Two other of the more common issues that she discusses is the signs that you may have intimacy issues because you are trying to fit in a man’s world so you act professionally when you should act more sexual or feminine to a love interest. Essentially you have not learned how to be feminine, open or sexy and are uncomfortable in that role.

The other common issue she describes is feeling overly responsible for your parents’ happiness, usually one parent over the other. You’ve taken on a role that subconsciously and consciously you will have a hard time separating yourself from. You may enter into a relationship and start wondering, “but who’s going to take care of Mom?”

This is just a quick summary of the book, there are other issues and solutions provided. I highly recommend you get the book from your local library or Amazon to see which of these personality types best describes you. You may be a combination of all the above. Once you’ve figured out your patterns that will give you a launching point to then find the healing modality that best works for you to turn your life and thinking around.

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Why We Want Those Who We Can’t Have and What To Do About It

There are a few psychological and metaphysical reasons why you may be interested in somebody who is either not interested in you or that treats you poorly.

1. You are connecting to their soul energy, you’ve pierced through their outer layers and have gotten to a spiritual side of them that contains unconditional love. As you try to concentrate on other things, thoughts of them pop up in your mind because your energies are communicating. The problem is if on a physical level they are not as aware of this as you are, and are not interested in you in that way, they may not treat you very well or really contact you much at all. This leads me to the psychological problems that can lead to feeling “stuck” on a person.

2. When someone is busy or doesn’t take much interest in us we think that they’re more special or have more value. When someone is busy sometimes we interpret that as they’re more important, that they have more friends, and are more popular than us. We put them on a pedestal thinking they are more rare and harder to get, increasing their “scarcity“, and therefore boosting their value in our mind. This is also why someone who “breadcrumbs” you, in other words only contacts you every once in awhile, can get you addicted to them as well.

3. If you have a pattern of wanting people that are either taken or hard to actually be with in a relationship you may have a fear of your relationships failing. In other words you put yourself in a position where you never actually get together with the person so it can never really fail, thereby avoiding heartbreak, humiliation, social judgement from friends and family. You may have to face the beliefs as to why you don’t actually want to be in a real relationship due to fears of it failing. For this I recommend theta healing, which works on fears and beliefs on a subconscious level, which I can provide over distance on my website here.

4. You get more of a rush mentally with dopamine when you have a roller coaster ride relationship than with a steady one. If you fantasize or are around that person for a shorter period of time you get that jolt of dopamine and then you leave them it allows you to reset so when you come back to them you get that jolt of dopamine again. To stay with them for a longer period of time where it is consistently good doesn’t give you that rush of dopamine after a period of absence.

5. Something feels unresolved or incomplete after you’ve been chasing them for a while? Maybe it feels unbalanced and you want it to feel equal. If you look up the reciprocity principal as I learned in Marketing, people feel obligated to return a favor. In this case you may have given this person a lot of attention, a lot of energetic love, and a lot of your mental time. Your brain wants something back in other words you want reciprocity. The unfortunate instance here is that you just may not get it back. What I recommend is a grief healing to get you to acceptance which I can also provide through my energy healing services on my website.

Recommendations:

1. Compartmentalize – this is a coping mechanism that helps you to focus on things like work and other areas of your life while shelving your romantic life for a while. It helps you not lose your life while you are thinking about or feeling stuck on another person.
2. Watch something that puts you in a better mood – for me this is YouTube videos on comedy, interviews with mentors or animals. Get out of depression and feeling spent or empty from giving them so much love and attention and receiving little back.
3. Date other people – know you’re worth it and receive some of those compliments you are giving to someone else.
4. Work on yourself – psychologically and metaphysically, change how you see the situation. Someone treating you like crud should not be attractive and shouldn’t pull you towards them, instead know intellectually why this is happening to you by reading articles like this or books so when you encounter it you can change the situation and bring someone to you that treats you better. Go to my website, I provide theta healing which work on the fears and beliefs that sabotage you.

Other reads:

+ Attached by Levine, Amir find at amazon.com

+ Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus by Gray, John PhD

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Soul Mates and the Stages of Grief

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Sometimes all you have to do is go through a rejection by someone in order to enter into a grieving period. Many of my clients have been rejected by those they feel are either their soulmates or twin flames. I’ve noticed that many people go through the stages of grief when they are rejected by someone they are attracted to, interested in or in love with. The problem is I don’t think they recognize that are going through the stages, instead they’re just feeling they’re emotions and reacting.

The denial stage is obvious. It’s essentially when you’re in denial and you can’t believe what just happened to you. Sometimes there’s a shock stage before denial but the denial stage is very real. It prevents you from seeing what is really happening, often times our ego wall might come up and we won’t see from the other person’s perspective. Next comes anger which is usually from being in a place of the ego reacting to getting rejected and trying to make up another story (they have issues, it is their fault, something is wrong with them) as well as lashing out at whoever rejected you. This can be in varying degrees, some people may not get that angry and instead get sad (low self esteem) and some people might start thinking about revenge. Bargaining comes around when someone often thinks that this is the only one they have a chance to be with or they’re not going to find someone else that they have a strong feelings for, which is not true, we have multiple soul mates. This can be a very embarrassing, uncomfortable stage that I don’t wish on anyone. They may turn to God or psychics for extreme solutions that they may feel embarrassed about later or when they realize what they asked for or tried to do. During this stage I will often put them in their love-interest shoes. I ask them how would you like it if somebody tried to force you to love them using God or spirits if you were not initially interested? They all calm down at that point and answer that they wouldn’t like it very much. It is an eye opener.

Then I usually share with them a more realistic solution. There’s some excellent books out there such as “The Like Button” that tells you how to gradually get somebody to be more comfortable in your presence or be curious about you. A lot of times this is just being around them, being in the same room, not necessarily always talking to them. A great way to explain this is to use the example of a deer and a bunny in a prairie. When the bunny first enters the prairie the deer might get spooked and run off. Overtime the bunny continues to enter the prairie but stays at a distance, not threatening the deer. This lets the deer know that the bunny is not dangerous because over time the bunny is not actually doing anything harmful. Slowly, the bunny can get closer without spooking the deer. I highly recommend “The Like Button” as well as Dale Carnegie’s “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. Some people may get spooked when you first show that you’re interested in them but it is possible to come back in a less scary manner and over time they can become curious about you, and more comfortable around you. You may become friends or you may become something more, this may just depend on a number of variables on both sides.

If you feel like you’re going through any of these stages of grief I highly recommend that you go through a healing process where you can get to the acceptance stage. I usually call an ascended Master such as Jesus, Mary, or Buddha as well as Archangel Artiya’il while laying down on my bed and ask them to help me get to the acceptance stage with whatever I’m struggling with at that time. Wait and feel much of the healing at the bottom of your lungs to clear before returning to your day.  When the soreness or feeling in your lungs dissipate the healing is done.  This can help push you past the stages of bargaining, anger and depression and into a more peaceful place. When you get to this peaceful place you no longer feel this urge or anguish over wanting to change the situation at any means possible. The sadness and depression go away. Then you’re more open to other options and no longer have that heart block that prevents you from seeing them or considering them.

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Grounding, Basics

One common side effect of being ungrounded is a lack of mental clarity, where it is hard to concentrate and focus as you used to (light headedness). Here are some common symptoms of being ungrounded:

-Loss of focus

-Feeling less intelligent

-Swift changing moods

-Hunger that can’t be satisfied

-Feeling more drained or fatigued than you’ve ever felt

-Anxieties that are not explainable

-Feeling everything and everyone around you

I talk a lot about grounding, and I’ve included additional methods and modes in the past, but I haven’t done a basic grounding blog as I figured it has been covered quite a bit on the internet. However, it has come up multiple times this past week so I decided to get it done. There are many YouTube meditations on this as well.

Do this when you get up in the morning and whenever you feel you are getting less grounded again. Grounding does not negatively affect your metaphysical abilities, think of it as you are washing them off in a waterfall, washing away the psychic “dirt” and when you come up again you can see clearer. Hopefully that helps some of you with your fears of grounding. If you have other fears of grounding, ask your archangels to heal them on all levels before you go to bed for the next 7 nights.

Method:

Close your eyes and visualize black cords from your feet extend down until they meet the core of the earth, with mother earth grabbing them and securing them into the core. I usually ask for this connection to core for 24 hours. Visualize the rest of your body turn into the branches and the leaves, extending into your energy field and your energy field turning a dark green as well as the rest of your body. Visualize air blowing away any energetic debris, then a waterfall wash over you to toss energies to the ground where they become soaked into the earth. Lastly visualize green fire surrounding you and your energy field, dissolving any negative energy or energies that no longer serve you. Using this process you will have used all 4 elements. Sometimes I’ll take an actual shower, light candles asking for grounding, open windows for air to blow in and put black stones in my pockets for additional intention. You should feel your feet become heavier, like putting on heavier boots and they should stay that way for the length of the time you ask. Lastly, visualize any portals open in your home closing (or around you if outside the home). I usually see a field of energy sweep through the home, closing any portals as it scans through like a copy machine.

You can also visualize your home grounding its energy as well. I usually see a forest in the home, with a stream of water in the middle, campfire, lightning bugs in the air, air blowing through the forest rustling the leaves. This way you are incorporating all 4 elements in your grounding visualization.

There are other guided meditations for grounding online but they do take rather a long period of time. In the morning I usually like to get going, so you can do this in the shower or in bed. Also, if you are clairsentient, check out my blog on how to maintain your energies so you can clear more of what no longer serves you.

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When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Tell You How He Feels

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I do many readings for others and many of my readings are with a woman that are attracted to a guy who she keeps in good contact with but he’s not revealing his feelings enough to her verbally. Clients often ask me why they have this pattern where the man is not revealing his feelings enough in the relationship. Many times I will receive that he reveals feelings in others ways as verbal expression can be difficult depending on how he was raised.  Other ways can be acts of service, affirmations, quality time, physical gifts and longer than usual eye contact.  Check out my 5 love languages article for more on this.

 

Some of this can be explained by Attachment Theory as someone is attracted to another person who is what they call an “avoidant” and it makes the client very anxious waiting for some sort of validation of his feelings in a verbal sense.  These personality times have some psychological challenges to work through and can be a difficult partner for someone who gets anxious with separation.

The third reason that comes up is metaphysical.  If you see the same pattern come up in your life where your partners have trouble expressing emotion, law of attraction may be sending you the same person with similar patterns.  Look into your past.  How many people in your life act similarly in ways that bother you?  How much time, attention, action and feeling have you put into these people?  Many times these people were just in you life from the get go, like parents, but over the years you have put energy, thought, feeling and action into people with similar personality traits.   To manifest according to the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Bryne it helps to put thought, feeling, and action behind what you want.  According to this book the law doesn’t really discriminate “bad” versus “good” desires, if you put the energy into it it is possible to get the same thing out over and over again.  Now I do believe that spiritual forces protect us from ourselves but they do show us the same patterns as well so we can correct for it.

Some clients ask me how do I stop this pattern of being with these guys that don’t openly express their feelings. My recommendation is two fold. First reverse you’re thinking and reactions when you encounter someone who openly shows emotion. If you find yourself taking a step back in fear the problem may not be the person that is expressing themselves; it may be time to look at why you’re uncomfortable with someone showing you affection. The second recommendation is to look for either a behavioral psychiatrist who can do some sort of hypnotherapy on your subconscious or a Theta healer who essentially does the same thing but on multiple metaphysical levels including past lives, soul level, current life and genetic levels. My own Theta Healing also concentrates on the mind or mental level as well as the Akashic records. Theta healing removes the negative beliefs and fears that cause you to react this way and replaces them with something more positive and in line with what you really want.  If you’d like to look at some of my energy healing options feel free to look on my website here.   I also do psychic mediumship readings here.

Additional Reading:

The Secret” by Rhonda Bryne

Attached” by Amir Levine

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray

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Do Nothing: Finding Peace

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This past weekend I was doing theta healing on myself, and I was going through areas to work on. At some point I was asked what I wanted. I thought peace.

At some point we’d like to just chill. Not stress, not worry, not feel an obligation to be productive. As I am told by my guides & angels, “to do nothing”. Then when I make up in my mind that I will do nothing, this is “do nothing time”, I relax.

The healing visualization I wanted to impart to you that was clairvoyantly given to me was to imagine a white bubble around yourself and energies. Imagine a dove on it, and the word peace written on it. Relax your muscles and tell yourself this is do nothing time and concentrate on the white dove bubble.

Second, imagine God removing all energies you’ve picked up or absorbed around the world. Friends, family, soul mates, places. Imagine God releasing them back to where they came from. Now imagine every where your energy may have gone as well, including those you may have read, healed, thought about, even energy in stores you have stopped by that day. Imagine God’s hand above the Earth vacuuming that energy up transforming it green as in healing it and and then returning it back to you in healed form. End with please and thank you God.

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Why He is Not Calling and What You Can Do About It. Attachment Theory.

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Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:

– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run

I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.

It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.

The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.

In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of theThe Anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.

  • Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
  • Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.

The Past Is Not Your Future

As you can probably imagine I get a lot of calls at this time of the year, being the new year. People usually want to know if some aspect of their life is better than the year past. Before I get to the main point of this article I do want to say to not wait for the beginning of every year to make your life better. Everyday you can do something that makes you happy. Try your best not to rely on others to make you happy but to do the things that move you or motivate you. Whether that’s playing a game on your cell, watch your favorite TV show, cooking/baking something, taking a walk in the park, going to the zoo, or anything else that makes you happy. Start today, don’t wait for the next month or the beginning of the year to have your happiness or results.  You CAN make yourself happy now. The Past is Not your Future,The Past is Not your Future

The main reason for this article was to address something I commonly hear and to give you the advice I received from the other side. Someone mentioned that they hadn’t dated anyone for years and they couldn’t believe that they would have more than one romantic option in 2018.  The answer that I heard from the other side was the future is not your past. Which is very true. Just because it hasn’t happened for the past 5 years does not mean it’s not going to happen this year. Especially if you’ve been working on yourself, you’ve had some sort of Spiritual Awakening, or you’ve done some energy healing on yourself, you can certainly change your vibrations and what you’re bringing to you. So know that the past is not your future and just because it was a pattern in the past doesn’t mean it’s going to happen in your future.

Have a happy and healthy 2018!

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I’m Lonely, Should I Get a Pet to Fill the Emptiness?

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Nope. Yep, you heard that right.  No.  Why? The reason is because that animal is not going to fill the void or make you feel less lonely enough to resolve the real problem. lonely pet, lonely pet

When I do my psychic medium readings often times I will hear ladies make common jokes that if they don’t meet “him” by the age of 40,50, or 60 that they’ll get 5 cats. I tell them that the animal will not be able to fill their emptiness, instead what can happen is you’ll feel worse because when you look at that cat you’ll realize it was not really what you wanted, not to mention common memes out in social media to make you feel pathetic. You can also fall into resentment when you have to care for the animal and realize while you are scooping their litter or trying to give them pills that this is not the life you were wanting after all. The animal, or even 5 of them, will not fill the emptiness you feel. My clients usually agree after I remind them of this.

What are some solutions instead?

Ask God for the love you need to not feel lonely feel loved every morning.

“God, please send my the best and highest love from you to me so I don’t feel lonely and I feel loved, whole and complete,  Please and thank you.”

– Ask God for an unconditional love download.

“God, please send me your unconditional love.  Please and thank you.”  Wait and feel the healing and love coming through until you feel it is complete.

– Meditate concentrating on the heart chakra (including the chakras along your back) and balancing it with other charkas (I have gorgeous full chakra sets with black tourmaline here: www.ebay.com/usr/all1059)

Think about someone who makes you happy – That can be an imaginary friend, lover or someone else but make sure they make you smile.  If you don’t have someone like this, ask God to send you someone, you’ll be glad you did.

Reach out to an old friend – It can be someone you haven’t spoken to in a while but someone who you are currently on good terms with.  Many of us have those friends we’ve had for years or decades but only talk to once a quarter or once a year and pick up like there was no time between contacts.

Join a meetup group – Meetup.com has great groups of all kinds whether your interest is board games, cards, hiking, bowling, beaches, movies, or food they probably have a group suited to your needs.  Get out there and meet new people!

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What is Ego?

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A lot of people in the metaphysical and psychological community talk about the ego. They describe it as a person or being that is working against us, something to be attacked and conquered. At some point in the middle of my energy healing journey I was questioning that and for whatever reason that didn’t quite jive with me.

I became interested in egos when I found that I couldn’t stay humble or say that I was sorry for something when I knew I should.  It was like a block that prevented me from saying or acting in a certain way, and it was affecting my relationships, keeping me separate from others.

So I asked my angels and God to send me to the right literature that would accurately tell me what is “ego”.  When I scanned through different metaphysical and psychological literature none of it felt right at that time. Usually I am very good at selecting the right books for me so I knew this meant something significant.  Eventually I received clairvoyantly what it was while at work.

What they showed me was that it was a layer in the energy field around people. They showed it as just a black sheet in one of the layers on my back side. It wasn’t a person or spirit, which really made it less scary.  Knowing this I asked God to heal my ego’s in the best highest way for me, ending in please and thank you. Instantly, this helped me by removing the blocks I was experiencing that were preventing me from being humble and from saying I’m sorry. Some people feel like egos actually protect us, and in some ways I can see that because it prevents you from doing things you don’t want to that make you feel low, such as saying you’re sorry. However, it also hinders us as it keeps us disconnected, because people won’t always tolerate arrogance or someone treating them badly without apologizing.  There are times in social situations where you have to act humble, even if you are good at something, to better get along with others.  I would highly recommend most, if not everyone, do this healing.  You can say it verbatim as I’ve listed below:

” God, please heal my ego’s in the best highest play for me, please and thank you.”

Then, if you’d like, visualize a black layer of your energy field being removed and replaced with green healing light.  If you are more of a Clairsentient, or someone who likes to feel their healing, wait until you feel a tingling or warming sensation dissipate. ego

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Love Spells or Magic?

I used to get this question a lot when I first started doing readings and I haven’t encountered it much lately. However  recently it’s come to mind that maybe some people still need this question answered.

My clients used to ask me if a love spell that they paid for from another psychic/wiccan worked on their person of interest. In other words would that person love them or react to them more lovingly. Whenever I asked the Archangels, Jesus, or God this question I always received a no. Think about it from this perspective. At some point in your life you’re going to encounter someone who has a romantic interest in you but you don’t have feelings for them. Many times this can be a lesson for them or some sort of motivation to change something in their lives. Whatever their journey is, it is unfortunate and it happens to most of us. Now consider that this person might go and pay someone to cast a spell on you so that you love them back. How would that make you feel? Many times I hear psychics talk about free will and it has been a constant question in my mind how much free will really exists and how much we’re being led through our feelings that are created by God or our angels. In any case, to get to the point, I think that there are number of reasons why whatever these people have paid for doesn’t work. It may have to do with free will, that we are protected at all times or that this person has a lesson to learn. In summary, it doesn’t look like these “spells” work, however they are delivered (no I don’t know how to do a love spell so don’t ask), so save your money.

Instead I would highly recommend you do healing on yourself. Throughout the years as I did healing on myself I found that more people found me attractive.  I think this is because I’ve risen my vibration, I’m happier on the inside and outside, and I make others feel better around me. That’s the best advice I can give you, is to rather heal yourself internally rather than send energy outward towards someone else. Your conscience will thank you and you’ll have one less thing to forgive yourself for later, not to mention way more options for Romance. 😉

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Destiny, Soul Mates and “Meant to Be”

Original article by Psychic Medium Andrea.  

I get this question a lot when doing psychic mediumship readings for others. “Are we meant to be?”, “Are we destined to be together?” or “Is it written in stone that we are to be together?”  I asked my Archangels and Jesus, who I usually connect to during a reading, what the answer was. It seems like there are several scenarios. One scenario is that two people are meant to meet, meant to be together to produce children who’s souls they are meant to journey with and learn from. In this scenario, they can still stay together or split at the end after the children are produced depending on free will and whether they work out their issues.  Our parents didn’t split as much as later generations because of cultural and familial pressure, not to mention it was much harder to be a single mother before the 1990’s.   The second scenario seems to be that the two are meant to meet in a lifetime, and learn relationship lessons with each other.  It doesn’t always mean they will be together in a romantic relationship but they were still meant to meet, which gets confusing to many of my clients.  The connection feels so strong they think the connection itself will do the work for them.  The length of the relationship in this latter scenario seems to rely more on whether they work on their issues.  Put into the mix people’s own pride, beliefs and fears and the relationship becomes more complex.

Many times I do receive that two people were meant to meet, but they may not always work out usually due to communication issues. Communication issues, commonly the lack of expressing emotion, feelings and their interest for the other person, is one of the most common scenarios I run into in relationship readings to date. Many of these issues arise from societal and cultural beliefs that we pick up from many different sources such as family, friends, media, movies and co-workers.  Many parents still tell boys to not show emotion, although hopefully that is taking a turn for the better from what I’ve seen of the millennial generation. This leaves many women wondering what their men think and want.  It leaves them frustrated, especially in the world of texting where women expect an immediate answer to their text as we know our cell phones are near us most of the time. We also tell ourselves to be independent and not rely on others, creating the anxious/avoidant (push/pull, chase/run) dynamic seen in attachment theory.  Other common scenarios I encounter is one person wants the other to reach out as they are too afraid to reach out themselves and not receive an answer (fear of rejection). If one person feels this way it is very possible the other person is feeling the same, leaving them in a stalemate.

To sum up, watch out for areas that you can learn and grow, be honest with compassion, and communicate out your problems with your partner in a wise, empathic way. Look past pride to see both sides of the issue and don’t rely on “meant to be” to carry your relationship until death do you part.

Original article by Psychic Medium Andrea.  Do not copy or distribute without author’s permission.

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Client’s Love & Relationship Question

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LOVE & RELATIONSHIP QUESTION

A client the other day asked me why her relationship not working out if she and her love interest had so much in common.

The answers I received from spirit were two-fold.  One, soul connections are brought into our lives and there is often a purpose to it.  You may pick up on the uniqueness of the connection, however that doesn’t mean it will work out forever, or “til death do you part”.  Sometimes you learn something from them and move on.  Both partners need to work through their issues.  Spirit showed me paths splitting due to a fork in the road; in other words your life paths may not be parallel for the rest of your lives and it can cause a struggle or feeling of incompleteness later in the relationship.  Some couples, including soul connections & Soul Mates, are short term for various reasons.  The second message I received was to discuss my parents.  My parents have been married over 51 years and still going strong.  They are almost complete opposites; one extremely logical and the other very good at expressing her emotions.  In some ways they make up for what the other lacks and can be a very good paring.  Sometimes they don’t understand each other at all, but they accept it, or ask their children what the other means as we have become translators for each side.  They make it work doing their own thing as they are very independent people with unique interests.

Society today, probably because of movies and other forms of entertainment, make us feel that we are to match up and be completely like our mate, however 50+ years ago the opposite was believed.  The full spectrum of similarities and differences can work out potentially.  If you have differences, great!  That could make it interesting for you and they can turn out to be helpful to you in the future.

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Ending Negative Relationship Cycles you Feel Stuck In

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Are you seeing cycles or patterns in your relationship that don’t seem to stop no matter what you do? Do you feel chained to someone with no relief in sight?  You may have a karmic debt with this person.  We can have many past lives with someone, and when you feel you are in a negative cycle with someone that you feel you can’t get out of, then it would be a good idea to cut the cords to the past.  This stops the negative cycles with someone and that chained feeling, not necessarily your relationship with the person.

How to cut cords to the past:
-Close your eyes
-Take three deep breaths
-Go up into space and pretend you are meeting God, in an area where there is only light
-Ask God to cut any past negative karmic cords you have with that person
-Give it some time to work, wait for a warming or tingling sensation to end
-When you feel or think it is complete you can open your eyes

This will cut any past negative karmic cords or debt you have with this person and the seemingly unending cycles of grief, sorrow and control can end.

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Sexual Fears

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Many of us have had multiple past lives, and often times have been both genders. You don’t have to go too far in the past on earth to see that women were not treated that well in the bedroom or outside of it. Chances are high you probably did not have great sexual experiences in your past lives (or even this one for that matter). On top of that, if you were a woman in a past life you very well could have had a miscarriage or died during childbirth.

So you know you have some fears in that area, what can you do about it?

Sex, childbirth and gender issues (as well as relationship issues) tend to be centered around the sacral charka, or abdominal area. Now if we are talking about death during childbirth or a violation sexually, then that is Root chakra, or safety. The root chakra is best described as the area at the base of your spine. I would recommend healing both of these chakras at the same time for sexual issues.

The color for sacral chakra is orange and coordinates with sunstone, orange calcite, or copper. Moonstone is great on this area as well. The color for root chakra is red. My favorites are red tiger eye, and red jasper (some black stones are excellent as well such as black tourmaline, onyx, and obsidian. Black is usually grounding stones. Steer clear of “magic” stones such as Merlinite and Nummite.).  Red tiger eye is best for sexual issues including arousal.

Ask God to send you healers to best help heal your past life and current life sexual issues. You can be more specific if you’d like or keep it general. If you are not comfortable with talking to God, I recommend asking Archangel Raphael and Jesus or Mary or Buddha. Then meditate with the crystals listed above and/or concentrate on orange and red.

Affirmations:

Affirmations said out loud or written down are extremely useful and quick way to open and heal your chakras. Say or write down three times for intention.

Sacral: “I relate to others with ease” (3x)

Root: “I am safe and protected” (3x)

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In a controlling or manipulative relationship?

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Many controlling relationships are to teach us to stand up for ourselves, that we have worth/deserve what we really want, and, you guessed it, to love ourselves. Why do you feel that you can’t stand up for yourself? Why did you get into the relationship to begin with? I’ve spoken to many women in the same position, and much of the time it is because they don’t have a job, fears of losing money/home, fears of arguments/separation going horribly wrong or because of kids. If they think they have something over you, they can use that against you, either directly spoken or indirectly implied. Sometimes it may all be in your mind, because of beliefs or fears in your subconscious/conscious. Whatever the reason is, it’s time to work on your solar plexus, and probably your throat chakra as well.

The Solar Plexus is right around your stomach (many people with control or manipulation issues have stomach issues such as overeating, anorexia, bulimia or addiction issues). The chakra color is yellow, so meditating with yellow stones such as citrine, yellow calcite, and angel wing calcite helps. You can also visualize yellow when you meditate. Ask your angels, ascended masters (Jesus, Mary, Buddha, etc) and/or God to help heal your solar plexus issues while meditating, in both past lives and current life.  If you don’t meditate, ask them to heal you overnight.

The throat chakra is at the bottom of your throat, and when out of balance you either don’t speak up enough or you talk too much. Similarly, someone who is overly controlling to others can have an out of balance solar plexus chakra. Do the same meditation and healing for the throat as you did for the solar plexus but with blue stones/crystals or by visualizing blue.

When you are being controlled it is often because you don’t love yourself enough to stand up for yourself, or you feel you can’t because of money, children, fear of change, etc. Each of these may be linked to subconscious fears, past lives or other levels best healed with Theta Healing. Feel free to contact me at www.feathersinfinity.com for a theta healing session.

Affirmations:

You can also heal your chakras by saying affirmations three times to yourself (saying them out loud or writing them down is best)

Solar Plexus Chakra Affirmation: “I Stand in My Unique Power.” (3x)

Throat Chakra Affirmation: “I Express My Truth” (3x)

An excellent book that I still refer to is “The Book of Chakra Healing” by Liz Simpson. It includes colors, yoga moves, crystals, archetypes, and affirmations for each chakra. The only thing she doesn’t include is sound frequencies to heal/clear chakras. There may be other resources for sound frequency healing using crystal bowls, tuning forks, and gongs to name a few.

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